The Final Answer.

Originally posted by Rodgort
For those who remember, I've made two threads explaining my situation right now. One about my grandfather, the other about my parents. This third and final thread explains the full truth of what's been happening now.

To start, about my grandfather, I mentioned he had cancer for 18 months and he was scheduled to pass soon. Well, he did. A week ago last Monday, my dad came to me at 10pm and told me he passed away at 2pm Central, which is 3pm Eastern for me. However, he passed away two days earlier than expected. There was nothing I could do. We were hundreds of miles apart, so I wasn't there for him.

To end, my parents are really going through with a divorce. I found a sticky note in my mom's wallet with a divorce lawyer's name, and she plans to move back to Canada, this time however in Vancouver. I'd rather stay with my dad, however, it will take about 3-4 years for our permenant residancy to get going.

My life has been a total sh*t hole right now, and I don't know what to do. No, I'm not going to kill myself or turn emo over this, but right now I'm under a lot of pressure and I could use some advice.

I understand how you feel. I really do, trust me. Usually when a couple divorce, child support is in process and that would cause bigger problems if one does not pay. It will be pretty hard for one parent to maintain you and luckily, you are at the age where you can make decisions, instead of being a naive 6 year old who cannot decide. I hope every thing goes good with you and hopefully this divorce does not affect you emotionally or mentally. It has affected me greatly and due to my parents divorce, this happened.

http://www.killermovies.com/forums/showthread.php?threadid=469052&pagenumber=4#post9797534

I like to use black mail.

Stay together or you both lose me. uhuh

Originally posted by Scythe
Hang in there, borrow our strengths to make it through.

Perfect, couldn't have put it better myself. This is what we're all really here for, right? To share ourselves with others.

Rodgort, I've been through parents getting divorced and I was about 8 when it happened so if you need to talk, feel free to PM me 🙂

I would like to thank everyone for their support and advice. I'll be taking it all to heart, and find a way to get through all this.

Originally posted by Rodgort
For those who remember, I've made two threads explaining my situation right now. One about my grandfather, the other about my parents. This third and final thread explains the full truth of what's been happening now.

To start, about my grandfather, I mentioned he had cancer for 18 months and he was scheduled to pass soon. Well, he did. A week ago last Monday, my dad came to me at 10pm and told me he passed away at 2pm Central, which is 3pm Eastern for me. However, he passed away two days earlier than expected. There was nothing I could do. We were hundreds of miles apart, so I wasn't there for him.

To end, my parents are really going through with a divorce. I found a sticky note in my mom's wallet with a divorce lawyer's name, and she plans to move back to Canada, this time however in Vancouver. I'd rather stay with my dad, however, it will take about 3-4 years for our permenant residancy to get going.

My life has been a total sh*t hole right now, and I don't know what to do. No, I'm not going to kill myself or turn emo over this, but right now I'm under a lot of pressure and I could use some advice.

That''s a sad thing to hear, may your grandfather rest in peace. And I hope the situation with your parents goes well.

My parents got a divorce when I was 12 years old, and it was so hard for me, I know how it feels, and just recently my favorite aunt passed away from cancer, and I just found out my grandmother has breast cancer.

If you ever need anyone to talk to, please, feel free to PM me. I understand how you feel.

I send my condolences about your grandfather.
And I am very sorry about your parents divorce, my parents are also divorced.

You can get through this.

sorry to hear about your troubles Rod

hope things get better

Originally posted by Röland
No offense to you Dadude, but who says that?

"If you must hurt yourself, don't cut b/c of scars, instead electrocute yourself."

I have several friends who went through a cutting stage and they were in similar circumstances as this dude. Sometimes, things like cutting can't be avoided. I thought long and hard about the reasons why people cut and I tried to think of an excellent alternative.

1. I told him NOT to cut.

2. I treated hurting yourself as a bad thing to do.

3. I came up with a more painful alternative that does not do any permanent damage so he can avoid embarrassing questions in the future.

4. Electrocution could very well be the much more painful alternative that may help a person get past the "hurt myself" stage a lot faster.

5. I am disturbed.

But think about it...someone else may read this thread and try the alternative and spare themselves from embarrassing scars. I could have also deterred this young man from cutting...which is a good thing, imo.

However, I don't expect a normal person to understand because I am not a normal person.

To answer the question in your post...I say those things...I am not an "in the box" thinker.

Originally posted by dadudemon
I have several friends who went through a cutting stage and they were in similar circumstances as this dude. Sometimes, things like cutting can't be avoided. I thought long and hard about the reasons why people cut and I tried to think of an excellent alternative.

1. I told him NOT to cut.

2. I treated hurting yourself as a bad thing to do.

3. I came up with a more painful alternative that does not do any permanent damage so he can avoid embarrassing questions in the future.

4. Electrocution could very well be the much more painful alternative that may help a person get past the "hurt myself" stage a lot faster.

5. I am disturbed.

But think about it...someone else may read this thread and try the alternative and spare themselves from embarrassing scars. I could have also deterred this young man from cutting...which is a good thing, imo.

However, I don't expect a normal person to understand because I am not a normal person.

To answer the question in your post...I say those things...I am not an "in the box" thinker.

Was just wondering. mmm

Originally posted by Syren
Perfect, couldn't have put it better myself. This is what we're all really here for, right? To share ourselves with others.

Well yeah. When we're born, I believe that we're all born with a certain amount of strength within us. Some have more than others, some have less. In someone's time of need, we can lend them our strength, as long as they give it back.