Originally posted by Devil King
I would venture the opinion that such a question hinges on the experience of being maried for a number of years, despite differences of religious or political proclivity, as well as being married for a short amount of time because those differences were the deciding factor in such a short relationship.
Also, I would like to add that one does not have to have a heterosexual "marriage" to contribute. I would say just about any long term relationship qualifies. Had a girlfriend/boyfriend for six months or more?...sounds good enough to me.
So, how are you going to raise your children? Having different and conflicting beliefs is what does a relationship in, in many cases.
Are they gonna be worm food, or are they going to go to heaven with their mom. Are they going to look down on dad? Are they going to try to save him? How are they going to vote?
Or will you do the smart thing?
Originally posted by Deja~vu
So, how are you going to raise your children? Having different and conflicting beliefs is what does a relationship in, in many cases.Are they gonna be worm food, or are they going to go to heaven with their mom. Are they going to look down on dad? Are they going to try to save him? How are they going to vote?
Or will you do the smart thing?
Given what his post said, it looks like they're going to do the most sensible thing and let their children make their own minds up.
Political and religious differences are as important in relationship as they are to the said person or people.
If religion makes a huge part of ones life and that differs drastically or affects the other person's beliefs or norms, than it is better steered clear of.
On the other hand, you wouldn't really be in a relationship with a person you really differ from on fundamentals.
My boyfriend is a Catholic, but since religion is his personal and own, it does not interfre with my beliefs or our relationship nor the ideas on how we would raise children, it presents no problem whatsoever.
Equally, I would probably not marry a Muslim since we would most probably differ on many fundamentals on ordinary life and raising of children. Plus, my family might get a heart attack if i ever did consider.
Originally posted by Deja~vu
So, how are you going to raise your children? Having different and conflicting beliefs is what does a relationship in, in many cases.Are they gonna be worm food, or are they going to go to heaven with their mom. Are they going to look down on dad? Are they going to try to save him? How are they going to vote?
Or will you do the smart thing?
I was raised Catholic. When I was twelve, my mom let me decide from that point on if I wanted to go to Church or not. I stopped going every weekend because I thought it was boring and I just wasn't buying it. I did go once in a while with my mom because it meant a lot to her when I did. So, I did it for dear old mom. She may not agree with my religious views, but we never even talk about it, we respect each other's opinions and beliefs and we still have a great relationship. She basically did the smart thing by letting me decide what I wanted to do, as is what my wife and I will do for our little Hikers.
Originally posted by =Tired Hiker=That is very smart of her, though not in HER best interest of her childerns eternal life. What about your dad and his views and comments to you about yours or your mothers beliefs?
I was raised Catholic. When I was twelve, my mom let me decide from that point on if I wanted to go to Church or not. I stopped going every weekend because I thought it was boring and I just wasn't buying it. I did go once in a while with my mom because it meant a lot to her when I did. So, I did it for dear old mom. She may not agree with my religious views, but we never even talk about it, we respect each other's opinions and beliefs and we still have a great relationship. She basically did the smart thing by letting me decide what I wanted to do, as is what my wife and I will do for our little Hikers.
Originally posted by Deja~vu
So, how are you going to raise your children? Having different and conflicting beliefs is what does a relationship in, in many cases.Are they gonna be worm food, or are they going to go to heaven with their mom. Are they going to look down on dad? Are they going to try to save him? How are they going to vote?
Or will you do the smart thing?
Define "the smart thing".
We will, most certainly, expose our child to our beliefs at the right age and inform her in an educated an non-biased manner.
I give less than a shit about "voting". It's not like it matters, anyway.
Originally posted by chillmeistergen
Given what his post said, it looks like they're going to do the most sensible thing and let their children make their own minds up.
Thank you, sir. My thoughts exactly.
Originally posted by Deja~vu
He didn't say that. Everything changes when a childs eternity comes into view...It just does.
Judging from your posts, you seem to be a Christian. You're looking at this in a biased manner. Come talk to me when you choose to debate in an otherwise manner.
Define "the smart thing".The smart thing is teaching them to make their own choices not upon either of your beliefs, but to come to their own conclusions. It seems that your beliefs are to oppositional and that will come into play once you have children.. Things change after that...it does.We will, most certainly, expose our child to our beliefs at the right age and inform her in an educated an non-biased manner
Judging from your posts, you seem to be a Christian. You're looking at this in a biased manner. Come talk to me when you choose to debate in an otherwise manner.Well, your observations are wrong! I lived through this scenario myself.
I wish you luck in the future.
Originally posted by Deja~vu
The smart thing is teaching them to make their own choices not upon either of your beliefs, but to come to their own conclusions. It seems that your beliefs are to oppositional and that will come into play once you have children.. Things change after that...it does.
"It does". Spoken so eloquently and from an educated point of view. If you read my above post, in which I actually agreed with chillmeister, you would be informed that I said EXACTLY what you just said. I plan to inform my child of my beliefs and her mother's beliefs in a non-biased and educated manner. Then we will let her explore her options and let her come to her own conclusions.
Originally posted by Deja~vu
Well, your observations are wrong! I lived through this scenario myself.I wish you luck in the future.
If, in fact, you're not a Christian, then what religion do you subscribe to that offers "eternal afterlife" as opposed to "worm food"?
I don't need "your luck", since it seems to be uneducated, uninformed and biased. I would offer you my sympathies, but I'm not going to waste my effort.