Should you marry someone who politically and religiously different than you?

Originally posted by chithappens
Yes, 80 % was a catious estimate because I did not want to offend other Southerners.

Like yourself, I can't someone who can not back up what they say. I can allow faith-based beliefs to slide if they know what they are talking about, but when she starts talking about her aunt dying and "gaining her wings as she looks down on you from heaven", I realize that she has never read anything from the book at all. If you know your stuff, that's one thing, but just being a "yes" person is unacceptable for someone I would find romantically compatiable with me.

So yeah, pigs do fly. The girl I just hooked up with (but I've known for near two years, just not in this capacity) is witty, very beautiful, mindful of how she carries herself, and so on. I met her on a college campus which makes the numbers seem to dwindle even more, but I'm a fortunate guy. I have high hopes with this one. There's no formula to it. Just have to be around. No tidbits on luck or "how to" booklet can help men like us.

So today there was this teacher retiring, and they got her a gift. She segued into an impromtu speech, and is a very religious lady. Without any thought for decorum, she began: "Anyone who doesn't believe in God needs to hear my story!" I lol'd a bit. Thankfully no one knows my religion there or the awkward stares would've been, well, awkward.

Anyway, the story, a personal anecdote (surprise!) was something about a heart attack to her sister a while ago and a doctor being in front of them at some show. He had just gotten tickets the night before or somesuch, and hadn't originally planned on going. Woot. She then worked it into the larger context of her life, retirement, and the friends around her. Not a bad speech on the spot. But also not a good religious proof. She should call Chicken Soup for the Soul with that one, not petition atheists to listen to it as evidence.

I'm not looking to date the teacher (she's in her 60's) but it's the same thing, and exists all over the place. I heard equally as unimpressive stories from the girl the other night as evidence for her beliefs ("but the Oijia board didn't burn!!"😉. I figured I'd share.

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Also, again, good luck with the girl. Sounds great.

🙂

Originally posted by =Tired Hiker=
Do you think having the same political and religious beliefs are important to a successful marriage? Is it bad for a very liberal person to spend a lifetime with someone who is very conservative? Should atheists only marry atheists? Or do opposites attract, and if they do, can you really depend on that as a solid foundation for a long lasting relationship?

I could never marry a Conservative, nor anyone religious. They'd drive me nuts. Opposites do attract, but I think religion and political beliefs to be too opposite, if there is such a thing.

Talk about extreme, LOL

I Married A Terrorist

Someone put this up as a note on Facebook titled, "letter to an ex-boyfriend":

If you know me, then you know who....Strait from the mouth of the VERY talented, Shellie Warren:

Though the companion of your choice was in all other respects worthy, yet he had not accepted the truth for this time, he is an unbeliever and you are forbidden of heaven to unite yourself with him.

To connect with an unbeliever is to place yourself on Satan’s ground. You grieve the Spirit of God and forfeit his protection.

There’s not much to say after that is there? For month now I’ve been grieving the loss of you and beggin and pleading with God to give me you. One day God led me to a passage out of a book, “How can you start off on the wrong foot and not expect to be on a crooked path’s journey?” You can’t, not without God’s help, and I obviously was not inquiring of Him as of what to do. If I had, I wouldn’t have experienced as much pain as I did.

I really loved you.

Despite the other women, the lies, the selfishness, the moodiness, the broken promises…I still loved you. When God finally revealed to me what love truly was about, I became confused. You mean love’s not supposed to hurt, I’m not designed to feel lack in a relationship, and love is actually a healthy thing?

But I loved you, and it felt anything but good. And if I’m really honest with myself, the only time I felt loved, wanted, desired, appreciated, was when you were in my bed. I thought we were making love, but what we were making was a mess. We used the illusion of sex to avoid pain. The pain of the disappointment from life’s experiences, the pain from abandonment of those closest to us, and the pain of the uncertainty of our future. For the brief moments of pleasure in a sexual relationship, we could escape reality.

What we did not realize is the law of nature, is that sex is designed to bond you to another, regardless of the circumstances. The more we hurt, the more sex we would have, and the bigger mess of our lives we would make. Now I was bonded to something God never gave me.
I simply took.
A year later I still get the shakes as if I’m a junkie getting off of coke. I know it’s no good for me, I know it’ll ultimately kill me, and yet sometimes I feel like I will do anything and risk anything for that one last hit.

God, I know he doesn’t love me as I deserve, I know he has other women. I know he’s not faithful to You, so how could I expect him to be faithful to me? I know all of this, God, but please influence him--- no, make him love me.

God would remain silent, and the eerie void was suffocating, so while an alcoholic runs to the battle, I would run back to you. Just one last conversation, one last kiss, one last night in your arms, and everything would be all right.

But it never was, and it never could be, because I was asking God for love and you’re not it. God promised me the desires of my heart, not the aid to my addiction. I was so fixated on you, I had forgotten what I asked God for way before there was a you.

Way back when my parents divorced, when I was introduced to Barbie and Ken dolls. Way back when a guy I had a crush on for six years told me that I was ugly.

Way back then, I asked God fro love, and He has shaken heaven, earth, my heart, and this relationship to deliver just that…

True love, and this aint it.

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I'm not even sure what that guy's issues had to do with religion 😂

Someone needs to stop playing the My Chemical Romance CD and take a bloody Zoloft...

People are probably unlikely to associate with others who have grossly incompatible views to their own politics or religion... so it's probably unlikely that the situation would arise too often...