Originally posted by quanchi112
Yes,as long as they are ok with it. What people do in their own relationships provided it hurts no one else is their own business.
No.
They must be controlled by an external authority for their own protection, they are too stupid to be allowed to run their own affairs entirely.
Speaking as someone who is:
1. spiritually faithful in God, my divine higher power
2. in a heterosexual marriage performed in a religious setting
3. a "teen" mother who married for the child and for God
4. a bisexual woman with strong cravings for both sexes
5. someone who HAS been cheated on and understands the hurt
6. someone who is currently in a deeply passionate open marriage with the one man who has ever accepted me as I am in life and loves me as I love him, without deciet or distrust being a continued force between us
A year ago I would have told you that marriage is a binding institution in which we make sacrifices for those we love because it will make them happy and therefore honor some higher purpose. I was avidly monogomous because that is how I was raised. My entire life I felt pressured to fit a mold. Well, I tried that mold in marriage and I nearly lost the man that I want to spend forever with. The funny thing was, while I was bitter at him for wanting to feed his ego a bit, I was secretly feeding my desires as well, which were not limited to an attraction to him.
At this time we are actively exploring an open marriage. We have rules. We have boundaries. But we accept each other as we are in a way that no other person would. His own words were,
"It's amazing how incredibly adapted you were to fit me."
Now if that is not a deep spiritual connection, I don't know what is. I have never seen so much love in his eyes.
Our reasoning is this: I want to feel open about sex and I like kinky things and I like women. Sorry, God's already forgiven me because that is how limitless his love is. My husband is incredibly masculine, but also incredibly young. His sex drive is outstanding and even at a rate of several times a day he needs more. I can only handle so much on my own. It is not a deep emotional thing for him. It is purely carnal. For me I become stunted when I inhibit my sexual appetite. We have agreed upon transparency and rules. I am actually 1000% more secure now than I was previously, and this is coming from someone with real abandonment issues. We both had issues coming into our marriage and by limiting each other we created more damage. Now we are finally free to heal as individuals, while growing as soul mates and life partners.
Should married people be allowed to sleep with other people?
Well, speaking as a single person, a widow after 10 months married, perhaps I am not qualified to answer this question. However, we're I to remarry again, and Russell Crowe happen to be lurking around my neighborhood, I might just be tempted to er... stray. lol
Seriously tho; I do believe that marriage should be for keeps, and exclusive. I mean, there's no shame these days to live together, and even to have children with a partner; so if one wanted to stray occasionally, why get married?
I don't get why those whom want an open relationship don't just live together.
During a marriage ceremony, whether a civil or church wedding, one promises to love honor and respect their spouse. Sleeping away from home isn't respecting one's spouse, whether they know about it or not. An open marriage wouldn't be something that I would want to enter into...