I think I've decided. I'm not gonna actually transition. I like being a physical man, I don't hate it like many transwomen do. So I'm gonna live as a man primarily, but still come out to my friends and family and socially try to live as a woman as much as I can. Sure, maybe that makes me the dreaded 'gender fluid' - but idc. I'm gonna be me as much as I can, and be honest with myself. Life is tough yknow, and I have to admit that I don't get it all really, and that I'm happy being a weirdo who doesn't conform, even if I wish I did. As long as I can mostly "pass" either way - tbh I've been living in drag since I was 11 or younger so it's all the same to me
Originally posted by Scribble
I think I've decided. I'm not gonna actually transition. I like being a physical man, I don't hate it like many transwomen do. So I'm gonna live as a man primarily, but still come out to my friends and family and socially try to live as a woman as much as I can. Sure, maybe that makes me the dreaded 'gender fluid' - but idc. I'm gonna be me as much as I can, and be honest with myself. Life is tough yknow, and I have to admit that I don't get it all really, and that I'm happy being a weirdo who doesn't conform, even if I wish I did. As long as I can mostly "pass" either way - tbh I've been living in drag since I was 11 or younger so it's all the same to me
I'm confused. It seems like you're going to dress like a man, but be a woman "socially". What does this mean? It sounds like you are just going to be behaving in a way you deem to be "womanly". But then you talk about how you've done drag.
So is it that you're going to dress and act like a woman, but not get any kind of surgery?
Originally posted by SurturI get it, it's confusing. But basically I'm gonna kind of do both - in a social sense, I'm going to dress and act female as much as possible, which is more in keeping with my personality, but in a professional sense stay male. So with close friends and family be my female self, my more 'true' self, but for now keep my male self in a professional sense, where I stay my suit-wearing male self. I work in education, so I don't want my female self to invade educational politics for now.
I'm confused. It seems like you're going to dress like a man, but be a woman "socially". What does this mean? It sounds like you are just going to be behaving in a way you deem to be "womanly". But then you talk about how you've done drag.So is it that you're going to dress and act like a woman, but not get any kind of surgery?
By me wearing drag, I mean that I feel like I wear drag every day - I pretend to be male in an overt way, I wear male clothing and act male despite the social gender I more closely identify with.
I'd rather just be a woman - but I wasn't born that way, and I didn't grow up that way, so I'm not just going to profess that I am, as women are more than just what they feel they are.
Does that help? Pls ask more of needed because I'm trying to figure this out too.