And to spread awareness that if you don't pass that well, some women might feel uncomfortable about you being in their bathroom, and that that isn't inherently transphobic. It's a fear that stems from a rational place of self-preservation. If a transperson can't handle that idea, they could probably do with therapy to assist their social understanding.
Originally posted by Scribble
I'm not advocating for people to use the bathroom of their biological sex, btw. I'm just outlining issues that people have raised about the idea. I personally don't know what to do about it other than include separate unisex toilet stalls that can be used by anyone and only accommodate one person at a time, so that the option is there.
my point is that i don't want to crap next to a woman or a trans-woman. this is not an inner debate i've had and came to a conclusion, we're talking basic gender-programmed reaction
Originally posted by Bashar TegThis is the thing: it's not really an attack. We need to stop seeing everything as an attack, because that is a simplistic and unhelpful way of approaching the issue.
doesn't matter, most of them use the restrooms they want and nobody knows the difference. it's really all about attacking poorly transitioned trans-women.
Originally posted by Bashar TegI've said nothing that indicates I think you should feel otherwise, I was just pointing out that I wasn't advocating for toilets segregated by biological sex.
my point is that i don't want to crap next to a woman or a trans-woman. this is not an inner debate i've had and came to a conclusion, we're talking basic gender-programmed reaction
I really do feel bad for transpeople who pass badly, but I think, as stated before about other issues, that therapy and healthy social conversation would help. There are loads of weird-looking people out there, and they just get by. There's a poor guy who gets the same train as me who has weird nodules all over his face and looks like he's always in extreme pain from them, he probs has it worse off than a lot of badly-passing trans peeps but he clearly gets by
Originally posted by Scribble
I really do feel bad for transpeople who pass badly, but I think, as stated before about other issues, that therapy and healthy social conversation would help. There are loads of weird-looking people out there, and they just get by. There's a poor guy who gets the same train as me who has weird nodules all over his face and looks like he's always in extreme pain from them, he probs has it worse off than a lot of badly-passing trans peeps but he clearly gets by
As a transgender person would your emotions be impacted if you had to use the men's room?