Maybe you guys can help me out a bit..

Originally posted by Ladyluck
I've been in a relationship for the past three years. I love him very much and just a few months ago he asked me to marry him and I said yes. We've always had issues, like I'm sure most couples do, but I really feel like it isn't working out.

We have some serious money issues. He hasn't had a job in just over a year and isn't really trying too hard to get one. I wouldn't mind so much if he was at least going to school but he isn't. He went for two years and doesn't even have enough credits to be considered finished first year. He is so damn smart but just smokes a lot of pot thus he is very lazy. I work in a department store, Winners (which I believe is TJ Maxx in the states), making minimum wage, which is barely enough to support one person, let alone two. He gives me crap when I want to buy something for myself complaining that we're always broke. Hello! We wouldn't be so damn broke if you had a job! Anyways, I'm about to turn 21 and I haven't even gone to college yet. I really, really want to go, but I feel like I can't because I have to work.

He is also quite controlling and jealous, which should probably be enough to break up with him right there. He gets so pissed when I want to hang out with my friends without him. He says that he loves me and wants to be with me all the time, but I'm sure he just wants to keep an eye on me. He kind of knows my friends aren't too fond of him.

The trouble I'm having here is I just love him so much, and he makes me really happy (most of the time). I know I should break up with him, and I did a few times, actually, but he always convinces me to take him back. Am I just a sucker? Maybe I just need a shove in the right direction. I'm curious to see what other people think about this situation.

Also, I hate Winners. Crap store. Go to college, start a career.

Originally posted by Bardock42
I thought we were playing a game of sorts.

It would seem we still are.

Originally posted by Ladyluck
I've been in a relationship for the past three years. I love him very much and just a few months ago he asked me to marry him and I said yes. We've always had issues, like I'm sure most couples do, but I really feel like it isn't working out.

We have some serious money issues. He hasn't had a job in just over a year and isn't really trying too hard to get one. I wouldn't mind so much if he was at least going to school but he isn't. He went for two years and doesn't even have enough credits to be considered finished first year. He is so damn smart but just smokes a lot of pot thus he is very lazy. I work in a department store, Winners (which I believe is TJ Maxx in the states), making minimum wage, which is barely enough to support one person, let alone two. He gives me crap when I want to buy something for myself complaining that we're always broke. Hello! We wouldn't be so damn broke if you had a job! Anyways, I'm about to turn 21 and I haven't even gone to college yet. I really, really want to go, but I feel like I can't because I have to work.

He is also quite controlling and jealous, which should probably be enough to break up with him right there. He gets so pissed when I want to hang out with my friends without him. He says that he loves me and wants to be with me all the time, but I'm sure he just wants to keep an eye on me. He kind of knows my friends aren't too fond of him.

The trouble I'm having here is I just love him so much, and he makes me really happy (most of the time). I know I should break up with him, and I did a few times, actually, but he always convinces me to take him back. Am I just a sucker? Maybe I just need a shove in the right direction. I'm curious to see what other people think about this situation.

Ask yourself this question:

"Will I find another guy like him? A guy that is fun and loving and cool to be with?"

Ask yourself that and if you say yes....go search for him.

Best of luck.

Originally posted by Ladyluck
I've been in a relationship for the past three years. I love him very much and just a few months ago he asked me to marry him and I said yes. We've always had issues, like I'm sure most couples do, but I really feel like it isn't working out.

We have some serious money issues. He hasn't had a job in just over a year and isn't really trying too hard to get one. I wouldn't mind so much if he was at least going to school but he isn't. He went for two years and doesn't even have enough credits to be considered finished first year. He is so damn smart but just smokes a lot of pot thus he is very lazy. I work in a department store, Winners (which I believe is TJ Maxx in the states), making minimum wage, which is barely enough to support one person, let alone two. He gives me crap when I want to buy something for myself complaining that we're always broke. Hello! We wouldn't be so damn broke if you had a job! Anyways, I'm about to turn 21 and I haven't even gone to college yet. I really, really want to go, but I feel like I can't because I have to work.

He is also quite controlling and jealous, which should probably be enough to break up with him right there. He gets so pissed when I want to hang out with my friends without him. He says that he loves me and wants to be with me all the time, but I'm sure he just wants to keep an eye on me. He kind of knows my friends aren't too fond of him.

The trouble I'm having here is I just love him so much, and he makes me really happy (most of the time). I know I should break up with him, and I did a few times, actually, but he always convinces me to take him back. Am I just a sucker? Maybe I just need a shove in the right direction. I'm curious to see what other people think about this situation.

You're silly to say yes when you're having doubts 😬 Think about it...you pay the bills whilst he sits around being a lazy douche...how do you know he didn't ask just so he could spend the rest of his life with you not for love but because he doesn't have to work as long as he has you around...

Just a though 😉

Originally posted by WhoopeeDee
Ask yourself this question:

"Will I find another guy like him? A guy that is fun and loving and cool to be with?"

Ask yourself that and if you say yes....go search for him.

Best of luck.

A guy who is a lazy bastard with no career aspirations who gets jealous and is controlling?

Yeah, ask yourself if you can find a gem like that anywhere else in the world? Go find him!!!

Its easy to judge from the outside, just as we are all doing.

But we dont know what kind of bond you two have. THe little things.

All you need to do is have long serious talks with him. Sort your shit out together if hes worth it.

Stop talking to us, we dont know shit

Originally posted by dadudemon
It would seem we still are.

Originally posted by Moosey
A guy who is a lazy bastard with no career aspirations who gets jealous and is controlling?

Yeah, ask yourself if you can find a gem like that anywhere else in the world? Go find him!!!

You just describe me....but I don't think she might be interested in me. I live too far.

Plus I drive a Yaris.

Originally posted by WhoopeeDee
You just describe me....but I don't think she might be interested in me. I live too far.

Plus I drive a Yaris.

You were so close to being my type until the yaris part 131

Originally posted by Moosey
A guy who is a lazy bastard with no career aspirations who gets jealous and is controlling?

Yeah, ask yourself if you can find a gem like that anywhere else in the world? Go find him!!!

😆 You sound pissed.

Originally posted by Mairuzu
Its easy to judge from the outside, just as we are all doing.

But we dont know what kind of bond you two have. THe little things.

All you need to do is have long serious talks with him. Sort your shit out together if hes worth it.

Stop talking to us, we dont know shit

True.

I have had huge talks with him. He says he'll change, but does he? Of course not.

Originally posted by WhoopeeDee
You just describe me....but I don't think she might be interested in me. I live too far.

Plus I drive a Yaris.

😂

Originally posted by Ladyluck
😆 You sound pissed.

True.

I have had huge talks with him. He says he'll change, but does he? Of course not.

😂

Hi! oh

I know i don't know the guy but i would say leave him. To me it just sounds like he's a bum. He has no excuse to not find a job. He can't blame school since hes not even going. Just doesn't sound like a promising future with him if you're the only one busting balls just to make ends meat.

Leave the dude, and if he really loves you, he'll clean his act. But don't go back to him. Don't let him tell you hes going to even he does find a job over night. Because he will most likely leave the job in less than one month, making up some excuse.

GO TO SCHOOL, forget him, you've probably given him a million chances. 3 years of this? You don't need it.

Originally posted by Ladyluck
😆 You sound pissed.

No no, not pissed. It's just dumb for you to waste another moment on this guy when there are those of us here in Ontario who have been lining up at the freaking door just to get a sniff of your hair and who wait out by the garbage every week hoping - HOPING to get something, ANYTHING, that you've touched....cutting out pictures from various models in magazines who share similar features that you do, just so we can have a goddamn mother******* picture of 'YOU' - all while this putrid piece of glue sniffing crap sits around, pulling his meat, making you do all the work and not appreciating a ******* thing you do, making us just want to gouge his eyes out with a cotton swab and piss in his eyeholes!!!!!!!!!!!! 😠

But uh, no....heh...not pissed.... 😗

Originally posted by Moosey
No no, not pissed. It's just dumb for you to waste another moment on this guy when there are those of us here in Ontario who have been lining up at the freaking door just to get a sniff of your hair and who wait out by the garbage every week hoping - HOPING to get something, ANYTHING, that you've touched....cutting out pictures from various models in magazines who share similar features that you do, just so we can have a goddamn mother******* picture of 'YOU' - all while this putrid piece of glue sniffing crap sits around, pulling his meat, making you do all the work and not appreciating a ******* thing you do, making us just want to gouge his eyes out with a cotton swab and piss in his eyeholes!!!!!!!!!!!! 😠

But uh, no....heh...not pissed.... 😗

😆

😊

trust me, the best advice you can take is mine!

Originally posted by Ladyluck
😆

😊

Btw, I really like what you are wearing today.

Go to the window and wave so I can see you?

😛

Originally posted by Moosey
No no, not pissed. It's just dumb for you to waste another moment on this guy when there are those of us here in Ontario who have been lining up at the freaking door just to get a sniff of your hair and who wait out by the garbage every week hoping - HOPING to get something, ANYTHING, that you've touched....cutting out pictures from various models in magazines who share similar features that you do, just so we can have a goddamn mother******* picture of 'YOU' - all while this putrid piece of glue sniffing crap sits around, pulling his meat, making you do all the work and not appreciating a ******* thing you do, making us just want to gouge his eyes out with a cotton swab and piss in his eyeholes!!!!!!!!!!!! 😠

But uh, no....heh...not pissed.... 😗

Originally posted by Mairuzu
too much truman show for you haermm

Hehehe...yeah....love that movie though.

That's me though, sitting with my Cosmo and In Fashion magazines, trying to make a composite LadyLuck....

Originally posted by Ladyluck

We have some serious money issues. He hasn't had a job in just over a year and isn't really trying too hard to get one. I wouldn't mind so much if he was at least going to school but he isn't. He went for two years and doesn't even have enough credits to be considered finished first year. He is so damn smart but just smokes a lot of pot thus he is very lazy. I work in a department store, Winners (which I believe is TJ Maxx in the states), making minimum wage, which is barely enough to support one person, let alone two. He gives me crap when I want to buy something for myself complaining that we're always broke. Hello! We wouldn't be so damn broke if you had a job! Anyways, I'm about to turn 21 and I haven't even gone to college yet. I really, really want to go, but I feel like I can't because I have to work.

He is also quite controlling and jealous, which should probably be enough to break up with him right there. He gets so pissed when I want to hang out with my friends without him. He says that he loves me and wants to be with me all the time, but I'm sure he just wants to keep an eye on me. He kind of knows my friends aren't too fond of him.

The trouble I'm having here is I just love him so much, and he makes me really happy (most of the time). I know I should break up with him, and I did a few times, actually, but he always convinces me to take him back. Am I just a sucker? Maybe I just need a shove in the right direction. I'm curious to see what other people think about this situation.

TRUST ME, Ive been married twice and one of them was the carbon copy of your bf. Those "problems and character traits" will never, EVER change. No matter how much you love him, he will always be what he is right now. The sad fact of the matter is IF this idiot loved you the way you should be loved, he'd have gotten up off his ass and got a job and become a productive part of the relationship a long time ago.

In case you didnt hear me the first time, HE WILL NOT CHANGE. He has no reason to.
Kick this guy to the curb and move on. You will find someone who is deserving of your love.

Originally posted by ~JP~
[b]TRUST ME, Ive been married twice and one of them was the carbon copy of your bf. Those "problems and character traits" will never, EVER change. No matter how much you love him, he will always be what he is right now. The sad fact of the matter is IF this idiot loved you the way you should be loved, he'd have gotten up off his ass and got a job and become a productive part of the relationship a long time ago.

In case you didnt hear me the first time, HE WILL NOT CHANGE. He has no reason to.
Kick this guy to the curb and move on. You will find someone who is deserving of your love. [/B]

Wha--what are you trying to say.

Be more clear.