Territorial Pissings

Originally posted by Selphie
I think that if a woman is comfortable with showing off some cleavage, that's fine. For some of us girls, it's hard to NOT show cleavage. If you're comfortable with showing some, cool, showing a lot, cool, showing none, cool. You have to always think about yourself to an extent.

I know some girls take it to the extreme when it comes to these issues, but men do as well. Do not stop showing cleavage just because you have a boyfriend. I mean, be comfortable, don't feel restricted, you shouldn't. It's your life, do what you want. If your boyfriend has issues, talk. Or else find someone comfortable with what you wear. Like I said earlier, both sexes can take it to the extremes.

Other men are going to look at 'your woman' all the time. If she's naturally attractive, they are going to look regardless of her having cleavage out or not. And it's not always JUST men lusting over a woman's cleavage. It's impossible to get everyone's eyes off of your significant other. That's just my opinion.

1). I know plenty of girls who are well-endowed that don't have cleavage hanging out. Low-cut tops aren't your only option.

2). Precisely, talk it out. If you're still dressing in manners that are intended to attract males while you have a boyfriend, intended or not, you need to consider that. It's like when porn stars have kids, they have to consider what appearances they're gonna be giving. Compromise is necessary in life sometimes.

If a man is overbearing and demanding, don't deal with it. If it's a civil point like I have made, or Dudemon has made, why does it warrant being shown the door?

3). My point was, AGAIN, if they're gonna look anyway and it upsets your man, you can help that.

-AC

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
1). I know plenty of girls who are well-endowed that don't have cleavage hanging out. Low-cut tops aren't your only option.

2). Precisely, talk it out. If you're still dressing in manners that are intended to attract males while you have a boyfriend, intended or not, you need to consider that. It's like when porn stars have kids, they have to consider what appearances they're gonna be giving. Compromise is necessary in life sometimes.

If a man is overbearing and demanding, don't deal with it. If it's a civil point like I have made, or Dudemon has made, why does it warrant being shown the door?

3). My point was, AGAIN, if they're gonna look anyway and it upsets your man, you can help that.

-AC

Well, I wasn't really addressing you in specific, so... don't think I was. Obviously low cut tops aren't your only options, but why limit yourself to t-shirts and sweaters? It's just a hard topic for both opposite sexes to discuss, do to one sex having the breasts, one not. I don't flaunt mine off much personally, but trust me, it's a real drag when you're covered up to the neck all the time.

And even if you wore non-revealing shirts, men can still see the shape of the breasts on a normal top, and see if they are bigger breasts or not. Personally, I don't need to see cleavage to be interested in a woman's breasts. So it's still a possible issue with your man, having people check you out, regardless of you not flaunting. Anyone just has to accept that people will look, and you just have to trust that your partner won't stray, if they dress very conservatively, or not.

We can just agree to disagree srug

Fair points.

-AC

I like it when my girl wears revealing clothes, so I can be like "Look what I got!"- It's fun to make people jealous.

But I was about to fight this one guy who grabbed her ass one time, only reason I didn't is because my gf kept getting in between us. But that was a long time ago.

Originally posted by Peach
Actually, people say that sort of thing all the time. If a girl dresses in the least bit sexily, they're a whore and were asking for anything that happens afterwards. It's a completely disgusting attitude that I hugely take exception to. And DDM's first post where he throws "hooker" and "whore" all over the place certainly edged close to it.

Which you obviously didn't pay attention to or else you would have seen the following:

Originally posted by dadudemon
I say moderation. You can look sexy, but not look like a whore, at the same time.

Not only that, my post included both genders, not just females.

And, reading subsequent posts of mine, especially the one about the photos, would reveal exactly what I'm talking about. You can't pass off my post for something it wasn't.

Edit - Holy Frac, just read more of the thread. AC already took care of things.

Originally posted by Insomniatric
I like it when my girl wears revealing clothes, so I can be like "Look what I got!"- It's fun to make people jealous.

But I was about to fight this one guy who grabbed her ass one time, only reason I didn't is because my gf kept getting in between us. But that was a long time ago.

You can't be like: "Yeah, look at my girl, she's so hot.", then want to smash with anyone who does.

-AC

Originally posted by Insomniatric
I like it when my girl wears revealing clothes, so I can be like "Look what I got!"- It's fun to make people jealous.

But I was about to fight this one guy who grabbed her ass one time, only reason I didn't is because my gf kept getting in between us. But that was a long time ago.

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
You can't be like: "Yeah, look at my girl, she's so hot.", then want to smash with anyone who does.

-AC

Word.

Originally posted by Fallen
i understand that females can be just as territorial as men, but i never agreed with a male attempting to gain a foothold on what his female partner should or shouldn't wear. for example, there are males out there who don't like the idea of their girlfriends wearing anything provocative or sexy in public on the premise that he does not want her attracting unwanted attention. i'm a firm believer in "if you have it, flaunt it." i don't think there is any shame in a female showing appreciation for her own body as long as she feels confident and comfortable in how she chooses to portray herself. i personally don't like the thought of a male telling me what i can and cannot wear.

further more, i believe the same applies to girls who want to pursue modeling because they've been gifted with an attractive face and attractive body. they are only embracing what nature has given them. what right does a male have to object?

what's the real psychology behind these male objections? is it simply just a male being territorial or does it border on insecurity and self-esteem issues? if so, why should the female endure the male projecting his own self-esteem issues onto her?

I think I have every right to ask someone I'm dating not to wear wool because I think I may have a mild allergy and I get insanely itchy if hugged, even through a layer of clothing.

Also, there is such a thing as weight-appropriate clothing. Some men and women have this counter-intuitive idea that wearing shit that's 3 sizes two small hides the fact that they're not as thin as they used to be and that everybody's body has different proportions. One or two sizes and the style of a shirt can be the difference between your girlfriend having a cute bit of a tummy and a gunt hanging out.

And yes, I said "gunt". uh-huh-huh-huh.

Evidence- www.peopleofwalmart.com

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
You can't be like: "Yeah, look at my girl, she's so hot.", then want to smash with anyone who does.

-AC

Man like I said it was a long time ago, and I knew the dude that was grabbing on her, and me and him weren't exactly friends- let's just say.

Originally posted by dadudemon
Which you obviously didn't pay attention to or else you would have seen the following:

Not only that, my post included both genders, not just females.

And, reading subsequent posts of mine, especially the one about the photos, would reveal exactly what I'm talking about. You can't pass off my post for something it wasn't.

Damn.

I was a prick back in the day.

hmm

Obviously, you need to wear a hoodie and then you're good. Bam, not a whore.

Christ, there are some bad arguments here. Really bad.

Originally posted by dadudemon
Damn.

I was a prick back in the day.

hmm

j/k... maybe 😖hifty:

Look at AC just happily perpetuating rape culture all over the place. Can't believe I didn't notice before. Holy cow.