Sex addict test.

Originally posted by Digi
Here's the bottom line. If you go absolute, several questions say absolutely nothing about disposition toward sexual addiction. Nothing at all.

Here's the problem: you think they should when maybe they shouldn't. Maybe it can also show you that you're asexual. Who knows? Don't add context and interpretation and answer directly. You'll get a 3, probably.

Originally posted by Digi
That 45-year-old that you think should say yes to the minors question...what in **** does that tell us that's useful about that guy? Nothing.

Answering yes may tell you that you're normal. Answering no may tell you that you're obviously lying unless you hit puberty at 22. There are more interpretations than just the one you want it to be.

Originally posted by Digi
That he had a crush when he was 16? Is that a medically or sociologically relevant point? Why should we include that?

16 is not a "minor", even in some US States. I'd use a younger number to fit within the "spirit" of what you think the question is really (or not really) asking.

Originally posted by Digi
They should disambiguate.

I agree.

Originally posted by Digi
But I think your interpretations are needlessly literal,

Not true. I came out "normal" when taking them as literally as possible.

Originally posted by Digi
to the point that the test becomes meaningless.

Again, not true at all. Some questions may carry more weight (but the algorithm used to tally your results and to a real trained professional) and there is no way they can be interpreted as being "okay" with any twist of words.

Originally posted by Digi
More than anything, I think we're just talking about a deeply flawed test.

It is not a deeply flawed test. Flawed in some ways, yes. It would not help a person in denial: that's obvious. It would not help a person that thinks their sexual behavior is perfectly normal or is unashamed of it when they clearly should stop.

Originally posted by Digi
Because if we start breaking down the questions linguistically, we'd be forced to take some of your interpretations.

No, just 3-5 of them, you'd have to answer yes instead of no.

Bumping this, it may have gotten lost on the last page as you replied.

Originally posted by dadudemon
Can you honestly say that your sexuality has created no problems, ever, for you and your family? I mean...not even a single problem? If you're a human and have parents, it has created a problem at one time or another.

Like, having the sex talk? It was awkward. But no, not problems. I wouldn't spank it in front of my mom, but it's never been an issue or "problem" in the family. My sex life isn't dinner conversation, of course, but again, I don't see that as a problem, just normal behavior.

Originally posted by dadudemon
Has anyone been emotionally hurt because of your sexual behavior? Did you ask for a BJ and get rejected by someone you didn't know was feminist? 😐 That's just one of thousand of examples I can think of that could cause emotional hurt.

I'm friends with most of my ex's, including a feminist.

Originally posted by dadudemon
And you've never used the internet for romantic purposes? That's..pretty much a yes for any person (that's not poor poor) born after 1980.

Oh sure, I look at porn on the internet. It's the only thing that put me at a 1 last time.

Originally posted by dadudemon
Basically, I think you're quite the example of social desirability bias. You did not answer the questions correctly if you got a 1...and are sexually normal.

Double edit - Took the test again and got a 3. I answered the questions as seriously and directly as possible. Since I grew up in a conservative background and did not "rebel and act out" after leaving the nest, that's probably about as low as it can get. A real professional would ask other questions and they would be more direct, with context.

Maybe they would provide context of how I'm supposed to answer them, or what constitutes the boundaries of each question.

I took it again as well, being as serious as I could. I got a 0 (even though I thought I had 1 more "yes" than last time, which is weird...not sure what changed). And I had sex as recently as yesterday.

srug

Originally posted by dadudemon
There are more interpretations than just the one you want it to be.

...our debate in a nutshell, because the same is true in reverse. Just way too much ambiguity. Though I dislike the implication of "the one you want it to be." It implies that I'm searching for a particular outcome. I'm not. I'm just trying to answer truthfully.

Originally posted by Digi
...our debate in a nutshell, because the same is true in reverse.

The same is not true in reverse because I offered multiple interpretations and I still continue to never claim one absolute interpretation. Just simply answering "yes" is not absolute: there are multiple reasons to answer yes and I've fleshed some of those out.

Originally posted by Digi
Though I dislike the implication of "the one you want it to be." It implies that I'm searching for a particular outcome. I'm not.

I don't understand how that's an "implication": I've very directly stated that and even gave it a label. I did not beat around the bush about it.

Originally posted by Digi
I'm just trying to answer truthfully.

Is it really "truthfully", though? You yourself admit there are multiple ways to interpret and answer the questions. So we are back to what I said: "Basically, I think you're quite the example of social desirability bias."

Originally posted by Digi
Bumping this, it may have gotten lost on the last page as you replied.

I wasn't given a chance to reply: I had to go to work.

Originally posted by Digi
Like, having the sex talk? It was awkward. But no, not problems.

No...that's not what I was talking about, at all. That's a strange way to interpret what I said. It is any "problem" at all.

Originally posted by Digi
I wouldn't spank it in front of my mom, but it's never been an issue or "problem" in the family.

Why even bring something like that up? 😘

Originally posted by Digi
My sex life isn't dinner conversation, of course, but again, I don't see that as a problem, just normal behavior.

Why would it be? But you don't have to talk about it in order for them to have some sort of knowledge.

You may have been born in a family that very rarely talks about personal stuff/interacts: there are tons of those families out there. But the chances of your parents or any family not having a single problem with anything sexual you did or are doing are pretty much 0. I think the question is a dummy question designed to illicit a response to the guilty minded or could function as a baseline question.

Originally posted by Digi
I'm friends with most of my ex's, including a feminist..

This is what I read from the above: "My response is anything that makes it so I can be right."

But I don't feel comfortable talking about your exes and I did not want to talk about that either. My point was rather rhetorical.

Originally posted by Digi
Oh sure, I look at porn on the internet. It's the only thing that put me at a 1 last time.

That's non sequitur to the section you quoted. But, if you cannot separate pronz from romantic internet relationships, your score is probably much more comfortable at 11. uhuh

Originally posted by Digi
Maybe they would provide context of how I'm supposed to answer them, or what constitutes the boundaries of each question.

They definitely would. However, they don't all agree on every point.

Originally posted by Digi
I took it again as well, being as serious as I could. I got a 0 (even though I thought I had 1 more "yes" than last time, which is weird...not sure what changed). And I had sex as recently as yesterday.

srug

There are at least 3 questions that should have been a yes that you definitely answered no to. 😐 I've listed them already. How did I get a 3 when I have never done anything "bad" in my life?

Also, good job. 😄

Originally posted by dadudemon
The same is not true in reverse because I offered multiple interpretations and I still continue to never claim one absolute interpretation. Just simply answering "yes" is not absolute: there are multiple reasons to answer yes and I've fleshed some of those out.

And I disagree. Ambiguity is ambiguity. I don't consider myself to have many of the problems you mentioned.

Originally posted by dadudemon
I don't understand how that's an "implication": I've very directly stated that and even gave it a label. I did not beat around the bush about it.

Well, it's wrong. I can tell you straight-up that I have no compulsion to be socially acceptable on an anonymous internet test. It's an odd accusation, especially when you're repeatedly being told the opposite by the person you're accusing.

Originally posted by dadudemon
Is it really "truthfully", though? You yourself admit there are multiple ways to interpret and answer the questions. So we are back to what I said: "Basically, I think you're quite the example of social desirability bias."

See, but I'm not basing my answers on what is socially acceptable. I'm basing them off of what I believe is the truest representation of a tendency toward sexual addiction.

Originally posted by dadudemon
I wasn't given a chance to reply: I had to go to work.

Ok. I wasn't accusing anything, I just didn't want the response lost.

Originally posted by dadudemon
No...that's not what I was talking about, at all. That's a strange way to interpret what I said. It is any "problem" at all.

I'm not sure how else to take it. I don't automatically know what problems you're speaking of outside the examples you've given, and I perceive none on my own.

Originally posted by dadudemon
Why even bring something like that up? 😘

Hey, someone's junk probably wiggled at that sentence. Incest porn is bizarrely popular.

Originally posted by dadudemon
You may have been born in a family that very rarely talks about personal stuff/interacts: there are tons of those families out there. But the chances of your parents or any family not having a single problem with anything sexual you did or are doing are pretty much 0. I think the question is a dummy question designed to illicit a response to the guilty minded or could function as a baseline question.

Again, would my mom be uncomfortable talking about my sexual habits? Sure. If pressed, would she label any of the practices as problems? I don't think so.

Originally posted by dadudemon
This is what I read from the above: "My response is anything that makes it so I can be right."

Jesus. I'm not trying to be "right" in some lame internet-victory way. You're really trying to project all sorts of motivations onto me.

Originally posted by dadudemon
But I don't feel comfortable talking about your exes and I did not want to talk about that either. My point was rather rhetorical.

Again, I don't know of any problems that I've encountered, so I'm really only working with your examples.

Originally posted by dadudemon
That's non sequitur to the section you quoted. But, if you cannot separate pronz from romantic internet relationships, your score is probably much more comfortable at 11. uhuh

Oops. It gets tricky remembering what quotes are referring to what original point, especially when the discussion is protracted over several months.

Originally posted by dadudemon
There are at least 3 questions that should have been a yes that you definitely answered no to. 😐 I've listed them already. How did I get a 3 when I have never done anything "bad" in my life?

Again, I'd question the validity of a test where certain answers are preordained. Saying something like "maybe it shows you're being truthful" is problematic. It's presupposing a point to the test other than what is stated. Thus, the test is inherently misleading, withholding information on the nature and purpose of the questions. While this might be acceptable for an in-person test where the tester could disambiguate, we're talking about an anonymous internet test that doesn't disambiguate. So, do you really think the test is testing us to see if we're lying based on a vague question? Or do you think it's testing for sexual tendencies (my view)? I find the former to be the FAR bigger assumption or interpretation. For an example, I still don't think you've providing a compelling reason why a well-adjusted 45-year-old man should say yes to the minors question. Don't you think his current sexual state is more important to dissect than his state from half a lifetime ago? It tells us nothing about his sexual state, and if he's not being truthful the whole test is moot anyway. There's literally no reasonable way he should answer yes, unless he wants to get erroneously put on a government watch list.

I scored a 4.

What happened to me?

n. Your answers HAVE MET a score on a basis of six criteria that indicate sex addiction is present. SCORE IS 12 😮

13

not a shocker

Ya all Fuged Up!

Gotta 5.

I got a 3.😉

I got a 2. Some of the questions were vague, like "Have you engaged in unsafe or "risky" sex even though you knew it could cause you harm? "

I don't know what kind of harm they meant, but if they were talking about sleeping with a girl without protection then I would fall under a "yes" so I put yes.

Though to be fair..I've been medicated for like a decade so it tends to kill your sex drive when you are taking certain meds. Actually though, it's quite a weird experience because sometimes the medications I am on do not hinder but help, there is one where if I take it...well you can have sex for like 45 minutes straight without stopping, and I'm talking...even if before you were the type who'd cream your pants before you even got the chance to bang a chick..these pills would let you last long. So I take back saying the meds kill the sex drive, they just drastically alter it sometimes.

I got 8, but yeah a lot of the questions are too vaguely defined

Only a 4.

That's disappointing

I got 11

but I think it would have been higher, if like Scribs said, the questions weren't so vaguely defined mmm

10

i got 0...ZERO awesrug i also blame the questions. i answered no to most of them.

I am unsure about you lot but a lot of those questions went that vague

Guys i am not going to lie

i could blow out a total 20 right here and now

when i did it, i even tried to get 20 but i could only get 18

they said i need to see a therapist, but i haven't seen the test 😑