Originally posted by Bardock42
No, I don't think that even if there actually are female and male traits (and I am definitely not talking about the common stereotypes of female = emotional, weak, etc. - male = tough, logical, etc.) it should and is not insulting to a man. For a women to be tough and logical, is not necessarily insulting, admittedly it may be threatening and many men (and women) will feel she has to be "put in her place", but that is exactly what I am talking about.
Calling someone logical is very hard to pull off as a sexist insult.
"YOU! YOU! YOU LOGICAL HEAD!"
"GASPITY! YOU SEXIST BASTARD!"
That's definitely not what is being talked about. It doesn't work.
"Tough?" Not so much. Yeah, it's generally not cool for women to be tough, meaning, eat worms for 20 bucks, stab yourself with rusty nails, etc. That's not logical stuff, either.
Originally posted by Bardock42
And before you say what we discussed about RJ's chivalry in particular (but of course every chivalry in general), you are right that we have a shallow conception of treasuring the feminine, but only in a possessive, "they could never help themselves, they are weak and stupid" way.
Nah, not that, at all. Feminine traits are delicious, sexually: soft, not very hairy, not possessing a strong BO, softer features, soft voice, curves, full lips, smooth hands, etc. These are nice breeding traits because they appeal to our primal sides. These are feminine traits that are not becoming of a man. Granted, BO is looked at as bad in many cultures, but lots of feminine traits are still looked at in the same manner. These traits are almost universally appealing on a women, but not on a man. It is not sexist to look for traits like these in women: that's what we are programmed to do. It is not sexist to consider a man less manly when you, symbolically, assign those traits to men. It's meant as an insult to men and NOT women: it is explicitly an compliment to most women.
Originally posted by Bardock42
If we insult men by ascribing negative female traits with things like "Oh you are a little sissy girl" or "Gee, are you on your period" or "Don't be such a *****" or even inversely "Come on, be a man!" we are being sexist, we put down women and elevate manliness.
But, you see, why is it bad for a female to be emotional? You're assuming that it's bad to be those things when I do not view them as such. Sure, maybe in your skewed sexist view of the sexes, those traits are bad, universally. I find them attractive on a female but it makes me dislike on males. I find girly girls sexy. Of course, a girly man is certainly not tolerable when you're working outside: a girly girl isn't much fun, either...besides the sweat on her chest. mmhmmm! (Survey shows that a majority of women find a sweaty man attractive when he's working out, so that wasn't a sexist statement: it seems to appeal to a majority of both sexes. I guess it is because it shows some sort of "primal" health or something.)
Originally posted by Bardock42
I do believe that there may be factual differences between males and females, however I don't think the ones that are commonly used to insult men are female traits, but rather a stereotype ingrained into us by society. Additionally even if it would be applicable (in a neutral society) to more women, we are still generalizing wrongly and exclude the individual.By using these to put down men we a) put down women (as society definitely favours its own conception of masculinity) and b) further the wrong and frankly bad stereotypes.
I would say that femininity is praised and sought after much more than masculinity.
These days, though, it's becoming more acceptable to not have such asymmetric gender roles.
Originally posted by Bardock42
Though, again, I should make it clear that I don't think Darth Jello is sexist, or that he did it on purpose, like I said we are all so brainwashed by society we don't even think about what the implications of what we say are. And again, I do not want to take me out of this, I use terms like "pussy" and "*****" way too often, I try to stop it completely though as I realized the sexist implications I further with it.
Telling someone that they are acting like a ***** more or less means that they are a female dog that is being overly territorial/grumpy right after she had a litter of puppies. Seems very applicable in many situations.
Calling someone a p*ssy refers to a cat, I thought: small cats are very skittish and afraid of everything. Seems very fitting in some situations. I think some people confuse calling someone a p*ssy with that of the vag version: it does not compute. I don't even understand how that can compute in their heads.
Originally posted by Bardock42
Of course we could discuss the pros and cons of such self censorship and whether you give the words even more power by making them more inappropriate, see "******" for example, but on the whole I think a more conscious understanding of what we say is favorable.And lol, I just realized I'm taking a rather different view on the subject than Lenny Bruce there earlier.
Indeed. I say we claim those words for a new definition of something good. That way we not only depower them, we re-empower them with new meaning. lol