I think whatever biological differences in different genders there are, are at the very least severally exacerbated by the social aspects... as far as the biological differences, we should be trying to minimize their effects, not increase them. People are sexually mature after puberty, but I don't see people arguing this "proves" we should be be getting married then like we might have 2000 years ago. Thankfully we are not bound to keep doing things in line with our caveman ancestors.
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It works better with an example:
We don't get angry at male birds for protecting the nest while the female "stays at home" "raising the kids." No, I'm not advocating that female humans stay home and raise kids. lol.... In fact, If I could get my wife to make enough money, I would LOVE to be a stay at home dad and raise my kids.
For some reason though most women find the MR. Mom thing completely abhorrent and see the man as being lazy. I would I concur would like to do that to. Seen too many women say oh, no he's going out getting a job and a paycheck and then turn around and pay 400 a week in childcare taking up most of that paycheck.
One wonders how that is worth it.
Originally posted by YankeeWhaler
.It works better with an example:
We don't get angry at male birds for protecting the nest while the female "stays at home" "raising the kids." No, I'm not advocating that female humans stay home and raise kids. lol.... In fact, If I could get my wife to make enough money, I would LOVE to be a stay at home dad and raise my kids.For some reason though most women find the MR. Mom thing completely abhorrent and see the man as being lazy. I would I concur would like to do that to. Seen too many women say oh, no he's going out getting a job and a paycheck and then turn around and pay 400 a week in childcare taking up most of that paycheck.
One wonders how that is worth it.
When things were bad and my ex husband was out of work.. I took a job on a set. However he did not take care of our kids very well. I still had to clean the mess he made. Walked in at the wee hours of the morning ( 2am) and had to be back to the set by 8am. Many times I walked in on him having his friends over for a card game. they made so such a racket that I couldnt get to sleep! I use to scream loud to go home or shut up, but they didnt care.
my kids were never dressed or fead well the house was never that clean and the wash was never done. OMG if he did cook, the dishes were in the sink for days. he did go food shopping he did do that pretty good.
oh and my daughter's homework was never done.. deff more orderly when he got back to work...
Originally posted by YankeeWhaler
.It works better with an example:
We don't get angry at male birds for protecting the nest while the female "stays at home" "raising the kids." No, I'm not advocating that female humans stay home and raise kids. lol.... In fact, If I could get my wife to make enough money, I would LOVE to be a stay at home dad and raise my kids.For some reason though most women find the MR. Mom thing completely abhorrent and see the man as being lazy. I would I concur would like to do that to. Seen too many women say oh, no he's going out getting a job and a paycheck and then turn around and pay 400 a week in childcare taking up most of that paycheck.
One wonders how that is worth it.
Originally posted by King Kandy
When I was born, my mom quit her job to raise me at home, for a few years... after which, she went back to work and it was my dad who quit to be a stay-at-home dad. That seems fair to me.
It may be fair, but it could possibly lead to the family having less money overall, no?
Originally posted by Bardock42
It may be fair, but it could possibly lead to the family having less money overall, no?
Originally posted by King Kandy
Oh, sure. I'm talking about if you're in a situation where you're able to do so. Obviously, your first priority is to care for your child in the physical sense, and if that requires both parents working than that's what you'll have to do.
yes, when kids are young, it's ok, but when they start school I find it get much harder for both to leave the home for work.
And someone needs to be home when they get home in the teenage years..
Originally posted by alltoomany
yes, when kids are young, it's ok, but when they start school I find it get much harder for both to leave the home for work.And someone needs to be home when they get home in the teenage years..
I want to be cool like Bardock42 by answering questions not asked of me.
Originally posted by alltoomany
Tell me what would have YOU done when you were a teenager after school knowing your mom and dad were at work?
What I DID: worked out, play sports (school sponsored), watched cartoons, played video games (N64 and Gamecube), and made food (and ate it!).
Note: Homework is NOT on that list. That was only for the next day...the hour before it was due.