Originally posted by Digi
Then you lack some fundamental understand of the nature of human autonomy and dignity, and our ability to be offended by something that is possible or that is planned even if it hasn't happened yet.
No, you simply lack (lacked? you know, now, I believe...if you need more explanation, I could assist) an understanding of what it means or entails. Also consider that you are generally wrong about my stance because I said the following:
"This does not mean, however, that I encourage or even support the posthumously baptism of people when the surviving family objects to it...the exact opposite."
I think my strong words against the Mormons who do so should be indicative enough of how I feel about their actions. Sure, I object to the anti-posthumous rites positions on rhetorical grounds , but not literally.
Just to settle things concerning that topic: I would never ever ever ever do the rites for a person when their family did not want it done. Just because I argue that it is virtually pointless whether or not it is done does not mean that I would actually do or encourage doing it against families' wishes.
Originally posted by Digi
The idea that someone can exert control over any aspect of our lives, which we do not allow willingly, is deeply offending to many on a purely non-religious level. That you can't see this disturbs me somewhat.
You demonstrate that you misunderstand the rite if you think any form of control is exerted over any aspect of another's life. I could say that by some perspectives, it is extremely and horribly offending to think an atheist should demand the rites not be performed: you neither believe they are binding nor do you believe in the subsistence of life after death. Your objections can only be petty, mean, cruel, and vindictive...again, from some perspectives on it. To some Mormons, you are depriving your family members of extreme blessings and privileges: among the highest in the eternities. They would consider that cruel, vindictive, and petty. I partially agree...but then I can easily remind them, "You believe in the millennial reign, right? Keep your shirts on because their work will get done anyway."
Also, I'd like to point out that since the rite is not actually binding, it is actually an exertion of control by the existing family to preventing it from getting it done.
Why?
The deceased still gets to choose, according to Mormon belief. They are not counted as members. So a family member objecting because they are atheist is actually the person exerting control, not the Mormons wanting to do the work. What makes you think that you can operate on another person's behalf? Aren't your controlling a person's life decisions? Even if the person put it in their will to keep the dang Mormons away from them...the rites are still not binding and the individual can reject them. If you don't believe the person is alive, it is not binding, anyway, right?
It boils down to, "You're controlling other people against their will." And both parties can claim that of the other. As we believe it, when we die, our pre-existence with God comes back to our remembrance. Many good people would want the works done for them even if they rejected it in the mortal life. So it would be controlling of the living family to try and force their wills upon the individual in the afterlife.
Originally posted by Digi
I also believe that an intent can be inherently wrong even there is no offended party. It doesn't make the act wrong, per se, but certainly doesn't bode well for the person's mindset.
Oh, I agree ENTIRELY, here. This captures the very very basic idea of what Mormonism is at the very center of it all: what is actually intended or desired when doing anything is actually what constitutes righteousness or varying degrees of it.
For example, we believe good works are part of what we are judged on...but a good work done begrudgingly is actually unrighteous.
Any Mormon who tells you otherwise is either:
1. Ignorant of the basic of basics concerning Mormonism.
2. Mixing in other Christian faiths into Mormonism (which happens a lot due to how many converts that make up our members).
Originally posted by Digi
I'm not accusing you here, dudemon, just getting your take.
I know. Both of our opinions are largely the same: don't do it if the family members don't want it. Have some respect for the dead, FFS.
Originally posted by Digi
Something's wrong with the system and theology that they happened in the first place. Something tells me most of the retractions are going to happen due to backlash, not due to introspective analysis.
You mean the system should remove free-will, entirely, to prevent this? I think not. You can't blame the actions of the individuals when it goes against what is taught: you must blame the individuals. I'm not supposed to curse...and I'm supposed to keep my thoughts and language wholesome. Yet, I OBVIOUSLY do not do that on a regular basis. So why is it a fault of my religion when it directly teaches against it? In fact, I got in trouble and was almost "released" from a calling as a Sunday school teacher because of how foul my mouth is.
And, yes, most of the retractions are done specifically due to the backlash: since the rites are not considered binding and can still be accepted or rejected by the individual AND mix in that it will all be done, anyway, during the millennium, it can be viewed as a temporary impedance to what will happen anyway. As a general rule of thumb, non-family members cannot do the works unless the person has been deceased for 75 years or more.
Originally posted by Digi
Also as fact, this sort of controversy has been in the news this week. It hasn't been eradicated yet.
I don't think I can make it clear enough: it will be virtually impossible to stop it from being done. The only way I can think of is a type of system similar to the setup in 1984 where nothing can be said, written, or done without "them" knowing.
Originally posted by Digi
Yes, I will. I'll leave this, however, since I don't want to get into what is probably a very personal anecdote.
No problem. I only shared that personal story because I like you as a person and thought you'd be interested to see how close to the border some of the decisions can be. In retrospect, I probably should have shared that via PM but it's okay.
Originally posted by Digi
I'm not either. I think either would be equally unconscionable.
But but...Maher's skit was hilarious! 🙁
Originally posted by Digi
I'm not an advocate of Pascal's Wager.
I am, as I have openly admitted directly to you in the past. But as I will openly admit, God could be more like the deist God. He could be like the petty super grumpy God that many Christian Evangelicals believe in. He could be the FSM. He could be like what Marius believes: so far beyond our comprehension as to make it useless to even contemplate, worship, or believe in (which I sort of agree with). There's so many possibilities that is it difficult to decide so I settle on Pascal's wager.
Originally posted by Digi
It's in the news, I was curious, and you're the only Mormon I speak to on a regular basis. Is that not reason enough to bring it up?
Being a Mormon, I am exposed to this stuff quite often. Yes, I heard about the Mormon douches, trying again, to do the rites for Anne Frank. I believe I brought it up in my very first post on this topic (but I'm too lazy to go back and look).
Originally posted by Digi
Also on point, you don't have any of my personal information. And thank goodness, apparently, since the implication of your question literally give me the creeps.
I was partially jesting because it is what I would call "so absurd that it's funny".
However, the portion that is not jest is IF you really wanted me to, just in case you did subscribe to Pascal's wager even if slightly. It would be rather douchy of me not to assist with a request like that...if you had it.
If you were indirectly requesting that, it is not the first time an Atheist has asked me to do the work for them: both of my old workout buddies asked me to do it for them if they died (one of them is the fella I told you about that made a "miraculous" conversion to Christianity despite his extremely staunch opposition to religion).
Edit - Forgot to mention that this stuff still happens because many thousands to even millions of Mormons are not even aware of this type of stuff. The directives from "the first presidency" are covered at the beginning of our "sacrament" meetings but the news stories are not covered. I do remember a meeting from over a decade ago that had all the local Bishops read to the congregation about not doing works for people that are non-family members unless it has been a long ass time or we get permission from the living family. However, I'm an exception because I remember what most people forget.
I'm sure if a person is consistently submitted "bad" names, their temple recommend would be removed. This temple recommend allows them to go to the temples and do works. If they abuse it, they will lose it. I could ask my bishop if he has seen this done to a particularly insidious member.