"Why did he refuse to take responsibility for finding a solution to such a massive, pervasive, debilitating problem? Because that’s the difference between people who heal and people who don’t: recognizing that the influences and conditions that created the person you are today really don’t matter; what matters is having the courage to do what it takes to fix the problems you have. Or you can let being ashamed of having problems or needing help limit your options, and limit your happiness and fulfillment in life. You can even keep blaming your parents, siblings, teacher, God, your disability, your disease, your birth order, whatever for your unhappiness. I’m sure all those factors have probably legitimately done their share of damage. The problem is that blame – even legitimate, well-placed, well-deserved blame - doesn’t do a goddamned thing to repair the damage. The power to heal is in each of us. The only real question is whether we use that power or not." -Anonymous Forum Poster