Well, there's many different kind of numbers, but if we go with natural numbers, they are basically a tool that enables you to count. They have a starting point and are ordered. That enables you to do what we call addition, which is basically the ability to count more than 1 step (as many steps as the number you add). There are two special numbers in that case which have special abilities 1 and 0 (if you want to include 0). 1 is the number that you can "add" to the beginning of the natural numbers to go through all natural numbers without missing one. 0 is the number that you can *add* to a number to get back to itself.
Now, just by thinking about some of the things with natural numbers you can arrive at other numbers. For example by reverse counting (subtracting) we come to a point where you can count below the starting number. So we can extend the Natural Numbers by numbers that go below its initial starting point to get integers.
That won't answer your philosophical question, but I think we can all agree that numbers at least have some relation to the world we perceive. For example grouping disparate things. I may see two cookie, and I see that has a relation to having one cookie, as in that there are more of them. And if I "eat" one of my two cookie I'm getting back to one cookie. As such counting is definitely something that comes pretty natural to us, and describes something we perceive in the universe.
That doesn't answer the question whether numbers are "real", but imo that is ill-defined anyways.