Cheating
Saw this while surfing the net...
"Its not cheating if you're not the one who's married."
So, a few questions to maybe get some conversation going:
1. Would you cheat on your spouse/partner?
2. Would you sleep with a person who had a spouse/partner?
3. If your spouse/partner cheated on you, would you be angrier at them, the person they are cheating with, or would it be equal?
I would not cheat on my partner.
I may sleep with a person who has a spouse or partner if they wanted that and I did not have a friendship with their spouse.
If my partner "cheated" on me I would be angry at them and not the person they cheated with, unless I had a friendship with said person.
As a further caveat, I have no problem with my partner having sex with someone else if they wanted that. If they are honest with me about it I don't view that as cheating.
1. No. Unless it was Jessica Biel. We have an agreement that if Vin Diesel wants to get with her or Jessica Biel wants to get with me, go to town. F*ck, I'd Hi-Five her if she got with Vin. 🙂
2. Maybe, maybe not. Depends on the situation. There are a trillion situations that can cause something like this to come up. If the couple was separating, going through a divorce, or separated, and I was single, I would not consider it cheating for any parties involved.
3. I do not think I would be angry. Not even a little, really. I would be sad. There was a time when it would not have bothered me in my current marriage. I would not have cared at all. But, as relationships mature and grow, you love your spouse more and more.
Originally posted by Bardock42
As a further caveat, I have no problem with my partner having sex with someone else if they wanted that. If they are honest with me about it I don't view that as cheating.
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It's not cheating if all involved adults give informed consent (meaning, they are all aware of what is taking place and with whom). Americans seem to miss this, from my experience.
Originally posted by riv66721. Nyet.
1. Would you cheat on your spouse/partner?2. Would you sleep with a person who had a spouse/partner?
3. If your spouse/partner cheated on you, would you be angrier at them, the person they are cheating with, or would it be equal?
2. Did back in the day (well, they were separated). Still felt weird about it. Wouldn't do it now.
3. Depends. But most likely, would be angrier with spouse.
1. i don't think so. basically i think you should either tell them you want to see other people or break up instead of hiding shit.
2. yea. my logic is basically that it's not my responsibility to maintain other people's relationships.
3. i dunno. i feel like if you get cheated on and you find out then really they did you a favor. better to find out and deal accordingly than be unwittingly investing in a bs relationship.
Re: Cheating
Originally posted by riv6672
Saw this while surfing the net..."Its not cheating if you're not the one who's married."
So, a few questions to maybe get some conversation going:1. Would you cheat on your spouse/partner?
2. Would you sleep with a person who had a spouse/partner?
3. If your spouse/partner cheated on you, would you be angrier at them, the person they are cheating with, or would it be equal?
1. Absolutely never.
2. No, not personally.
3. I'd be a lot more upset with my spouse than the person they had cheated with, under any circumstance.
1. Would you cheat on your spouse/partner?
2. Would you sleep with a person who had a spouse/partner?
3. If your spouse/partner cheated on you, would you be angrier at them, the person they are cheating with, or would it be equal?
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1. No. The purpose of being in a monogamous relationship is that rather it's bf/gf, engaged, married or whatever label you want to put on it, you are with that one person and nobody else. If I wanted to sleep with multiple women, I wouldn't be in a relationship in the first place.
Now if you get super drunk or intoxicated in some fashion and are in far less control of yourself; I wouldn't say it's acceptable, but it's understandable and things should be talked out. Never done it, just think I'd want the benefit of the doubt if I was blackout drunk and I woke up in someone elses bed.
2. Yes & No. Yes if I wasn't informed they had a SO, or they were swingers or something like that. Or if the guy was an ******* to her or something and she wanted to get back at him. No if they tell me and it's not something they want found out, or if it's a friend of mine or something(I'd tell them if I found out).
3. I'd be mad at both, but more my girl for betraying my trust and knowing that if I found out, it'd hurt me, but not caring enough that she till went through with it. I'd also be really torn up because I can no longer trust her or even care about her the same way. I'd be mad at her partner(even if it was a girl) primarily because it's human to get upset about things like that. If they didn't know about me, after I cooled off, if there was anything to talk about, we'd talk. If they knew, or were a friend, then I'd be just as mad if not more so because they didn't let me know she was a cheating type.
Originally posted by KingD19....in theory. i think for most of us we end up with someone we don't want to lose so we make the commitment.. but in reality the desire to be with others never leaves.
The purpose of being in a monogamous relationship is that rather it's bf/gf, engaged, married or whatever label you want to put on it, you are with that one person and nobody else. If I wanted to sleep with multiple women, I wouldn't be in a relationship in the first place.
1. No. I respect the sanctity of marriage. If you wanted to **** multiple men/women, you shouldn't have married in the first place.
2. Intentionally, no. Many men/women lie about their marital and social statuses just to get more f***s. You'll never know initially if that person you slept with was telling the truth.
3. Angrier at partner/spouse, especially if done without my consent.