It's all contextual. Without going into details, I've been faced with this type of question twice in my life (I'm not married, it was other stuff). I made a different decision the second time, not because my opinion had changed, but because the situation was very different. I'll say that my actions in both situations wouldn't be looked down upon by nearly anyone in this thread, given the feedback so far. And I have no moral quandaries about either decision.