So I have had this friend since I was 15 and the more we spend time together the more I realize we are two very different people. So yesterday we were hanging out and I commented on his shoes..."You know dude you really need to get new shoes"..
His shoes were dirty old to the point that they was broken.. couple of years old. Then I proceeded to make a comment on his old cloths. He said I was being superficial and just wanted Jim to look good so that his reflection could reflect back at me. I thought of it for a while and realized that's not at all why I want him to dress better... I want him to dress better so it could be a reflection of where he's going in life. He's been dressing in the same old cloths for ten years and has done little effort to change. I figured it was a straight thing but I realize it bugs me mote then him. I value appearence. I live in one of the best new hip areas and try everyday to evolve into something better then myself. It sounds like I'm conceded but I'm not..being humble nor poor is not bad but making an effort to evolve is more important to me. I is it wrong of me to tell him to get new shoes?