Originally posted by krisblaze
^I think for a lot of people the truth "rape is bad" is a given, it shouldn't be something one has to teach people.
Yea, the thing is, it seems like it should be a given to most people, but too often isn't, and some people have personal definitions that say it's ok to do stuff that really is rare, and in order to hit the people who need to know, you kinda need to aim wide since if we could better target things'd be way easier.
An awareness campaign in Edmonton lowered sexual assault reports by 10% by putting up posters that, basically, said 'don't have sex with wasted people/if the person changes their mind and says no.'
I mean, they're just posters stating the obvious, and a 10% drop!
So, while a lot of people don't like talking about it or, worse, take talking about it as a slur against them, there's actually really, really good reason to focus on simple awareness aspects.
cdtmAssuming the same people check "yes" to non consential sex, and "no" to rape, what does it prove? Ignorance? Wouldn't anybody at the college level know what "consent" means, and how it applies to the word "rape"?
I've seen questions in ones like this, and they're like, "Would you have sex with a girl when (outlines a situation where consent isn't possible)?" vs "would you rape a girl when (same situation)"?
And you'd like to think anyone would know by that age, but here's the thing, consent really isn't taught standard. Not in sex ed in school, often not by parents. Most people pick it up basically by osmosis- but some people pick up the wrong messages the same way.
There was an interesting statistic that I read awhile back, wherein most non-rapist men assume rapists are less common than they are, often naming 1 in 50 or 1 in 100 or the like (I don't remember the exact numbers given, but low), while rapists reported thinking that about 50% of men were rapists on average. That what they did was perfectly normal.
Basically, tell a rape joke in a room full of randomly selected guys who laugh, and most of them are thinking 'oh, that's horrible, but I'm laughing anyway,' or 'I find that funny but known not to do that,' but some of them are thinking, 'Hah, it's funny because we all do it, but we aren't supposed to admit it, but see? We're all laughing at it.'
And then they see people getting off on rape and people blaming the victims for being raped, and that reinforces the perception, but it arises because people see it taken lightly everywhere and really have never had it laid out to them in serious, concrete 'this is consent, this isn't' terms.
Or to put it another way, you may have naturally picked it up without trying, and your friends, but it's an area where it isn't safe to generalize on your own experiences.