Physical Standards in a Relationship

I've been thinking about relationships and whether or not I'd be willing to get into one with someone who I don't really find attractive. This subject brought itself up to me because my friend is trying to hook me up with a guy who I think is probably a 5/10, but he could be really awesome, so I don't think I want to deny the opportunity of a relationship because the guy doesn't fit my standards. I'm curious on your opinions, so POST BELOW AND VOTE.

I'd say quite important. It's not "extremely" important because I put a lot of emphasis on personality as well, but it's not a minor thing either because sexual attraction is a very important part of these types of relationships.

Somewhat important. Personality and compatibility are more important, but I can't imagine a lasting relationship if you're completely put off by their appearance.

Wang em bang em and lang em I always say.

looks fade

personality rarely changes

you dont have to rush anything mate

I dunno, if he has specific standards then he might end up resenting being in the relationship due to his looks even if he likes the guy. You could always just try going on a date and seeing what he's like, maybe his personality is unbelievably awesome or something, in which case it might be worth having a shot at it, but otherwise I wouldn't get into a relationship with someone I didn't find attractive (regardless of their personality) because I know that if the relationship soured, I'd probably end up being more cruel in dumping them than would be necessary due to me resenting their looks and the fact that I ever had to be seen in public with them.

I don't know what you can glean from that Joker, but there might be something awehuhs

Originally posted by Emperordmb
I'd say quite important. It's not "extremely" important because I put a lot of emphasis on personality as well, but it's not a minor thing either because sexual attraction is a very important part of these types of relationships.

Somewhat important. Though I value a sense of humour, personality and intelligence over physical appearance, good looks certainly help the relationship and "falling in love" process.

Originally posted by Flyattractor
[b]Wang em bang em and lang em I always say. [/B]

Originally posted by Emperordmb
I'd say quite important. It's not "extremely" important because I put a lot of emphasis on personality as well, but it's not a minor thing either because sexual attraction is a very important part of these types of relationships.

I mean it's a bonus if they're attractive; but I'd never date a fat slob for example. I voted for "quite important".

Thinking long-term we all turn ugly in the end so why bother really; I look for personality first, and if they're good looking I might go for it.

I don't really care for such these matters though so meh

Originally posted by MythLord
Somewhat important. Though I value a sense of humour, personality and intelligence over physical appearance, good looks certainly help the relationship and "falling in love" process.

Lol dude..a 5/10? Not sure what the problem is. There is a difference between not finding someone super attractive and..finding them utterly gross.

People in life rarely date a "10" on the attractiveness scale. If a person is decent looking(a 5 is decent) then if your personalities match your attraction will increase based on that.

If the guy was like a 1 or a 2 out of 10 that would be different, but a 5? Meh.

Originally posted by Surtur
If a person is decent looking(a 5 is decent) then if your personalities match your attraction will increase based on that.

Here is the harsh truth: 75% of people will have to settle for someone less attractive then they would have preferred.

Well, it is important. I think you might be less likely to stray if you are sexually attracted to your significant other. For me though, if the potential significant other is really awesome personality wise, they will become more attractive to me. Maybe it will work for you.

Originally posted by Surtur
Lol dude..a 5/10? Not sure what the problem is. There is a difference between not finding someone super attractive and..finding them utterly gross.

People in life rarely date a "10" on the attractiveness scale. If a person is decent looking(a 5 is decent) then if your personalities match your attraction will increase based on that.

If the guy was like a 1 or a 2 out of 10 that would be different, but a 5? Meh.

Originally posted by |King Joker|
He's more like a 4 in all honesty but you're right, yeah. My friend says we have similar personalities and stuff so I at least want to talk to him.

Okay, but if he asks you he is at least a 7. That is what I do with chicks, I always rate them 3 numbers above what they really are.

Coincidentally I have been with a lot of 4's.

Originally posted by Surtur
Okay, but if he asks you he is at least a 7. That is what I do with chicks, I always rate them 3 numbers above what they really are.

Coincidentally I have been with a lot of 4's.

People with interesting personalities and particularly compatible with my own are all desirable sexual material to me, unless they're somehow totally ugly that hurts the eye. As others have stated in the thread, if you like someone, it's impossible to distinguish attractiveness from being purely physical or psychological; the latter enhances the former.