Well, another little tip.
If you have never lived alone with someone, don't even think about marrying them.
We lived with my mother from almost the day we met until 8 months before our son was born. We never had that time alone, and that to a great bextent has been identified as a part of the problem.
I applaud and congratulate you all, but here's a thought. We'd been together 9 years before we even bagan to realsie there was a problem.....
Actually, let me ammend that rule a little. Don't get married without first living away from home.
It was mistake to stay in the nice big house that backed onto farmlands. Should have got out and lived in my own place first.
I think if I ever meet someone else, it would take one hell of a lot of inner exploration of myself before I would commit to another marriage.
First of all, EJ, I do feel sorry for you. Heartache, at any age of life or stage in life, is painful and frustrating. Let me tell you from experience....when I met my ex-husband, he was 19 and I was 20. We married about two years later. I had "been there, done that" with the bar scene, the run around with the girls scene, the one-night stand with the football player at my friend's college scene, the whole shooting match. I had gotten my "running" out of my system by the time we married. Unfortunatly, he had not. Not at all. Basically, he wanted to date (and fornicate) with other women and still have me at home, his loving wife. Ain't no way, man !!!! It is important, I feel, for people to date a wide variety of people from like 16 to maybe 24 or 25...get the jumping around out of their system...then be ready to settle down, cause eventually it gets old...cause you get old ! Everybody's right, EJ..go out and have some fun...move onward and upward. Life will get better, trust me. 🙂