You do not truly know someone until you fight them.

Yes I know it is from the Matrix Reloaded, but that isn't why I posted it. It's just so true. Think about it. If you are dating someone for months you can never tell who they really are until you have your first fight. For example, I started dating this girl when I was younger. She was gorgeous and fun. After we had been around each other as just friends for about a year, I finally asked her out. Everyhing went fine for a while but we found some things we disagreed about. One thing led to another and eventually started fighting. I get angry, she gets angry I attempt to stay calm(notice the word attempt) and she suddenly stops speaking and just starts sulking. Now she had seen me angry before, but I had never seen her upset. As the relationship progressed farther she began to pout and sulk over the smallest things. Were we would eat or if I was going out with my friends. Before we started dating I didn't know how immature and we spent nearly a year as friends (without fighting) after we started fighting I realized who she really was. Do you think this is true, or is it just in my experiences?

i hear that. as friends you don't really get to know someone... but when you date chances are you get a bit closer and thats when you begin to find out who they are.

"as friends, i had no idea she had a habit of poisoning her lovers. but as a lover well...." * cough cough * "ohhhh my arms feel...." *falls*

hmmm,to fight(really) a chick....I'm so sure I could do that.....but in a funny way(get my point 😉 ),hell yeah !

not phisical fighting fitch......you don't expect bbb2 punched her in the face, do you ?😛

Yeah I had a similar problem when I fell out with my wife. We were still engaged at the time and we fell out big time the only problem was she didn't tell me! I figured it out after half a day of her not speaking to me. After 2 days she started speaking again told me what I had or rather hadn't done and we were friends again. We talked about it and were mature enough to deal with and 2 years on we're married and expecting a baby anytime now! 😄

Cool, BBB2. I like reading the well thoughtout threads. This one is a great topic. 🙂

Yeah, I kinda know how that works. I've known one of my best friends since 1st grade. I'm beginning to forget how we became such best friends because we are VERY different. He's active, I'm a bum. He likes being outside, I like being inside. He's blonde and somewhat tan, I'm a brunette and really tan. Still, we've argued and all that sh**, and that kind of effects things. I think one reason why we are good friends is because we joke about our past arguments, mostly because I was the hot head...

you should ask fitch about our 5 second fights during classes...and then everything gets back to normal 😛

Originally posted by Dexx
not phisical fighting fitch......you don't expect bbb2 punched her in the face, do you ?😛

Just for the record, I never punched anyone.

hmm...*thinks*
me neither..that's odd.

Originally posted by Dexx
hmm...*thinks*
me neither..that's odd.

You think its odd that we have never punched our girlfriends. What kind of sick people do you hang around? 😛

extremely sick 😛, but..i wasn't talking about girlfriends (i never had one yet)..i'm talking never punched ANYONE.

Originally posted by Dexx
extremely sick 😛, but..i wasn't talking about girlfriends (i never had one yet)..i'm talking never punched ANYONE.

Oh. That's different. 😈

please, please...i'm a pacifist 😛

I see your point bbb2. I started dating a friend on monday, we've known each other for approximately 4 years. the trouble is I dont feel I know him at all now. and we both have pet hates for each others general habits: I smoke and he drinks.

a glass of whine is good for the blood flow. beer must be good for something also.😛 But smoking is REALLy bad

you should quit smoking (if its cigarettes) and take up drinking.

well what do yo want her taking cigars? but yes..drinking's good 😛

I am trying to quit at the moment! if I do quit I wont be taking up drinking instead! my farther is an alchie!
when I say my bf drinks I mean black label vodka! and lots of it!

Originally posted by Dexx
well what do yo want her taking cigars? but yes..drinking's good 😛

no not at all... you either know or you don't. and yes drinking is good.... it helps when you fight someone, but only if you really want to know them.

😕
I prefer to stay tea-total thanks! you always remember what happens that way! last time I had a few to drink which was quite a while ago, I ended up in a stick situation which happened to be the talk of the school for one whole term afterwards!