Originally posted by rudesterwell, i dont really look for praise or reward. i think if i'm doing something then the process should be its own reward and worth doing without incentive. i don't care what people think of me. their opinions are worthless to me. I will do what I do without any end goal in mind or need for anyone to tell me I'm doing well. I already know.Being selfless is means not seeking a reward or praise. It's really hard to achieve because people today are mostly selfish and ungrateful, they want to be rewarded for their efforts and feel appreciated or recognized.
I think it's a fine balance between giving and taking. I don't think you should be walked on but at the same time you have to know when to walk away from someone using you.
The best type of person you can be is a humbled person. Only give when you feel you can and only accept when you need to, not to much and not to less.
I don't give my age but I'm around there 😂. Think I have two birthdays in common with two other people here but I never say a word.
to me being selfless means like, not prioritising one's own pleasure or success over others. that to me is a contextual thing, like, sometimes I will be selfless and other times I will prioritise myself. there's no real philosophy to it, I just do what seems right at the time. not much else I can do.
Trust me, I have been very humbled in my life. Last couple years especially. But it was good. It taught me I wasn't as special as I thought. I'm not as smart as I hoped. I'm not the greatest writer or the most innovative poet. I'm just a person living amongst other ppl, like all the rest.
People mistake my fire for whatever suits their narrative best. Meanness, craziness, instability, they think I'm "unstable" because my fire is so deeply attuned to my entire being. I carry fire everywhere with me. It scares people. They lash out at me, attack me, the fire scares them. But fire has always scared the weak and small-minded. The more souls my fire scorches, the stronger it grows. Every new enemy makes me stronger.
Yeah fair keeping yr age locked down is righteous. I'm going on 32, so I'm around the same age I guess
to me, being "humble" does not mean being weak or servile. it's a form of inner understanding, humility. it does not mean you let people push you around, insult you or walk all over you. being kind can be a sickness when one doesn't know when to say No. Just bc I am humble does not mean I will kowtow or genuflect to those less humble. if your enemy is arrogant, it requires arrogance to destroy them. remaining humble is something you do inside, it's a truth that can't always be spoken, bc this is a world of war. we are all at war. your enemies will choose themselves. often they will be ppl you thought were your friends but they have to be destroyed regardless, without mercy.
being a totally "good" person makes you too weak to look after yourself I believe, if you aren't willing sometimes to prioritise yourself and your own success or wellbeing, then why not just give your house to a homeless person? Be humble and live outside instead. If a homeless person asked you to give them your apartment/house, would you? I doubt it, because ultimately you are your own centre, you need to do basic self-preservation to survive. Only you truly matter. Only help those truly in need, and only to the point it doesn't negatively effect your life.
idk, I'm not that "kind" or "nice" but I find generally that behind my often purposefully abrasive persona there is still a soul that wants to make life better for the ones I love. but that is a dream, an idea, only an idea.
Originally posted by Scribble
well, i dont really look for praise or reward. i think if i'm doing something then the process should be its own reward and worth doing without incentive. i don't care what people think of me. their opinions are worthless to me. I will do what I do without any end goal in mind or need for anyone to tell me I'm doing well. I already know.to me being selfless means like, not prioritising one's own pleasure or success over others. that to me is a contextual thing, like, sometimes I will be selfless and other times I will prioritise myself. there's no real philosophy to it, I just do what seems right at the time. not much else I can do.
Trust me, I have been very humbled in my life. Last couple years especially. But it was good. It taught me I wasn't as special as I thought. I'm not as smart as I hoped. I'm not the greatest writer or the most innovative poet. I'm just a person living amongst other ppl, like all the rest.
People mistake my fire for whatever suits their narrative best. Meanness, craziness, instability, they think I'm "unstable" because my fire is so deeply attuned to my entire being. I carry fire everywhere with me. It scares people. They lash out at me, attack me, the fire scares them. But fire has always scared the weak and small-minded. The more souls my fire scorches, the stronger it grows. Every new enemy makes me stronger.
Yeah fair keeping yr age locked down is righteous. I'm going on 32, so I'm around the same age I guess
Rise like a phoenix Jane and burn. Unleash you're power!
I'm always in my Joker arc
Sociopathy is pretty normal once you get used to it, and it's very different to how it's described in fiction and propaganda. The main aspects for me are the CONSTANT EMPTINESS / periods where ur emotions just disappear, the trait of "little to no fear for personal safety or wellbeing" and y'know, the whole limited empathy aspect. I'm quite high empathy for a sociopath but it's not always there. Usually I can turn it on or off. If I really need to take down a mother****er I flip that switch to OFF.
A lot of the time a sociopath's life isn't defined by their exterior antisocial aspects but the complicated balancing of psychology. Like, they won't be charging around the town causing havoc, more likely sitting inside alone feelin' empty, or the classic "alone in a crowd" approach where sociopaths surround themselves with lively ppl so they don't have to think about the emptiness.