Originally posted by silent_kisses
Oh I'm sorry, the one I read was a she 😕
I think it's blatantly abusing a gift we have from God 😬
ummm...how is virginity a gift from God?
sex becomes much less important once you have it a first time. Regardless of marriage or not.
As for soul mates....well I'm of the opinion that women and men searching for "soul mates" are the reason for the ridiculously high rate of divorces in this modern era. It used to be that your wife or husband was just someone that was good at sexually satisfying you while being able to put up with your meager chit chat day in and day out. Being able to eat together is the other criteria that is important in marriage because that's when most fights often occur...at the dinner table
Now adays, people look for this "soul mate" and then come to realize there's no such thing after they are let down by their "ideal mate" only to find comfort in the arms of another that would have never gotten the time of day because they were not the ideal "soul mate" to begin with.
Not to say that there isn't someone for everyone, but the idea of a "soul mate" is somewhat ridiculous when you sit down and think about it.
I mean what really is a soul mate?
Originally posted by Linkalicious
ummm...how is virginity a gift from God?sex becomes much less important once you have it a first time. Regardless of marriage or not.
As for soul mates....well I'm of the opinion that women and men searching for "soul mates" are the reason for the ridiculously high rate of divorces in this modern era. It used to be that your wife or husband was just someone that was good at sexually satisfying you while being able to put up with your meager chit chat day in and day out. Being able to eat together is the other criteria that is important in marriage because that's when most fights often occur...at the dinner table
Now adays, people look for this "soul mate" and then come to realize there's no such thing after they are let down by their "ideal mate" only to find comfort in the arms of another that would have never gotten the time of day because they were not the ideal "soul mate" to begin with.
Not to say that there isn't someone for everyone, but the idea of a "soul mate" is somewhat ridiculous when you sit down and think about it.
I mean what really is a soul mate?
You're born a virgin, once that's gone you'll never have it back.
And that's exactly it, would you like to be with someone who no longer enjoys sex with you or with whoever because of all their previous experiences?
That's the thing, the ones who are the ones you look for comfort are your soul mates, the ones who you dont have to change to be with. A soulmate doesnt have to be the perfect version of a man or woman, they dont have to be thin, gorgeous, brilliantly smart, but they are the perfect other half to you. The ones who also dont care about your flaws, they knowthey are there, but they realize thats what makes you you.
I mean obviously experience is always best, but I hate how nowadays people are looked down upon because they choose to wait till marriage.
Originally posted by forumcrew
i wanna know what the hell sorta means and who these 4 people aremore yes's then i thought then again this is a kinda young crowd.. figured wed have some people lying as well too though
oh and the poll: Nope
Well sorta could mean rounded second base, and almost made it home, but not quite 😛
Back to the poll, the title is spelled wrong 🙄
Originally posted by silent_kisses
You're born a virgin, once that's gone you'll never have it back.
And that's exactly it, would you like to be with someone who no longer enjoys sex with you or with whoever because of all their previous experiences?That's the thing, the ones who are the ones you look for comfort are your soul mates, the ones who you dont have to change to be with. A soulmate doesnt have to be the perfect version of a man or woman, they dont have to be thin, gorgeous, brilliantly smart, but they are the perfect other half to you. The ones who also dont care about your flaws, they knowthey are there, but they realize thats what makes you you.
I mean obviously experience is always best, but I hate how nowadays people are looked down upon because they choose to wait till marriage.
That's not a gift. And especially for males...we don't change after our first experience...it's the same before and after.
And how does having previous experience make it so that they no longer enjoy sex? I fail to see that one entirely. If you love someone, then the act of sex should to express your feelings for someone. If you're only going to love one person....how do you know that you'll never love someone else better?
As for your definition of a "soul mate" you just explained what a husband or wife is supposed to be. There is nothing special about that explanation except that they love the other person. Just like a husband should do for his wife. I can tell you that I feel EXACTLY that way about someone right now in my life, but that doesn't make them my soul mate. That just makes them the person I'm in love with...
I intend to stay a virgin until i'm "ready".
Personally, i believe that the one of the many distinctions between us humans and animals is our behaviour and in this case sexual behaviour. Animals go and mate with the next person they encounter.Us human have been blessed with the capabilty to choose, wait and decide with whom to have sex with. Also we understand sex as more than a way of reproducing.It seems so weird that even though we obviously have the tendancy to act like a "civilized" species, one controlled with our minds rather than physical factors, to make important choices,we still resort to the same manners as a mere animal does.
Originally posted by Linkalicious
That's not a gift. And especially for males...we don't change after our first experience...it's the same before and after.And how does having previous experience make it so that they no longer enjoy sex? I fail to see that one entirely. If you love someone, then the act of sex should to express your feelings for someone. If you're only going to love one person....how do you know that you'll never love someone else better?
As for your definition of a "soul mate" you just explained what a husband or wife is supposed to be. There is nothing special about that explanation except that they love the other person. Just like a husband should do for his wife. I can tell you that I feel EXACTLY that way about someone right now in my life, but that doesn't make them my soul mate. That just makes them the person I'm in love with...
I cant change your mind about virgiity, or about the whole sex thing.
It's just that the more of it you have, the more mundane it becomes, nothing special nothing new. You just get used to it, and then no longer crave or desire it.
And actually my definition is not the same as a husband and wife. A husband or wife, unless they are your soulmate, shall comment on all your flaws and etc. But soulmates feel the smae way back. You love the person with your whole being, they feel the same way back. A it never changes, a simple husband and wife's feelings can change, the result would be divorce.
Now, I'm not capable of intelligent thought since school is over, so let's just say I give up and you win link 😊
Originally posted by Linkalicious
That's not a gift. And especially for males...we don't change after our first experience...it's the same before and after.And how does having previous experience make it so that they no longer enjoy sex? I fail to see that one entirely. If you love someone, then the act of sex should to express your feelings for someone. If you're only going to love one person....how do you know that you'll never love someone else better?
As for your definition of a "soul mate" you just explained what a husband or wife is supposed to be. There is nothing special about that explanation except that they love the other person. Just like a husband should do for his wife. I can tell you that I feel EXACTLY that way about someone right now in my life, but that doesn't make them my soul mate. That just makes them the person I'm in love with...
I'd kind of agree with him. 😛
Originally posted by silent_kissesIt's just that the more of it you have, the more mundane it becomes, nothing special nothing new. You just get used to it, and then no longer crave or desire it.
if you're with someone you really like, I can't see why it shouldn't stay special? every time is a new time, born from a new moment. even though you stay together for a long time, the relationship (hopefully) evolves, and you get to know your partner in a new way, creating new situations and experiences, etc.
besides, I don't think it's that easy to kill the sexual desire. it's just too much part of us.
Originally posted by Line
if you're with someone you really like, I can't see why it shouldn't stay special? every time is a new time, born from a new moment. even though you stay together for a long time, the relationship (hopefully) evolves, and you get to know your partner in a new way, creating new situations and experiences, etc.
besides, I don't think it's that easy to kill the sexual desire. it's just too much part of us.
I meant in the sense that you get used to it, and don't look as forwrd to it as originally, but fair point 😄