Originally posted by silent_kisses
I meant in the sense that you get used to it, and don't look as forwrd to it as originally, but fair point 😄
I don't think that you (in most cases) will stop looking forward to sex as long as you're attracted to your partner. therefore, if sex is getting too boring, maybe it has more to do with your feelings than your drives, so to say 😉
and no, I don't believe in soul mates, as in a partner destined to be your 'lost half'.
Originally posted by Linkalicious
That's not a gift. And especially for males...we don't change after our first experience...it's the same before and after.
Some males actually do change. Not too generalize on all males of course. But losing your virginity is part of that old beliefs of when does a man become a man? Does the guy accept resposibility or does he goes to his friends and brags about nailing a girl? Certain males love to boasts about taking a woman's virginity but that does make them more man? Absolutely not! If a man really changes he keeps his privacy to himself and does not go around sharing intimacy with his buddies.
Originally posted by WindDancer
Some males actually do change. Not too generalize on all males of course. But losing your virginity is part of that old beliefs of when does a man become a man? Does the guy accept resposibility or does he goes to his friends and brags about nailing a girl? Certain males love to boasts about taking a woman's virginity but that does make them more man? Absolutely not! If a man really changes he keeps his privacy to himself and does not go around sharing intimacy with his buddies.
it is a strange thing actually that women's virginity has become something so mysterious and fascinating that some men are actually attracted to the pure fact that a woman's a virgin. in some countries taking a woman' virginity is considered a cure agains many deadly diceases, including aids. virginity has always been the woman's only 'weapon', what she needed to find a good husband and thus get along in life. without it she lost her status and her chances to get married.
I guess this may be one of the reasons that I don't like the idea of women staying virgin till the 'bitter end', or, well, marriage. it just echoes those old days, where virginity was something mysteious and powerfull. actually, the only kind of power the woman had.
I believe in choice, whether you choose to or not is all up to you, pressure from others around you shouldnt influence your choice, thats what bothers me most.
The ladies who think that giving up their virginity to someone will bring them closer and bond them together for ever, and in some cases save a dying relationship bother me most 😬
Originally posted by silent_kisses
I cant change your mind about virgiity, or about the whole sex thing.It's just that the more of it you have, the more mundane it becomes, nothing special nothing new. You just get used to it, and then no longer crave or desire it.
And actually my definition is not the same as a husband and wife. A husband or wife, unless they are your soulmate, shall comment on all your flaws and etc. But soulmates feel the smae way back. You love the person with your whole being, they feel the same way back. A it never changes, a simple husband and wife's feelings can change, the result would be divorce.
Now, I'm not capable of intelligent thought since school is over, so let's just say I give up and you win link 😊
awww Silent....it's not about winning and losing, i'm just trying to delve deeper into this whole soul mate thing, because honestly...i still feel you're talking about husband and wife, only you're giving it a fancy name like "soul mate."
As a husband or wife, your job is to love your partner unconditionally. You should never marry someone that has flaws that you comment about because then you're marrying someone for all the wrong reasons and a divorce would be inevitable. If you really love someone, then their flaws are going to be the parts of them that you care and love the most because you want that person to be comfortable around you with their flaws.
For example, this girl that I feel very much in love with...when i look at her, i think she's absolutely gorgeous. If I look at her as a whole, i'd say 95% of her is just about perfect, and any guy would be more than happy to be with that 95%. But that 5% of imperfection...her physical flaws, her emotional downsides, and insecurites...are the parts that I care about and nuture most, because that's what sets me aside from the rest of the guys that don't love her, but just wanna nail her like some kinda trophy.
By no means would I call her my "soul mate" but I can honestly tell you that I've come to love every bit of her, both the good and the bad. And I want nothing from a relationship with her than to just make her happy, because her happiness brings me happiness.
Originally posted by Linkalicious
awww Silent....it's not about winning and losing, i'm just trying to delve deeper into this whole soul mate thing, because honestly...i still feel you're talking about husband and wife, only you're giving it a fancy name like "soul mate."As a husband or wife, your job is to love your partner unconditionally. You should never marry someone that has flaws that you comment about because then you're marrying someone for all the wrong reasons and a divorce would be inevitable. If you really love someone, then their flaws are going to be the parts of them that you care and love the most because you want that person to be comfortable around you with their flaws.
For example, this girl that I feel very much in love with...when i look at her, i think she's absolutely gorgeous. If I look at her as a whole, i'd say 95% of her is just about perfect, and any guy would be more than happy to be with that 95%. But that 5% of imperfection...her physical flaws, her emotional downsides, and insecurites...are the parts that I care about and nuture most, because that's what sets me aside from the rest of the guys that don't love her, but just wanna nail her like some kinda trophy.
By no means would I call her my "soul mate" but I can honestly tell you that I've come to love every bit of her, both the good and the bad. And I want nothing from a relationship with her than to just make her happy, because her happiness brings me happiness.
you can call me sil, or Irene you know 😛
Do you have a definition of soulmate?