social life

well i guess im making this thread for a very good friend because she wants me to make one on social life, and as she is a good friend i would love to make it for her hug

so how is your social life? do you prefer to have just one or two close friends, or a lot of friends that your not too close with? or both!? a lot of friends that you hang out with, and one or two close friends?

do you HAVE a social life? are you an outgoing party animal, or are you a hermit that loves to be by him/herself......except for when exploring the regions of kmc that is 🥷

basically this is a thread to talk about social life 😱 come here to seek help on the problems you are having, or brag about how wonderfully popular you are diva

Well, I've always felt that popularity is a refuge of a coward. They are afraid to be by themselves so they always surround them selves with someone or another, even if they don't particularly like them; They'll still hang out with them just so they don't have to be alone. Usually these are the same people that also can't stand not being in a relationship, and it creates problems for them, because it simply isn't healthy to rely on other people.

Now, me, myself, I fall under the hermit catagory you listed above. I love being by myself, playing games, or watching tv, or just relaxing with my thoughts. I have a few close friends, but I don't see them that often. Usually the majority of my day is spent alone, which is how I like it. Usually, I spend the most time with my GF, then with my friends afterwards for a couple of hours a night here and there.

Basically, I'd consider myself something of a loner.

KMC is kinnda destroying my social life. I wouldnt consider myself Mr. Popularity but I do have a lot of friends. My 2 best friends live like a stones throw away so thats good. But then again i do like to be by myself and lately thats been becoming more and more, so usualy my day is spent Watching TV, KMC and video games. But once school rolls around I'll be out more, so yea.

I have found that friends are at their most friendly when they want something !

I don't have friends for friends-sake as friends can be far too dependent on you.

Having said that I do have buddies that I mix with when I do certain things....Ahem...

No...don't jump to conclusions...I mean when we go to mutually interesting pastimes like angling, shooting, driving, DIY...and stuff.

Oh, and I forgot....going to the pub now and again !

Sitting in front of this computer is another of the solitary-vices that should be avoided as much as possible I think.

Originally posted by SlipknoT
KMC is kinnda destroying my social life.

Originally posted by Papaumau
I have found that friends are at their most friendly when they want something !

then you had no real friends

i rather be alone with my thoughts mostly . i used to be affraid of being alone and always wanted to be around friends....

then i grew up . besides john (my husband) , i am my bestfriend and thats good enough for me .

Originally posted by Dexx
then you had no real friends

AGAIN....you might be right there Dexx...but...( I bet you knew that "but" was coming eh ? ).

BUT....If you open up to friends like that you make yourself vulnerable to them. Remember, friends are just fallable human-beings like the rest of us.

My old grannie used to say..."Don't let your friends pick you...you pick them".

That way you can pick friends that are not going to use you and abuse you later on.

"Real friends" are as rare as rocking-horse s**t, as very few people ever want to be friends without some kind of need.

Cynical ?....Maybe !

Originally posted by Papaumau
"Real friends" are as rare as rocking-horse s**t, as very few people ever want to be friends without some kind of need.

Friendship is a need itself; the need for companionship, love etc. There is no friendship if there is no need.

it depends sometimes i love the peace and quite and much prefer to be by myself but then i have other days were i decide i despize staying in..

Originally posted by Evy_O
Friendship is a need itself; the need for companionship, love etc. There is no friendship if there is no need.

But...Evy_O....

There are only two kind of people:

The givers and the takers...

The givers are well known among the needy and they are the ones that are bound to eventually be used and abused !

The takers don't care about how the other person feels as long as their needs are assuaged !

Friendship is a minefield where the closer you get the more you are going to be hurt when that friend let's you down as he/she certainly will...eventually !

I DID say that I was an old cynic didn't I !

hey, better love and get hurt than not be loved at all 😄
but if you choose to be alone, cynical and friend-less, it's your choice. My opinion is that everyone should try and keep the balance between giving and taking.

(btw I also believe cynic people that daclare it, are the most romantic ones in disguise, but that's just me 😛 )

a friendship isnt needed really its not crusal to living your life and surviving its more of gift ...

I think it is needed to live normally and happily 😖

Originally posted by Papaumau
AGAIN....you might be right there Dexx...but...( I bet you knew that "but" was coming eh ? ).

BUT....If you open up to friends like that you make yourself vulnerable to them. Remember, friends are just fallable human-beings like the rest of us.

My old grannie used to say..."Don't let your friends pick you...you pick them".

That way you can pick friends that are not going to use you and abuse you later on.

"Real friends" are as rare as rocking-horse s**t, as very few people ever want to be friends without some kind of need.

Cynical ?....Maybe !

damn papa you are jaded. I used to be alot more of a party animal when I was in my teens and twenties. As time went on I've become less of a go out and party girl. And I have never had a bunch of friends, always a bunch of aquiantances with had the same really good friends (4) for about 20 years now, and the 5 of us dont operate on a give or take scale......we are all trusting and loyal to each other, and I dont believe theres ever been a nig blow-up.

Originally posted by Papaumau
AGAIN....you might be right there Dexx...but...( I bet you knew that "but" was coming eh ? ).

BUT....If you open up to friends like that you make yourself vulnerable to them. Remember, friends are just fallable human-beings like the rest of us.

My old grannie used to say..."Don't let your friends pick you...you pick them".

That way you can pick friends that are not going to use you and abuse you later on.

"Real friends" are as rare as rocking-horse s**t, as very few people ever want to be friends without some kind of need.

Cynical ?....Maybe !

it's ok...you find it harder to trust people. which is not a bad thing. i apply that myself, to a certain extent.
however..a few of my friends...i've known for quite some time. One of them since..i can't remember 🙂
maybe it's easier to bond at a very young age

it is easier cuz i made alot of friends at first school but when ur older and in new crowds ur look for the same qualities ur old friends had which is rather difficult to find

well i actually havnt answered the question i myself asked 😮 so i guess ill do so now.

i guess i am in the "popular" group at school 😬
i have a lot of friends, but only 1 who i really and truly love. but i dont think she appreciates me as much as i do her. you all know ... well probly not all, but anyways i have had a lot of troubles with my "friends" which is causing me to change schools. theyre all being rather....well theyve changed a lot, and theyre becoming the typical "popular" person who is a pretty, gorgouse biatch.

i guess i have two sides to me? one that wants to be around a lot of people, because im so outgoing, and love to be entertained.....but the other that sits at home reading, or on kmc or watching dvds in my room with the door closed. so i dont know what i would ssay i was!?

ive got a pretty healthy social life.... about 10 close friends, and say another 20 i am m8s with, can chat with etc.
see my 10 close friends pretty much everyday, and the others every tuesday (£10 entry, free drinks at the local club haha)

sadly tho, our lives pretty much revolve around alcohol...whenever we meet up we've gotta have a drink haha, which is a pain on the pocket, but damn fun.

i dunno how to describe it, but every1 has their own group of m8s other than out grp, so i have those 10close m8s...and then 20 of my own, same for every1 of my close m8s, so i actually know and can chat happily with over 200 people haha. This is cos the club i go to is like a family haha, every1 knows every1 who goes there some way or another (doesnt stop fights happening ocassionally tho lol)

its harder to describe ur social life when ur not in school nemore... i mean im in college atm, but on holiday.... my College social life, well....they dont really have "popular" or "non-popular" groups, every1 just does their own thing... but ive got a nice group of m8s there aswell

oh the simpleness of being a boy!