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Yersott... Give er a break willya !

If you haven't been a 14 year-old girl you will never know willya ?

Of course..I have never been a fourteen year old girl either BUT I raised one right through those difficult years.

My daughter was a beautiful, ( still is ), wee girl who doted on her daddy right up until she was about twelve - when she found other people more interesting, ( especially boys ). That was when her problems started and went right though until she was about sixteen and started to leave puberty behind.

During these difficult years she would always come to me with her problems rather than to her mum and I thought that because I had her confidence I had all her problems under control...WRONG ! I didn't as there were things that she couldn't even tell me.

As I have mentioned before somewhere here; she had started smoking on the fly and had found a "friend" that introduced her to the ganja-weed too. After falling out with one of her best friends over a boy this so-called friend came to me and told me that my Sue was smoking weed and going with a boy that had a bad rep'.

Of course I felt a bit betrayed by this and my daughter and I fell out for almost a year because of it. ( All is fine now - I am glad to say - and she has since given me three wonderful grandchildren too ).

SO...I guess the moral is to treat the fourteen year-old's, ( especially the girls ), with sensitivity and understanding as they are ALL having life hard to one degree or another.

Here is a picture of my daughter when she was seven. ( No problem showing you her as she does not look like this now and therefore could not be identified by that piccie ).

ah come on pap, you make it seem like I think 14 year old girls have it easy when all I was trying to say was that misha made it sound like they have it the most difficult. That idea is based on nothing BUT her experience, though there are millions of other kids that age who can have it easier or more difficult, or even kids of other ages that have it even worse than that.

It was to point out that you can't generalise such things

and for the record, my name is yerssot, not yersott

Oooops...sowwy...Yerssot not Yersott !

Meau-culpa, mea-culpa, mea-maxima-culpa !

that's better, now drop and give me 50 .... euro 😠 😉

At eighteen and a half stones I could maybe give you a dozen ! Deal ?

a dozen of 50 euros? heck yeah! 😱

erm... wanna translate 18 1/2 stones to a poor continental european ?

That's around 118 pounds !

I find that a bit amusing as I don't know even one word of your language and here you are conversing in my language....Respect ! 😎

errr....try 314pounds lol 😛

*goes of to find how many kilos that are 😛*

yeah,...erm...redical 😕

Originally posted by m!$hA
thats what im saying! especially being a 14 yr old girl, friendships are the worst 🙄

nah, friendships are the worst when you are 8 or so, and you have those silly fights with your friends and they turn against you, and you're not experienced enough yet to know how to deal with it ❌

at 14 everything was perfect for me 😄

Originally posted by yerssot
sorry, but I have to disagree heavily with you. You make it sound like the life of a 14 year old girl is pure hell... do you know everybody's life to make this claim?

well i dont know the life of everyone, no...but being a 14 r old girl, i know that is is pure hell. and i dont know weather every single 14 girl goes through this, but i know that they go through a lot of horrible things, being the year of the bitchiness, pms, hormones and this age is usually the stage of hating your parents.

now im not saying that 14 yr old guys, or 50 year old guys, dont go through this, but i know that for us it is worse ... i mean unless the curcumstances werent "normal". say if a 14 yr old guy was poor, had no food, no family, no house, or if a 14 yr old girl was rich, beautiful, had everything she could dream of....obviously it'd be different but you know what i mean!?

Originally posted by yerssot
ah come on pap, you make it seem like I think 14 year old girls have it easy when all I was trying to say was that misha made it sound like they have it the most difficult. That idea is based on nothing BUT her experience, though there are millions of other kids that age who can have it easier or more difficult, or even kids of other ages that have it even worse than that.

It was to point out that you can't generalise such things

and for the record, my name is yerssot, not yersott

but it is a pretty well known fact that if everyone in the whole world was the same in wealthiness wise, and stuff like that, then a 14(ish) year old girl would be the worst to be because of the things i said above 😬 obviously noone can say "it is so hard being a teenage girl, and easyer to be a teenage boy" because they have never been both, so therefor they can not know. but based on surveys i guess they do, and how parents can handel their children, 14is girls would be the worst to have for sure! i know that i'd hate to have me as a child 😮

Originally posted by Evy_O
nah, friendships are the worst when you are 8 or so, and you have those silly fights with your friends and they turn against you, and you're not experienced enough yet to know how to deal with it ❌

at 14 everything was perfect for me 😄

you lucky biatch.

Originally posted by Evy_O
nah, friendships are the worst when you are 8 or so, and you have those silly fights with your friends and they turn against you, and you're not experienced enough yet to know how to deal with it ❌
at 14 everything was perfect for me 😄

along these lines, my little girl is now 11. We moved back to my hometown a year ago after I divorced her father. In the school that she had attended prior to the move she was one of the "popular" (for lack of a better word) kids. After the move I enrolled her in a school I liked. She started out liking it quite a bit and had made alot of new friends. Then one day, one of the little snits felt her territory was being invaded by my daughter and decided to do something about it. So she began to say not very nice things about Boo until her new friends basically fell into the opinion that the snit had. Now please dont misunderstand me, this is NOT a case of a mom being over protective, I actually witnessed this crap going on during a visit to school to eat lunch with my daughter. I dont think I have ever felt so bad for one of my children nor been so 😠 😠 😠 at someone elses child in my life!! Kids are cruel and MOST especially girls. Needless to say my daughter doesnt attend that school anymore, but the effects of that crap linger on. Just yesterday we were at a pool party for my cheerleaders and one of the moms had brought her daughter and another friend who were both in Boo's class at this other school last year. They completely and totally ignored my daughter. This is so heartbreaking to me as a mother. 🙁 🙁 It bothers me so much I think becuase my daughter is a sweet and loving and kind child which is why she was so well liked at her previous school.

is there any chance JP, you can introduce me to cheerleaders older than 18? or is it 21 in the states? *looks for famous GP naughty smiley*

Originally posted by m!$hA
if everyone in the whole world was the same in wealthiness wise, and stuff like that, then a 14(ish) year old girl would be the worst to be because of the things i said above 😬

(and for the third time: no one should think that I'm saying that 14 year old girls actually have it really easy, I'm not saying that, I'm trying to say that you need to look at everything on a person-by-person case)

Originally posted by m!$hA
you guys have cottages? 😱

yeah irene, your social life is quite like myne, exept that we dont have friday night partys yet weep

im still awaiting the time when someone finally has a party with alcahol and loud music and dancing droolio

yeah, i have the ppl i sit with @ school.....where theres the guys and girls....maybe 20 of us alltogether? then out of them about 10 that i really like? then out of that there 3 that i love, then out of THAT theres 1 that i really really love 😄

Well they're the parents cottages 😂

Cept during the summer me and a bunch of friends rent a beach house for a week or so 😄 cause some of them are already 18 and all 😊

And I know what you mean about school, I can identify the 200 or so kids in my grade by name 😂

And so you know the parties with alcohol and loud music and dancing, get boring after awhile droolio

Sorry DF02 & Yerssot....

That was 118 Kilos NOT pounds !

I am such a silly-billy ! 😮

that made a lot more sense 😄

Yo JP... You're overreacting. You have no idea the kind of bullshit the "non popular" kids have to go through. Being a shy, less than confident, rather introverted kid is MUCH worse than being social and capable of being well liked, but gaining a bad reputation... When I was in grade school, and to a lesser extent in 6th grade, I was picked on every single day at school... If I had been older, I honestly might have ended up being one of the unfortunate kids who end up shooting the school up. And the f*cking teachers wouldn't do a damn thing about it. The whole damn school bullied me... Even these asswipe little first graders... Mind, this was kind of a "rich" school, it was part of the "french immersion" program in my town... basically it was the best (academically) public school in town, where all the doctors/lawyers/successful businessmen sent their kids. So I guess what I'm trying to say here is, your daughter is better off than a lot of other kids.

er NO Im not overreacting........and I didnt day she had a bad reputation....what I said was she is a sweet, kind likable little girl and thats why she was popular at her old school and that because she isnt a mean vindictive little *****, the girl at her new school that is a mean vindictive little ***** made damn sure of it that she was treated like a geek. And Revan, if you dont HAVE your OWN children then you cant possibly have a clue about the feelings of a PARENT. IMHO