Sexism

Anti-Sematic?

yup, but not important 🙂

Originally posted by yerssot
no, it's not that ... not important anyway

trying is the first step to failure

Is chivalry sexist?
It depends. We’re living in a time-period were the gender-roles we’ve had for the last couple of hundred years are changing – stuff like “mum+dad+2½” kid is not what everyone strives for. Not every girl sees man+marriage+kids as the meaning of her life, just as not every guy thinks it’s the epitome of life to support a family and watch football.
But we’re in a transition period, and some stuff sticks. I like polite gentlemen, but as Destiny’s Child sang in the theme from Charlies Angles… “I depend on me.”

As I said, I've held open doors for women and been bitched at for thinking they "Can't do it themselves." Then I've tried letting them do it alone and I get "Wow what a true gentleman you are."

Strange.

-AC

Originally posted by yerssot
trying is the first step to failure

As I said, I've held open doors for women and been bitched at for thinking they "Can't do it themselves." Then I've tried letting them do it alone and I get "Wow what a true gentleman you are."

i've had exactly the same experience, but ill keep opening doors

Originally posted by The Omega
Is chivalry sexist?

I'm raised in a family where hospitality to guests is VERY important... Normally, if you are my guest... say, at home, on a date, or just going out, I am taught to pay for everything the guest has to pay for (but not the extras, so if you're in the zoo, you pay for that gigantic stuffed animal, but I'll buy the ticket, drink, food, ...)

Some girls I dated don't mind that at all, they see it as chivalry
Some girls I dated mind it a lot since "I take away their (financial) independance".

But do I have the intend to be sexist?
not at all
I see opening doors and such as a normal curtosy which I give to everyone... I also see taking care of guests as an important thing I have to do, no matter what the sex is of the guest.

I.e. Corran was here a few months ago, I talked with the others and stressed that I did not like him (Corran) to pay for anything since it's insulting my hospitality (so I have been taught)... is that sexist? no, it's how you're raised ... and ok ... I would have loved to have gone down with him 😛 (j/k)

If I get called a 'gentleman' for holding a door open I usually disagree and say I'm just being polite. As Yerssot said it depends how you're brought up. I was brought up in what appears to be a very similar fashion - even down to my love of food and all things chocolate... 😖

you must be belgian 😄

🤨 yeeeaaaah... 😐

I feel terrible for you

Dont I'm just an old english dog who probably has some great grandparent belgian person relative thing. 😕

sheppard from mechelen perhaps?

well I've eaten shepphards pie, maybe that's where I get it from! 😱

Originally posted by Baylin
If I get called a 'gentleman' for holding a door open I usually disagree and say I'm just being polite. As Yerssot said it depends how you're brought up. I was brought up in what appears to be a very similar fashion - even down to my love of food and all things chocolate... 😖

you hold doors open? marry me cry

you ate your family? 😑

I hold doors open, pull out chairs etc. That's what I consider common courtesy.

-AC

same here, but some might dislike it 😉