Loved and Lost?

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
Is there any truth to the cliche "Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?".

I'm curious as to your thoughts coz I can see both sides.

-AC

Depends on how you view it I think.

Personally I always think everyone should go for it when it concerns love. I mean to try and fail is better then to wonder about "what if?" for the rest of your life.

If I hadden't "tried" with Storm I would still be wondering what if

However I also think that when it's right like it is wiv Storm and I. You don't need much conviction you just do things without thinking about them. They just feel right.

Only when I'm with Storm I (can) trully listen to my heart instead of my mind.

I definately think that quote is very true.

No matter how you may feel for a while after you lose a love, in the long run you'll have some wonderful memories of that relationship, and good memories are priceless.

If you want to see a good movie study this concept, watch Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.

Love is wierd.

This is similar to another thread, 'Love', in the off-topic forum, so I will repeat what I said there:

I tried it. I always thought 'whatever' when I heard that tired old clichè. I decided to take a chance, though. I knew there was no future for us, as I would have to go back to my own country in a year or two, but rather than hide under a rock for the rest of my life in fear of getting hurt, I opened myself up.

When I eventually had to go back to my own country, I cried for about a year.

It was still the best thing that ever happened to me in my life. I will never regret a second of it, and I pity anybody who goes through life too scared to love because they are scared they will get hurt.

Being a coward is no life.

We are the sum total of our experiences, so if we have not known love, then we have not truly lived! 😉

Yeah. I like that.

My signature pretty much says it all: "Love is a crafty lie, an evil being, to subdue your soul".

Nothing more, nothing less. Why do we all believe we need love? Because we do I guess. Love is often the crafty lie manufactured by one party to achieve something else (whatver that may be), usually not involving the other party.

That's when your subdued soul flares up and you have to go through the whole thing again to ahcieve your subdued, or "happy" phase.

What a load of crap.

We should probably just accept that the only person you really need to love you is you. Other people are bonuses, but in the end, if you don't love yourself, that's tickets for you then.

Is there any truth to the cliche "Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?".

This depends on one's opinion of that true love. If a one person called X is lusting after another person called Y, and X thinks they are "in love" with Y, the cliche doesn't really apply to this case...

Whereas if you've been in love once, real love I mean, they'll realise that it is better to have loved and lost rather than to not have loved ever.

😮...Hey...but that's just my opinion...

If you go from having 1 apple, to having 2 apples, you will be more grateful for the second apple. If you go from 2 apples to 1 apple you will miss that second one, but you will have had it in the first place.

frodo.......I'm not going to comment on content.......but bad analogy.

you + 2 apples........= 3 subjects. normally in cases of love there are only two.

For the analogy to fit you would have to be one of the apples.......who came together with the other......only to have it leave.

I take it back, for it is better to feel something than nothing.

Who was it who said (along these lines): "Should such joy follow great sorrow that our sadness would never end!"

(Or something like that, I have probably completely butchered it, though 🙂.)

let me ask anyone who doesnt agree
IS IT BETTER TO HAVE LIVED AND DIED, THEN NOT HAVE LIVED AT ALL?

another thing, love {that is true love} should not be compared to apples or numbers.

and i know from expirience that it is better to have loved and lost then to not have loved at all.

i'd say it isnt better to have loved and lost, just because if you've loved and lost then the pain is greater than never to have loved at all. i mean, its not that the memories arent good to have, because they are, but in my experience, the pain is much greater...

I agree with the saying.. good memories boost our spirits when we're depressed about something at certain times in our lives.

but at the same time, I can agree with the people who think the statement is false and would rather never have loved, because it depends on how deep or painful that loss was.

A good way to look at it I guess is like, as sad as it is to be in loss of one you love, the only reason you feel that sad is because you felt so good before. So it's sorta like a reminder of what was great.

-AC

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
Is there any truth to the cliche "Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?".

I wouldn't call a Keats quote a 'cliche', but anyway...

I think the answer to this question is simple. A life spent in the shadow of defence and regret is a life spent in darkness. Step into the light and you may not like what you see, but at least you have the kind of judgement that comes from experience, rather than fear.

"Beauty is truth, truth beauty,"--that is all
Ye know on earth, and all ye need to know.

- Keats, again...

you can only hurt real bad if you cherish your things more than average people....

example--> see how kids cherish thier toys... and how adults keep thier photos together...

Be resolute, fear no sacrifice, and surmount every difficulty to win victory - Mao Tse-tung

Originally posted by finti
[B]Be resolute, fear no sacrifice, and surmount every difficulty to win victory - Mao Tse-tung [/B]

MAO TSE-TUNG!?! MAO TSE-TUNG!?!?!?! Mao Tse-tung was a philandering dictator whose actions were irreconcilable with his words! If you know ANYTHING about Mao Tse-tung then the last place you would be quoting him would be in a discussion about LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!