"It is Better to have Lost a Love then never Have Loved At All"
There are a Wide variaty of feelings acociated with love... Happyniess, fear, With loss Comes sadness, Regret and maybe even Anger.
The author Wanted to say that it is better to feel bad, then never feeling anything.
Seeing as I shut myself down at around 10, I would have to disagree, I mean, Look How stable I am today! 😄
But you Fu¢king Idiots wouldn't know, Just beacsue you are posting in a Philosophy forum Doesn't mean you are the all wise Illuminated 14 year olds you think youa re, I must admit tehre are eceptions, and Heck, I don't even know everything.
I thought I was incapable of feeling love, I had never loved anyone. Until a few weeks ago I meet a girl and fell in "love" with her, she was the only thing that kept me going. The short time we spent together felt great, I was happy for once and saw the difference between love and lust. Things did not go as planed I f**ked up some how, I don't know how but she dumped me and now I just want to die, I once again see that there is no such thing as love, It's just an illusion a weakness, I would of done anything for her. I lesson to the not so wise never fall in love because love never lasts long enough like drugs....
Everything is temporary, everything we experience we will lose one day. I think the better we have to do is to have those experiences, and learn what we can, and then when it ends, we will still have something remaining with us. Its not just about love, but all life is like this, did you prefer to never be born, as to have to live, and suffer, but learn something that you can carry with you forever.
I feel life is so exciting when you experience new events...If a person never feels love and then loss, would he/she truly of lived all they could...NO, I don't think so. You can look back on it and say "Hey! that was a great experience."....Wow! now on to the next adventure. You have to go out and experience everything to the fullest. It only makes life more exciting....If you went on a trip to Egypt lets say, but just stayed in your room, what good it that. That's what life is. Are you gonna stay in your room (play it save), or are you gonna see all the sites (taking chances, and experiencing all there is)....I feel a person should fill in every nook and cranny while we're here.....You can look back on all your experiences just like looking through a photo album...Saying, I sure did experience some cool things....Sometimes you just need to look at it in retrospect to get a good picture, for sure...From the outside looking in...beyond it all.
For me, as a Buddhist, the most difficult thing not to be attached to would be my loved ones - I can't imagine losing my daughter or wife to death. I know that death is just a portal into more life, and that one should not be attached to anything, but it will take some serious meditation for me to not be totally crushed by the death of my wife or daughter.
Re: Loved and Lost?
Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
Is there any truth to the cliche "Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?".I'm curious as to your thoughts coz I can see both sides.
-AC
No, because if you love and lose, it hardens you to reality. You are either adapting to the pain, or crumpling under the preasure. Where if you never loved at all, your state is preserved.
However what the little "cliche" is trying to express is "It's better to try and fail, than not try at all." That in which I find better said than the above quote.