Philosophy in 'Teenage' Love

I know everyone has their own views, including I. And I wanted to know if you thought teenage love was possible!?!
As for my views, I, without a doubt, DO think teenage love is possible. Ill use some of my own examples to explain. I know Im only 15, actually 16 in one month, and just because Im only 15 doesnt mean I cant make a 'grown-up' decision for myself, and being in love at my age isnt just a decision its a feeling really. Im just saying that just because im young doesnt mean I cant experience what anyone in their 20's or 30's could feel. I've been told many many times that most high school couples dont make it, but the key word is "most" not all, and plus doesnt anyone else above us in age have twice as high of a chance of getting into a fight and breaking up/divorcing than us? I think so!
Tell me what you think.

Well, like you i am only 15. And rite now i (think) am in love with a certain girl. As im as young as i am i have no clear understanding of wat it is threfore do not know what love is. Although i have never felt like this about anyone else so i perceive it as love, is it? I truly dont know.

I take it as a "beginning to middle" stage of love. Definately. About two months ago I felt that and now omg, I cry every time Im away from Daniel for more than a few hours.

Well, it's time for my slightly cynical opinion on this matter. I'm 16, nearly 17 and I don't think teenagers are capable of truly understanding love. Our primary drive is lust, physical and chemical. Our heads are too clouded by this lust to accept that it isn't love. As teenagers with a lot of crap always on our minds it's impossible to tell love from lust and we tend to mistake lust for love. I just figure it's something we can't understand until we're out of this awkward transitional stage. But if we can't understand it, who's to say I'm right or wrong unless you're grown up.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you shouldn't date or anything. Just, don't let it all get to your head that you're truly in love. One day it'll come to you, wether it's with your highschool sweetheart or not and then you'll realize what love really is.

This is, of course, eros. The other forms of love are less complicated. I know for sure that I love my friends and my family but until I'm out of school I won't be admitting to love anyone as a spouce. That would be out and out lying. If you tell someone you love them and then you don't get married you're a liar.

I have absolutely NOTHING against that. I love your opinion, well said.

Originally posted by Andrew McLeod
This is, of course, eros. The other forms of love are less complicated. I know for sure that I love my friends and my family but until I'm out of school I won't be admitting to love anyone as a spouce. That would be out and out lying. If you tell someone you love them and then you don't get married you're a liar.

You don't need to make a legal bond to show your love is real.

Possibly the most ridiculous notion there is.

I don't buy the whole "You don't know about love till you grow up" theory. We all have different views on what love is so maybe your concept of love is different to mine, hence why you say you haven't been in it.

I know that I have, nobody can tell me different. Love doesn't always work out but it doesn't remove from the fact that it's love.

-AC

Wow, charming Alpha and well said. My boyfriend and I are actually waiting until we get out of high school to get married. Its a smart decision ey? I mean I suppose someone is thinking "Well it wont work before then, you'll already be broken up" I highly doubt that but if we are...so be it... love can always be found...and Love IS what I found, from Daniel.

Love is more complicated then just a feeling...And when you are younger you don't really know what all that involves. You feel you do, just as I and many of my friends did, but once we got older, we realized that love encompasses much much more. Many adults haven't even learned that. Love is not a "gimme thing" it's a "give you thing"

Love is truly putting ourself second...If it's to work..And yes you can feel love. I sure did at 14.

Originally posted by Loving_Daniel11
I know everyone has their own views, including I. And I wanted to know if you thought teenage love was possible!?!
As for my views, I, without a doubt, DO think teenage love is possible. Ill use some of my own examples to explain. I know Im only 15, actually 16 in one month, and just because Im only 15 doesnt mean I cant make a 'grown-up' decision for myself, and being in love at my age isnt just a decision its a feeling really. Im just saying that just because im young doesnt mean I cant experience what anyone in their 20's or 30's could feel. I've been told many many times that most high school couples dont make it, but the key word is "most" not all, and plus doesnt anyone else above us in age have twice as high of a chance of getting into a fight and breaking up/divorcing than us? I think so!
Tell me what you think.

Interesting thought you got going there.Yea I think love is possible,If you find the right person who you truly love and I mean love I don't mean excuse my lanuage want to sleep with)
and want to spend the rest of your life is.Then yea that is love.Teenager or not.JM

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
You don't need to make a legal bond to show your love is real.

Possibly the most ridiculous notion there is.
-AC

What I meant was more the meaning of it. The idea that if you love someone you're willing to spend the rest of your life with them. If you break up then it wasn't love. True love is worth working for and you'll struggle to ensure the true love stays. That's what I meant.

Yeah but regardless of what you meant, you said if you love someone and don't marry them (the legal bond part), then you don't love them.

Which is a bit (a lot) not true.

-AC

Well, if you told someone that you loved them, and you don't get married to that person, I think that there was some kind of love there. And no, I'm not talking about lust. I don't believe that you're lying if you tell someone that you love them but you don't get married. I tell one of my ex's that I love him, and I always will, just in a different way.

So I kinda disagree there

Can you find real love before real innocence is lost? I think not.

Most teenagers who say they are in love are simply experiencing naive infatuation. When you grow-up you learn to appreciate the difference...It's a whole lot better and far less suffocating.

Well, it's tricky. First off, everyone has a different idea of what love is. I THOUGHT I knew what love was before, but I've realized now that before when I felt that I loved someone, it was nothing but a silly crush. I'm just now learning how intense real love is, how it feels when you really love someone. And it's wonderful, one of the best feelings in the world. In fact, it's the best thing I've ever felt. And there's no pressure, either. So, I guess that it is possible to love someone when you're a teenager (I assume by teenager you mean 15-16-17 years old, which is what everyone's been saying in here), but not until you get a little older can you fully appreciate what it means and how it feels.

Originally posted by Andrew McLeod
What I meant was more the meaning of it. The idea that if you love someone you're willing to spend the rest of your life with them. If you break up then it wasn't love. True love is worth working for and you'll struggle to ensure the true love stays. That's what I meant.

Not true, plenty of couples break up and they were really in love. Most people who break up with someone continue to love the other person.

When one is in love... One should know it... that's what I say anyway...

Originally posted by Ou Be Low hoo
Can you find real love before real innocence is lost? I think not.

Most teenagers who say they are in love are simply experiencing naive infatuation. When you grow-up you learn to appreciate the difference...It's a whole lot better and far less suffocating.

Bit of a stretch there Mr. Fantastic, because 'most' teenagers is a very general quote.

I don't view love as a one time thing so yes, I believe it more than possible to be in love at slightly over mid to late teens. It is true that you often think you're in love, a couple of times. You may never experience love as a teen, it may come later, but I'll say this.

You may think you're in love, but only experiencing real love will ever show you what WASN'T love before. I know this because I was in a situation with a girl where I thought, beyond all doubt that she was my first love. Then when I DID fall in love, it dwarfed everything I had experienced.

-AC

Rubbish, Love is the guy dressed in the sack-cloth following the procession on the dusty path out of town... hell when he meets you, you don't even know he was until he goes...

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
Bit of a stretch there Mr. Fantastic, because 'most' teenagers is a very general quote.

Well, yes, indeed...'most teenagers' is a very general term, because I am using it in a very general manner. There are exceptions that serve to prove the rule...Romeo and Juliet being such exceptions...

On the subject of ol' Shakes...

"Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind."

It is a truism that a teenage mind is still in it's infancy, so thoughts of fancy are just that...

Oh, and it's Sir Fantastic...but, at a push, I'll accept 'Dr.'

Nah, Everyone has the right to believe what they believe and my beliefs and feelings are that Love is very real at this age; possible. And I can appreciate it just as much now when im young, happy and full of energy instead of older. Thats just the way I see it.

Not really a philosophy, so moving to GDF arrow