Philosophy in 'Teenage' Love

hmm I was in love with my girlfriend when I was a teen, didnt stop me for nailing as many other chicks as possible though, now though I wouldnt dream about acting that way.
What I try to say is just like you love matures with age, you kind of get a more responsible feeling of and for love if you all get my drift, but again this might adn probably do differ from person to person....

Me and my girlfriend have been together for 10 years now, we have adaughter together so I think when me and Monika got together I was in the setteling down mode, not like when a teen and young 20`s when it was to nail as many girls as possible. When me and my mates hit the pubs and bars in the weekends it was to get drunk and meet girls, not meet them for realtion ship but for sexual encounters .........but hey thats just me

Most teenagers who say they are in love are simply experiencing naive infatuation

ok it might be a fact that 'most'{not all} teens who think they are in love dont even know what love really is, but then again neither do most adults really, only thing is that because of social and family pressures and because of the fact that they are a little more responsible owing to more expirience, they manage to stay together for longer but most of the time its because of the situation thrust upon them and not love. actually, since younger people are generally more innocent and less hardened than older folks, therefore i think that their love is more true than a grownup's love.

plus i disagree completely with poeple who say that teens dont know what love is,{beeing only 16.5 myself} i can say that teens CAN truly fall in love.

Originally posted by Ou Be Low hoo
Can you find real love before real innocence is lost? I think not.

Most teenagers who say they are in love are simply experiencing naive infatuation. When you grow-up you learn to appreciate the difference...It's a whole lot better and far less suffocating.

Very well put.

Originally posted by Andrew McLeod
This is, of course, eros. The other forms of love are less complicated. I know for sure that I love my friends and my family but until I'm out of school I won't be admitting to love anyone as a spouce. That would be out and out lying. If you tell someone you love them and then you don't get married you're a liar.

That has got to be the stupidest thing Ive ever seen in KMC, "If you tell someone you love them and then you don't want to get married you're a liar"

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puh-lease!

plus i disagree completely with poeple who say that teens dont know what love is,{beeing only 16.5 myself} i can say that teens CAN truly fall in love.

Originally posted by Ou Be Low hoo
It is a truism that a teenage mind is still in it's infancy, so thoughts of fancy are just that...

Oh, and it's Sir Fantastic...but, at a push, I'll accept 'Dr.'

I'm 19, let me just completely prove that 'truism' wrong by saying it's not true.

Thoughts of fancy ARE just that. So feelings of love can be just that also. Just because alot of teens feel that they are in love when they're not, doesn't mean it's ALWAYS that way.

I didn't experience love till I was 18. So you can throw the whole "teens fall in love the whole time" thing away. I've always appreciated relationships and it's never been one crush after another. Whilst none of them bar one, were love, they were all treated with care and respect.

I'm never gonna say I won't be in love again. I will, it will be stronger and I'll have a better understanding/appreciation of it. However, that doesn't mean that it WASN'T love before hand.

-AC

You fall in love at an early age, you break up, it hurts bad...you curse love...then you realize that all that pain just made you stronger. You don't make the same mistake twice, and you have an ever increasing grasp on what love truly is.

At 16...you haven't been burned enough to know what love truly is...but life has quite a few more lessons in store for you.

I agree, with the last part. Also the first, mostly.

I never fell in love till I was 18 at the latest. I had large, genuine infatuations and lengthy relationships but that was about it. Up till now I've only been in love once, truly. I still recognise that there is MORE to love that I'll learn but I'm not removing from the fact that I experienced it.

-AC

I was always sort of scared of the thought of being in love with someone because I was scared of being hurt -- this keeps me from being able to get to close to people. Because of this, I've only had a crush on 3 people inside the past 6 years, and only 1 actually came to anything. When I first realized that I was indeed in love, it was when I was 18, 3 months before my birthday. That was 5 months ago, now, and while I can say that yes, I am indeed in love, I also recognize that I still have very much to learn about being in love with someone, and I know that I don't know everything, and I learn more every day. It's not always easy, but it's definitely worth it.

I dont' want to sound mean, and I most certainly wish you the best with your relationship...but I think when/if the relationship ends it will be a good thing for you. You'll get hurt bad, but you'll be stronger for experiencing what you've experienced and your next relationship should be even more meaningful.

It doesn't sound mean, because I know that...I know that should it end it will be awful for me...but I also know that in the end it will make me a stronger person.

I wonder what fifteen-year old teenagers would think if older people told them that there's a 90% chance they won't even know their boyfriend/girlfriend when they're older, and if they do there's a good chance it won't be in good spirits.

Sure, I guess it's possible for teenagers to be in love. However, it's damn near impossible for teenagers to find LASTING love. I.E. Who you're in love with now is probably, almost definately NOT the person you are going to be with in 10 years.

As a teen, you're not completely mentally developed yet, your emotions are still new to you, so you exagerate everything about your first relationship. Everyone thinks when they're with their first companion that "This is who I'm going to marry, I love him/her so much blah blah blah". I'd bet dollars to donuts that it won't happen. And if you do marry the person right out of high school, then get ready to get a divorce shortly after.

I think marriage should NOT happen untill everything in your life is set, you have a steady job, you've experienced numerous relationships and know how they work, and so on. It's so easy to say this stuff when you're a teen, because your mind simply can't comprehend past the short term, so you think what you have now is what you're going to have forever, because you can't picture it any other way.

Anyways, love is a very difficult thing, even for adults, for teens, it's a damn tragedy waiting to happen, but, a tragedy that will in the end make you stronger then you were before

Nicely said BF. I love reading everyone's opinions.

Originally posted by Ou Be Low hoo
Can you find real love before real innocence is lost? I think not.

Most teenagers who say they are in love are simply experiencing naive infatuation. When you grow-up you learn to appreciate the difference...It's a whole lot better and far less suffocating.

I agree for the most part. I do believe that there are instances where people can fall in love in their teens, and stay together for the rest of their lives. But, especially in this day and age, it is less prevelent. People in this generation are far less likely to stay with one person their entire lives since kids grow up much faster than they used to. These days, kids know more about sex than their grandparents did at twice their age.

I do agree with what's being said.

In this day and age when it's far less complicated, easier and functional (to most) to just have friends, or f*ck buddies, there's no real need for a relationship. Thankfully, it does still happen. It's just extremely unlikely at a young age now.

-AC

I'd much rather have a serious relationship than just f*ck buddies, honestly...I don't care which one's easier, I care more about it being meaningful. Simply having friends I sleep with isn't me, at all.

Personally, I have no problem with doing either because I make clear how I feel when I do, so no one gets hurt. Which is important to me.

I have many platonic female friends. Which is great. When I'm not ready for a relationship straight after one, I'm not gonna jump into one. If I feel like I want "company" I won't deprive myself.

When I feel like I want a serious relationship, or looking to start one, I'll knock that stuff on the head and pursue it.

As long as it isn't hurting anyone, I don't see that it's a problem. Not saying you suggested it was, you're just not for it, which is cool and understandable. I respect your view.

-AC

Oh, I have no problem with other people doing it, I just don't think I'd ever be able to. It's just not my style, I need some emotional attachment before I feel able to do anything. I guess when it comes to love and sex I'm a little old-fashioned, I'm a believer of "love before sex", so I don't think I'd ever be able to sleep with someone that I didn't feel I was in love with or could fall in love with. It's just not me.