KharmaDog
Dyslexic Agnostic
Love is a tricky word to define, and a trickier emotion to validate.
The thing is, love is forever changing. The love that two 20 year old kids feel between each other as compared to a couple that have been happily married for 40+ years is very different and went through many different stages to get to that point.
I personally don't think that really young people (in general) are capable of experiencing the type of love or loving relationship that can result in a lifelong commitment for the following reasons:
- in our early years we are still learning about ourselves, what we want out of life, what we want to do, what makes us unique. How can you really get to know what you want out of another person until you know yourself?
- haven't met enough people to compare their feelings or define their attractions
- until you have suffered from at least one major tragedy in your life, you don't know what you are made of
- to really experience love and appreciate love, you first have get your heart broken a couple of times
- preferences change through adolescence and early adulthood, if you think that won't apply to you, look around at anyone who 30+ and see how they dress, what music they listen to and the values they have, and ask them how they are different from when they are 16
I don't think that young people don't or can't fall in love, I do think that there are various different levels or intensities of love, and not until you are more mature or more experienced can you discover these or fully appreciate them. That being said, some people never do.