Flirting

Originally posted by Syren
✅ I see.

So you do agree that flirtatiousness is acceptable? I mean, you said yourself;

"A playful showing of romantic interest is pretty much lying to the other person if the romantic interest doesn't really exist. Men do flirt, but in the majority of cases, they are somewhat interested."

So you admit that you flirt without having a romantic interest? Therefore, flirting with a member of the opposite sex for reasons of fun and enjoyment is perfectly natural?

I didn't say there was absolutely no romantic interest, just not a sexual one.

Originally posted by Evil Dead
women are looked down upon because they are acting in direct contradiction to our biological impulses.....while men are praised for doing their job well by spreading their seed around as much as possible, it is their job.

no......men don't do it to be "playful". If a man is flirting with you......he does want to fu[b]ck you. He's not playing....he's not leading you on..........he's trying to get inside your vagina................which by what you say is the exact opposite of women's reasons. Women just do it to play......with no actual intension of giving up the poon.....they just want to tease men to make themselves feel better. [/B]

This is what I had a problem with, do you agree or disagree Kenobi?

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Originally posted by Evil Dead
women are looked down upon because they are acting in direct contradiction to our biological impulses.....while men are praised for doing their job well by spreading their seed around as much as possible, it is their job.

no......men don't do it to be "playful". If a man is flirting with you......he does want to **** you. He's not playing....he's not leading you on..........he's trying to get inside your vagina................which by what you say is the exact opposite of women's reasons. Women just do it to play......with no actual intension of giving up the poon.....they just want to tease men to make themselves feel better.

Originally posted by Syren
This is what I had a problem with, do you agree or disagree Kenobi?

If you want to get into chemicals, I would agree. But intent plays a big part in things.

I completely disagree about the man always wanting to have sex with the woman. That may be Evil's MO, but it's not true of every man.

I know that, I was aiming below the belt. In a non sexual manner of course 😄

I don't agree with the primal side of it, I believe society has played a huge part in changing all that.

Intent plays the biggest role, and whether you're flirting with the intention of getting laid or just for your own personal gratification, I honestly think it's up to the individual. Each to their own.

Back to the simple question, yes, I flirt. I mean no harm, but it's enjoyable for both parties. I would never lead someone on for manipulative reasons, or use someone with less confidence as a pawn in my flirtatious games.

If you flirt for fun and someone views flirting as something people do to get laid, it leads to places.

-AC

My boyf just said exactly that...

But as far as I'm concerned, if my primary reason for flirting with anyone is to get a reaction and for self reassurance (on a basic level), why should I have to take responsibility for their perception? It's their prerogative, their point of view... and as long as I know (and my boyf knows) that I would never cross the line, what's so bad about enjoying harmless attention?

Originally posted by Syren
I know that, I was aiming below the belt. In a non sexual manner of course 😄

I don't agree with the primal side of it, I believe society has played a huge part in changing all that.

Intent plays the biggest role, and whether you're flirting with the intention of getting laid or just for your own personal gratification, I honestly think it's up to the individual. Each to their own.

Back to the simple question, yes, I flirt. I mean no harm, but it's enjoyable for both parties. I would never lead someone on for manipulative reasons, or use someone with less confidence as a pawn in my flirtatious games.

I think it's up to the individual as long as there is understanding between both parties. Flirting is fun until one person misconstrues the message being sent. Too often it becomes an issue of control.

Now another question. What makes someone a good flirter?

Flirting is completely harmless. There is a big difference between flirting and telling a person "Hey let's go *beep*". But to be fair, I don't flirt because I'm gonna end up looking like a total idiot. So I just don't do it.

That's a really hard question and again I think it comes down to the individuals invloved. Not just the flirter themselves but the 'flirtee', as it were 😄

Depending on what the person likes, the one who is being flirted with, and also what the flirter is capable of. Also, which environment they are both in, etc...

For me, someone who reads body language well and can assess a situation from various angles. For instance, you woudln't flirt outrageously with someone else's partner... it's just not flirting etiquette.

Well, I suck at flirting. It's very uncomfortable to me, but more than a few female friends have said I'm good at it. The problem is, I don't even realize that I'm doing anything at all.

That's natural confidence, obviously people have different levels. Also, many people are extremely conscious of themselves and literally think each step through in the flirting process. IMO, that takes away half the enjoyment.

Originally posted by Syren
That's natural confidence, obviously people have different levels. Also, many people are extremely conscious of themselves and literally think each step through in the flirting process. IMO, that takes away half the enjoyment.

Hmmmm... I never looked at it like that.

Flirting has to be spontaneous, something you do because you feel a 'chemical' attraction to someone, or an urge to let them know you noticed them. It still doesn't need to be for sexual reasons, maybe even just because you like the look of them and feel like you want to know more...

Well then, how would this chemical reaction work if you were attracted to someone's personality? I understand the chemical reactions based on looks, but the personality attraction seems to be more analytical to me. I guess a good example would internet relationships or blind dates that you've spoken on the phone to before you actually meet in person. I wonder if the flirting in those situations is spontaneous or more conscious.

Yeah, liking the look of someone is usually based on their physical attributes, whether they're aesthetically pleasing etc... but have you never had that moment when you locked eyes with someone and felt the air charge with electricity? You may not have even noticed what they're wearing... you just know they're something else.

Eh. I don't know about that. Usually it's when they speak that I feel the electricity. I can't recall ever just looking at someone and thinking oh my I must get to know her.

I can't flirt. Would girls here give me some advice?(I am men by the way, but I trust women more when they speak about their gender).

Originally posted by Oswald Kenobi
Eh. I don't know about that. Usually it's when they speak that I feel the electricity. I can't recall ever just looking at someone and thinking oh my I must get to know her.

Yep. And you can't see speech 😂

Do you think people in different countries with different up bringings act or feel in a different way??? I have one very good friend who is English and has a German girlfriend. having worked with him(Paul) I have realised that I have grown up in a society where it's the norm. to be a so called player (for a male) or a sl*t (for a female). I have grown up in and out of relationships with this drilled into the back of my mind. I can't get the idea out of my head that a female or male can 'Flirt' without having that intention of gettin' a FU*K out of it!!!!! Where I have lived and the way I have been brought up I don't think there's anything wrong with being this way!!! If your not in a relationship.. Once you have vowed to be i a relationship then you should chuck all these standards out-tha-window....!!!! Agree!!!!????? 🙄 🙄 🙄

Originally posted by Syren
Yep. And you can't see speech 😂

Truly, women are most complex organism ever created. LOL