I understand what you guys are saying. However, i REFUSE to believe that NO alternatives exist. I mean for christ's sake, if there were alternatives over here back during communism when you dont even wanna know what kinda shit went on, i'll never accept that in modern day america there are NO alternatives.
~wickerman~
Originally posted by BackFire
That doesn't make it okay to take the law into your own hands and dump scoulding oil on the man or cut his dick off or kill him or anything. Because there are some shitty cops around doesn't excuse this type of act.PVS - That maybe so, but I'd think that a reasonable person could see something is significantly wrong with someone mentally before having several children with them. And again, if it that wasn't the case, she still has the choice to leave.
Except it's not just 'some' shitty cops, BF....that's the case in the majority of cases I've heard and read about. No, I don't think that taking the law into your own hands is right, but maybe if the people who are supposed to protect and serve would actually do so, people wouldn't have to resort to doing so.
Originally posted by Lana
Damn. That's horrible.See? Stuff like THAT is why women are afraid to leave an abusive relationship.
Again, that doesn't negate the fact that she does have a choice in the matter, just because it's not a good choice doesn't mean there is NO choice, and it certainly doesn't excuse taking the law into your own hand, exceptions can't be made.
Hahaha, you've gotta love all this really. Haven't you?
"What if she had this done to her, or that, or this?"
What if she didn't? I don't believe in the death penalty anyway, so lets not assume I'm saying the woman be killed.
I love how certain females in this thread automatically assume the woman had some ultra positive reason for dousing the man in hot oil. If she was battered, raped and abused, I'm not gonna deny that the man had it coming to him. I'm not assuming there's not more to the story. I'm going by what I've been informed until I get further details, as were many people in this thread.
But noooo, "What is she had a reason?" Then she had a reason. I don't know that she did or didn't. All I know is that she threw oil over her husband.
Irene, as for you being disgusted about me saying it seems so female. If you look at known female "revenge" tactics for stupid things, they are often quite spiteful and manipulative acts. A man may beat his wife to punish her, a woman can't beat a man more often than not so she may...oooh....throw oil over him. I'm not justifying either but until I'm actually shown what has happened, I'm not assuming the woman had reason. Funny how women here are doing that. It really shows how psychologically, women defend women sometimes. I'm so sick of all this double-standard that women are never the aggressors in relationship violence. It's pathetic.
In no way am I justifying domestic violence on men or women, I've seen the shit happen. So don't come back with "You're saying it's ok?".
-AC
Originally posted by BackFire
Again, that doesn't negate the fact that she does have a choice in the matter, just because it's not a good choice doesn't mean there is NO choice, and it certainly doesn't excuse taking the law into your own hand, exceptions can't be made.
I never said that it's okay to take the law into your own hands. My point is that the police need to actually do something about these sorts of situations. They don't.
Originally posted by BackFire
Again, that doesn't negate the fact that she does have a choice in the matter, just because it's not a good choice doesn't mean there is NO choice, and it certainly doesn't excuse taking the law into your own hand, exceptions can't be made.
ah but see I dont believe ANY of the women in this thread have said that this was an appropriate act. What we've said is NOT to rush to judgement.
Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
Irene, as for you being disgusted about me saying it seems so female. If you look at known female "revenge" tactics for stupid things, they are often quite spiteful and manipulative acts. A man may beat his wife to punish her, a woman can't beat a man more often than not so she may...oooh....throw oil over him.-AC
There have been more than enough documented cases of men throwing acid on women in the middle east.
Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
Irene, as for you being disgusted about me saying it seems so female. If you look at known female "revenge" tactics for stupid things, they are often quite spiteful and manipulative acts. A man may beat his wife to punish her, a woman can't beat a man more often than not so she may...oooh....throw oil over him. I'm not justifying either but until I'm actually shown what has happened, I'm not assuming the woman had reason. Funny how women here are doing that. It really shows how psychologically, women defend women sometimes. I'm so sick of all this double-standard that women are never the aggressors in relationship violence. It's pathetic.-AC
Now, if she had poisoned him and you had said it sounded like something a woman would do, would they have reacted in the same way?
(I'll give them the benefit of the doubt and say that they misinterpreted what you meant in your original statement.)