Internet Relationships vs. Real life

So I was observing alot of the relationships that go on in KMC and other forums I have visted and noticed that alot of people who participate in an online relationship are already commited in real life to someone else. I really dont agree with this, and I do believe it is considered an act of cheating.

Say your real life boy/girlfriend was on another forum and one day you stop in to see what he was so attracted to it for and you notice somewhere in he display set up (under his signature or location) it said "I love you Dirty(girl/boy)3". How would you react?

I do think that alot of internet relationships can work out an I have seen it happen before, so I can't really see what would make internet dating and real life dating different when it comes to morality.

What are your opinions?

I will be the first to respond....yay!!!.....I think relationships on the internet can work out if people are honest......I mean if you are not honest nothing ever works out..........so that would be the key......and if your boyfriend or girlfriend is posting crap like that on the forum...thats f@$#ed up......I'd be oprn to finding a relationship on the internet.....hint hint...jk lol

How I see it as, is if you're in an online relationship, that's all well and good and all (I am the last person to say they are a bad idea, obviously), but you really say you're boyfriend/girlfriend or that you're going out because really.....you aren't.

I suppose how it comes down though is the bounds of your relationship and such, and in that aspect it's going to be different in every single case.

Honestly, I think they're usually nothing more then wishful thinking.

Originally posted by BackFire
Honestly, I think they're usually nothing more then wishful thinking.

Co-signed

Unless it leads to (lot's of) sex, what's the point in an on-line relationship? Sounds like an exercise in futility, if you ask me.

Go on. Ask me...

I think that an initial attraction can start over the internet on a site like this if they post something that makes you take notice of them and makes you curious about them, but if it is ever going to develop into anything deep and lasting, than there has to be real contact. To not believe this would be to underestimate the bond that physical presence brings, I think. Physical presence breeds affection in ways that flirting online or having conversations in these forums can not and affection is essential in a relationship. That can be hard to admit because it makes us seem more like animals than intelligent human beings but I think it is true.
As far as it being cheating: It might as well be. It certainly doesn't strengthen your relationship and the only way that it doesn't weaken it is if there really isn't any commitment in the relationship to begin with.

Originally posted by Ronny
So I was observing alot of the relationships that go on in KMC and other forums I have visted and noticed that alot of people who participate in an online relationship are already commited in real life to someone else. I really dont agree with this, and I do believe it is considered an act of cheating.

Say your real life boy/girlfriend was on another forum and one day you stop in to see what he was so attracted to it for and you notice somewhere in he display set up (under his signature or location) it said "I love you Dirty(girl/boy)3". How would you react?

Originally posted by Ya Krunk'd Floo
Unless it leads to (lot's of) sex, what's the point in an on-line relationship? Sounds like an exercise in futility, if you ask me.

Go on. Ask me...

Krunk I am curious whats the point of an internet relationship if I am not getting laid 3 times a day (with someone else.) 😱

It's not impossible for attraction of some kind to be there, but I believe online relationships are pointless if you both have absolutely no plans to make it happen in real life at some point.

If you meet online, then hang out or start visiting each other. It's more or less just a long distance relationship that started online. You can't help where you meet. If you start "dating" online but have no plans to meet at all, or are incapable of doing so (however long the distance is) then it's pointless.

-AC

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
It's not impossible for attraction of some kind to be there, but I believe online relationships are pointless if you both have absolutely no plans to make it happen in real life at some point.

If you meet online, then hang out or start visiting each other. It's more or less just a long distance relationship that started online. You can't help where you meet. If you start "dating" online but have no plans to meet at all, or are incapable of doing so (however long the distance is) then it's pointless.

-AC

It's not pointless as long as one derives pleasure from it.

Originally posted by BackFire
Honestly, I think they're usually nothing more then wishful thinking.

I second that.

All on-line relationships are - by their very nature - 2-dimensional.

Sure, I can point out several people here on KMC that I'd probably enjoy meeting in real life as we seem to see eye to eye on a lot of things. And some people that I'd run away from screaming... (Ok, walk away from shaking my head).
It's easy to flirt and chat on-line, no one can SEE me, no one knows what I look like, or what kind of horrible habits I may or may not have.

Look at the number of false dating-adds, where people put up phony pictures and claim they're almost movie-stars.

On the other hand - what I like about on-line communities such as this, is exactly the fact that I can't SEE who I talk to. What I may have with me in my bag of biases or prejudices are useless here...

When I first got onto the net, I honestly thought that every pic I saw was a complete and utter fake.

Where the internet is so pivotal in meeting and connecting with people now, it seems like the majority of its users have adopted the mindset of "What's the point in sending a fake picture?" sort of thing. Either do send one, or don't. Still happens, but maybe I'm just used to it. It's easier to know if someone's genuine or not now with webcams and such.

It's evolved into just another way to meet people. On one hand people say it cuts down on human interaction, but on the other, I can come online and speak to my cousins in Canada more or less instantly. I've met some great people on the net who I have even had the pleasure of meeting.

With regards to online relationships though, I will agree with Bardock to be honest. If you enjoy it, go for it. I just think that if you don't make plans and effort to actually make it happen (and it can/does happen) in real life, then you're swimming in the ocean of wishful thinking.

-AC

Originally posted by BackFire
Honestly, I think they're usually nothing more then wishful thinking.

I basically agree with everything thats been said in here. The internet is a great place to meet but if you want a serious relationship, you'll have to meet the person.

As others have said, it's possible to start a relationship, but unlikely to last. Never trust computers with something that should be done face to face. 😄

Haha. 'Online relationships'.

Doesn't even deserve the dignity of a term.

Originally posted by Victor Von Doom
Haha. 'Online relationships'.

Doesn't even deserve the dignity of a term.

I agree, it seems as though its a last ditch grasp for the reality challenged or those who, unfortunately, fall under the category of 'social broccolli'.

I think they are possible but as mentioned many times already there needs to be some physical contact between the two.

I actually met a pretty good looking and funny chick on-line. We dated for a bit.

Originally posted by Victor Von Doom
Haha. 'Online relationships'.

Doesn't even deserve the dignity of a term.