Internet Relationships vs. Real life

Started by Thorinn6 pages

Originally posted by Ronny
So I was observing alot of the relationships that go on in KMC and other forums I have visted and noticed that alot of people who participate in an online relationship are already commited in real life to someone else. I really dont agree with this, and I do believe it is considered an act of cheating.

Say your real life boy/girlfriend was on another forum and one day you stop in to see what he was so attracted to it for and you notice somewhere in he display set up (under his signature or location) it said "I love you Dirty(girl/boy)3". How would you react?

I do think that alot of internet relationships can work out an I have seen it happen before, so I can't really see what would make internet dating and real life dating different when it comes to morality.

What are your opinions?

Well, while a real life relationship is preferable, I would not be so upset if I found something like you described, now if my girlfriend was talking on the phone and taking trips at odd times in the year than yes, I would be mad.

But, you just have to have faith in your love, if you question it, then more than likely, your relationship will head south.

Originally posted by Victor Von Doom
Haha. 'Online relationships'.

Doesn't even deserve the dignity of a term.

Oh, I will need to ask you to elaborate that further....please.

Originally posted by Eis
Well, I met my last boyfriend over the net.... sort of, I actually had met him before I just didn't know he was the guy I talked to online.

It's OK as a facilitator.

Originally posted by Bardock42
Oh, I will need to ask you to elaborate that further....please.
Thing is that online is not different from letter writing of old....Many relationships and Marriages were do to this.

Originally posted by Victor Von Doom
It's OK as a facilitator.

Talk to me VVD 😱

Why, you want him??????????????????????????

No I am just the joker!

If I could make my sig easier to read you would understand its just a joke that plays abit on it

Originally posted by debbiejo
Thing is that online is not different from letter writing of old....Many relationships and Marriages were do to this.

This is quite true. During times of war in fact, there were a lot of people that wrote letters and would fall in love by their words rather than having them physically there with them.

Imagine your Grandparents tell you that they were pen pals and fell in love through correspondance of letters...

...we have simply updated times in which snail mail is a thing of the past, and have it replaced with email and the use of the internet.

Originally posted by A.D. Skinner
This is quite true. During times of war in fact, there were a lot of people that wrote letters and would fall in love by their words rather than having them physically there with them.

Imagine your Grandparents tell you that they were pen pals and fell in love through correspondance of letters...

...we have simply updated times in which snail mail is a thing of the past, and have it replaced with email and the use of the internet.

Fast communication, fast hook ups and fast break ups. I knew that email had some relationship to divorce rate!

I dont see the point in online relationships,I mean......how are you meant to have sex 😑

Originally posted by K.Diddy
I dont see the point in online relationships,I mean......how are you meant to have sex 😑
Well, like real life relationships it's something you don't need to worry about.

Originally posted by A.D. Skinner
This is quite true. During times of war in fact, there were a lot of people that wrote letters and would fall in love by their words rather than having them physically there with them.

Imagine your Grandparents tell you that they were pen pals and fell in love through correspondance of letters...

...we have simply updated times in which snail mail is a thing of the past, and have it replaced with email and the use of the internet.

thumbsup

History proves that getting to know each other through words meant more first....It's the meeting of the minds........first.......

Originally posted by Magee
Well, like real life relationships it's something you don't need to worry about.

😕

Originally posted by BackFire
Honestly, I think they're usually nothing more then wishful thinking.

Well, I have read about one married couple who originally met while playing Ghost Recon online over Xbox Live.

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
It's not impossible for attraction of some kind to be there, but I believe online relationships are pointless if you both have absolutely no plans to make it happen in real life at some point.

If you meet online, then hang out or start visiting each other. It's more or less just a long distance relationship that started online. You can't help where you meet. If you start "dating" online but have no plans to meet at all, or are incapable of doing so (however long the distance is) then it's pointless.

-AC


I agree with you. If your just going to sit there on the computer talking to your "boyfriend/Girlfriend" it has no point because humans need to Interact with each other in person before you can decide weather or not your compatible with someone.

Originally posted by soleran30
Talk to me VVD 😱

so, you're asking for an elaboration.

For those who don't know, I met Adam_PoE on the net. We were friends on-line for a long time, and then started dating. We've met a number of times. So, should us no longer being together be a reason that dating off the internet is absurd? We're hardly a case study. Granted, perhaps we are a microcosm in understanding the situation. Neither of us were any different than we professed to be on-line. Nor do I think there's a point to being different on-line or off. But we're better suited to be together than most people who meet in person, at a club or bar. The specifics aren't any one elses buisness, but we still have issues. There's a reason we aren't together now. The ability to care for some one else absolutely still developed...beyond an "in-person" innitial encounter. I think that people in this day and age are still dubious of the internet. Sure, you have the chance of people lying. But, that happens just as frequently in a bar. It's up to the person experiencing it to decipher the truth of the matter. Eventually, the net will be just as legitimate a place for meeting people as is the starbucks down teh street for your apartment.

Originally posted by DarkC
Well, I have read about one married couple who originally met while playing Ghost Recon online over Xbox Live.

We call that the exception.

Hmmm... love, or rather, relationships online, can be one of the hardest thing on Earth, if its real. Most people dismiss it as something fake, to either sound hardcore on here, or for other reasons, but then wish they could be in a relationship with several "hot" people on here, but thats just people following the bandwagon, you know who you are, and I won't waste my time with that.

Long-distance and online relationships are often extrmemly difficult for several reasons, but also have easier advantages. Its all too easy for someone to make a life online which noone can disprove, and you have no choice but to trust it, but that again can happen in real life, so thats not the biggest problem. Obviously most people simply don't have the strength to handle relationships like that, requiring heavy attention and touch and care on a regular basis, nothing wrong with that either.

Some of the problems of long distance comes in at when a person is in an emergency, and you are the last one to find out, if you are lucky, this often means you have to take the chance of something happening to your partner and never seeing them again. Therefore it is often wise to make friends with their friends/family incase you get serious.

Trust is another issue of course, with the main problems of relationships as such being lack of physical contact, there is only so much you can give, and if things go sour, there may very well be a chance for a partner to cheat, and not tell you a thing. Scary thought.

There are some advantages though, I'd say the most important one is the connection someone must have to make a real relationship stay serious. Since there is no physical contact, there would have to be something else to keep two people coming back to one another, and if that is the case, then when they do meet, if they were who they say they were, there is a high chance it can continue that way... though living together may be a different story, but that again is the case for anyone. Also the distance allows you to be safe from psycho exes, and that has to count for something.

In my case, I didn't actively look for one, it just happened. It went from excellent to bad, and back to excellent (as some of you may know), and it took alot of dedication, and hard work just like anything else. And I'm still a big part of my someone's life everyday. Love is blind, and doesn't see color, sex, or even distance. Being heartbroken feels the same at any distance, so the love shouldn't be questioned. IF there is a someone meant for you, they could be anywhere on the globe, that being said long distance is hard, but not pointless, find out for yourself and not from others who had a bad experience or heard from someone else.

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Not as beautiful as you. 😆 😖hifty:

Where ya been mate?