Originally posted by ZatchCongrats. I think it's too young, but if you love each other, that's fine by me. Not necessarily by everyone else, but whatever.
Lana that is our concern. If we really think we will be then what does it matter? Your view on this situation is different than ours. If we think it is a good idea then it is. If it turns out bad, it is our problem not anyone elses. Honestly though we have been through alot and if we are still together after all that has happened then I definitely see us together in 4 years.
I hope you guys stay together and do get married.
For those who get engaged early, I'm happy for you, congrats.
I know a friend of a friend who got engaged at 17. I'm not sure if such things usually last though... Adolescence is a time for experimenting, most of the time. And most teenagers aren't "serious" in a relationship, especially guys.
I personally wouldn't get engaged/married at an early age... just because... hell, I've got shitloads of time to do that later.
My question is, are your parents okay with it 😐? And, does your engagement sort of affect your life/relationship with other people? I mean, here at least, if I told people I'm getting engaged they'd probably label me as "bizzare", make up stupid jokes and shit, possibly avoiding having a conversation with me. I'd feel very awkward if I were in this situation; I'm not offending anyone, it's just how I would see it. I'm usually "scared shitless" when it comes to relationships, that would be a fecking nightmare, because of "the people".
If everyone's okay with it, and if you really love each other, I don't really see a problem. Best of luck. What more can I say...
Originally posted by s|m
For those who get engaged early, I'm happy for you, congrats.
My question is, are your parents okay with it 😐?
And, does your engagement sort of affect your life/relationship with other people?
I see. It's not that you'd behave any differently, I was reffering to people you know, friends/colleagues/etc., after they found out (if they found out), did they act/speak differently to you? I suppose they don't know... or they're good people, minding their own business.
Well whatever 😛. Take care.
I just read through the whole thread and some of the arguments were really quite stupid, like someone says that they knew someone who got married at an earlier age and it didn't last, so they came to the conclusion that they wouldn't let that happen to them, well that is just plain stupid, it really depends on the situation, you can't base one couple's divorce on the way you shape your whole opinion on relationships.
I agree getting engaged at 14 is ****ing moronic, I mean you're both probably not fully "developed"; both mentally and physically. My advice would be to give it a few years to see where your relationship is then, if your still together and going strong then sure, think about the whole marriage thing again, there is no rush to a relationship, if it lasts you've got the rest of your lives to think about matrimony.
My parents got engaged when they were 19 and they are still together now. My sister got engaged when she was 21 and I can really see that relationship lasting. I know the divorce rate is really very high but you'll probably also find that most of them come from a different side of society, you read these stories about people having gone through about 5 marriages, so basing those stats around every single marriage is just ignorant.
Originally posted by ILoveMyDanielWhat about the ring?
My parents don't know, but we plan to come out and tell them in around 1-2 years.Other people as in.....who? Everyone I've been around I act the exact same and feel the exact same as I did before any of it happened, so no, not from MY perspective at least.
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