Choosing a Spouse

Originally posted by Dr. Zaius
1. That she resemble Elizabeth Bennet from "Pride and Prejudice" as much as possible, preferably the Keira Knightly version... 🙂

2.Uhmmm.....Did I already mention Elizabeth Bennet?

So you are a bit like Mr. Darcy?

Originally posted by Lord Urizen
You can't choose to love anybody. You either do or you don't. You can't make someone love you. They either do or they don't.

What fairy tale do you live in ?

Originally posted by Nellinator
You can choose to love. YOU live in a fairy tale if you believe love is easy and simple. But, you are right when you say that you can't make someone love you. Marriage requires a two-way commitment.

True, but then it is a valid argument, some would say, to ask how much work should be put into making a relationship work. It is only to be expected there will be times when two people might have to work at it, but at what point does it become foolish? To dedicate oneself to a relationship that, metaphorically, needs to be built from the ground up as opposed to operating from an existing position of strength.

One of the reasons why divorce is on the rise - the many people who, in a burst of what they thought was real and everlasting have, over time, realised it wasn't. They think why waste time and energy trying to create love that doesn't exist, when they can move on and be happier elsewhere.

Originally posted by Imperial_Samura
True, but then it is a valid argument, some would say, to ask how much work should be put into making a relationship work. It is only to be expected there will be times when two people might have to work at it, but at what point does it become foolish? To dedicate oneself to a relationship that, metaphorically, needs to be built from the ground up as opposed to operating from an existing position of strength.

One of the reasons why divorce is on the rise - the many people who, in a burst of what they thought was real and everlasting have, over time, realised it wasn't. They think why waste time and energy trying to create love that doesn't exist, when they can move on and be happier elsewhere.

Originally posted by Nellinator
You have named all the reasons that we must choose carefully.

Exactly, but the human being is not always a rational being, and infatuation, desire, attraction, lust can blend together rather easily. It is easy to say "choose carefully" but much harder for many to do when in reality.

Likewise there are those couples that full out of love in time.

Originally posted by Imperial_Samura
Exactly, but the human being is not always a rational being, and infatuation, desire, attraction, lust can blend together rather easily. It is easy to say "choose carefully" but much harder for many to do when in reality.

Likewise there are those couples that full out of love in time.

My conditions are:

1. Have a vagina.

2. Weigh less than I do.

You say that people can grow apart, but I disagree that they will if they are truly in love.

Love is never enough by itself. I learned that from experience.

Originally posted by Imperial_Samura
So you are a bit like Mr. Darcy?

Maybe... 😉

Oh no....thats a horrible novel.

Originally posted by Alliance
Oh no....thats a horrible novel.

Blasphemy! And on the religion board too! Double sin!

Sinner...

then proud of it.

Love is largely neurochemical reactions akin to a psychological disorder.

Good looking, healthy, educated and intelligent, good personality and tastes etc.

The other things, such as long life; good looking, healthy, intelligent children should it be decided to have them, etc. are consequences of the above.

Originally posted by Imperial_Samura
I don't know if I'd go so far as to compare LU to Whob. Though if it did turn out socking was involved it would be another case of the sock being vastly more likable then Whob (granted, some would say Hitler is more likable then Whob, but that might be going a bit to far.)

And he doesn't piss off the queers.

because Urizen often contributes, which is more than I've seen you do on this forum.

Originally posted by Alliance
because Urizen often contributes, which is more than I've seen you do on this forum.

Well, I dont get that impression at all.