Originally posted by Jmanghan
Yeah. That girl isn't anorexic though, I don't think.An anorexic person has their ribs significantly visible, whereas she looks pretty normal, albeit a bit on the skinny side.
This is normal?
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Originally posted by Surtur
This is normal?https://prettyuglylittleliar.net/uploads/monthly_2016_01/maxresdefault_(4).jpg.a5ffbb7cf730dd36f4712518220c1890.jpg
Originally posted by Jmanghan
Yeah. That girl isn't anorexic though, I don't think.An anorexic person has their ribs significantly visible, whereas she looks pretty normal, albeit a bit on the skinny side.
The last couple of pages shouldn't have even occurred imo, and contain potentially very triggering content to those who deal with any eating disorders or struggle with self harm.
I would just like to add however that as someone who used to regularly do harm to myself, if someone drew attention to my already rather visible cuts on my arms (Luckily for me my scars are now very light and not too easy to notice anymore) for whatever reason, be it curiosity/concern/ignorance or otherwise, it would make me feel tremendously shitty and extremely embarrassed.
So maybe that's not really the kinda thing that should be pointed out (almost aggressively so) in a very public thread.
Also I would like to point out that weight =/= health, and you can never tell how healthy a person is just by looking at their body, and neither should you make assumptions or presume to know a person's health or weight based on an image alone.
I think we should cease any discussion about weight or health and just focus on the pretty people in this thread. myself excluded.
I apologise if this sounded preachy. It was not my intention.
Do I actually have to spell this out?
Very simple and apt definition taken from this page: http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/trigger
"The term is used ... to refer to stimuli that trigger upsetting feelings or problematic behaviors, and these feelings are often associated with a psychiatric condition. People who have triggers may re-engage in unhealthy behaviors when exposed to triggers. For example, a person recovering from anorexia might be triggered by photos of very thin people to begin starvation once again."
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Okay, so you're telling me that a person who deals with self harm and an eating disorder has to just sit there and put up with other people talking specifically about their personal self harm scars and weight?
Not only that but you do not fecking say "[randomperson] isn't even anorexic, and you weigh a lot more then her." to someone with a ****ing eating disorder. She has all the right in the world to be upset by this kind of tactless conversation. I mean really, dont be so insensitive..
And clearly the previous pages do contain triggering content, considering rainbow said it herself that she was in fact triggered by the comments made.
Originally posted by immaturerainbow
-___- Well, now I'm triggered.*Is anorexic.*
Let us not comment on my weight.. Alright?
Also the fact that she said she felt uncomfortable after her scars were brought to attention... Not to mention that I actually felt a little uneasy when it was brought up, as I know what it's like having people stare and make comments, and I stopped cutting four/five years ago..
But, I'm going to stop now. If I haven't explained well enough why I used the term "triggering content" etc., I'm not sure how much clearer I can make it. It's 1:15am and brain too sleepy.
Originally posted by KharhmahWhen you ignore people who cut, the risk of suicide raises. My intention wasn't to hurt her or make her feel weird, but when someone is cutting its stupid to stay quiet, because then they just continue doing it, or turn to a more severe option.
Not only is this incorrect, it's also suggesting people with anorexia aren't normal. Which is just silly.The last couple of pages shouldn't have even occurred imo, and contain potentially very triggering content to those who deal with any eating disorders or struggle with self harm.
I would just like to add however that as someone who used to regularly do harm to myself, if someone drew attention to my already rather visible cuts on my arms (Luckily for me my scars are now very light and not too easy to notice anymore) for whatever reason, be it curiosity/concern/ignorance or otherwise, it would make me feel tremendously shitty and extremely embarrassed.
So maybe that's not really the kinda thing that should be pointed out (almost aggressively so) in a very public thread.
Also I would like to point out that weight =/= health, and you can never tell how healthy a person is just by looking at their body, and neither should you make assumptions or presume to know a person's health or weight based on an image alone.I think we should cease any discussion about weight or health and just focus on the pretty people in this thread. myself excluded.
I apologise if this sounded preachy. It was not my intention.
Yes, Anorexia is not ok, its a major health problem, and you acting like bluntness helps no one is just flat-out wrong, pushing someone to get help or to stop CAN help.
Sometimes saying "You're stupid if you do this" is the wake up call you need.
Onision straight up said bluntly "cutting is retarded" and everyone and their mother is thanking him for being blunt, and that he helped them. Thousands of messages over twitter, because he was like "cutting sucks, so stop".
But being blunt can also backfire and the hurt the person, which is why I wasn't as vicious as I usually am.
Its not just on here.
In real life I had a friend who was abused emotionally and physically by her bf, if I was nice to her, she 1. treated me like utter shit, as if it were my fault, and 2. Just ignored what I said and continued letting him treat her that way, flirt with other women and such.
When I finally said "Hey, grow the **** up and get rid of him, you're unhappy with him, so leave him".
It worked.
As the youngest one abound may I suggest something?
This is obviously snow balling into a heated topic, we all have our perspectives and ideas about our bodies and the bodies of others. I recommend we accept that what we do with them is what we chose to do and that if we are comfortable showing them in a picture that we be respected enough not to have what some may consider imperfections pointed out
Anyway this is simply a thread where we get to flaunt and show off our wonderful bodies with confident, so let's try to get back on track by posting the pics of our wonderful selves and focus on the positives 🙂
Originally posted by Kharhmah
Not only is this incorrect, it's also suggesting people with anorexia aren't normal. Which is just silly.
Why would you say something this silly while at the same time calling people who say anorexia isn't normal silly? It makes no sense at all because people with anorexia aren't normal. That isn't an insult to them, that is a fact of life unless you believe a majority of people on this planet are anorexic.
Unless you have a very weird definition of normal. But don't mistake this for me saying that not being normal is inherently bad, it isn't. It doesn't mean they are any less of a person. But it is no more normal than being obese is normal.
Originally posted by Kharhmah
Okay, so you're telling me that a person who deals with self harm and an eating disorder has to just sit there and put up with other people talking specifically about their personal self harm scars and weight?
Not only that but you do not fecking say "[randomperson] isn't even anorexic, and you weigh a lot more then her." to someone with a ****ing eating disorder. She has all the right in the world to be upset by this kind of tactless conversation. I mean really, dont be so insensitive.
On the other hand this person willingly put forth this information. You're acting like we all read her diary. Yes I am sorry to say if you post pictures of yourself with visible cuts that look like self cutting people ARE going to comment. Now if someone would be bothered by this then it would probably not be a good idea to post pictures where you have these visible cuts, correct?
Also the fact that she said she felt uncomfortable after her scars were brought to attention... Not to mention that I actually felt a little uneasy when it was brought up, as I know what it's like having people stare and make comments, and I stopped cutting four/five years ago.But, I'm going to stop now. If I haven't explained well enough why I used the term "triggering content" etc., I'm not sure how much clearer I can make it. It's 1:15am and brain too sleepy.
Okay I know what the term triggering content means. My entire point I guess is this thread confuses me. Someone posts a picture of visible scars from cutting and when I question why post those the person says they did it because they just don't care, but then they are uncomfortable about it being discussed which means they do actually care and how could anyone not think they'd be commented on when they willingly post it?
So in conclusion I guess..people need to truly think about what personal information they WILLINGLY share online with people because yes someone is likely to comment on it. I apologize if anyone feels uncomfortable, but then if so all the more reason to heed what I just said.
Originally posted by Sancty
If you're concerned about someone's mental health bringing it up on a public board isn't going to help them, maybe reach out to them privately instead. Drawing attention to someone's scars and expecting a public explanation is really inconsiderate and will obviously make them feel worse.
Then it's best not to post pictures like that on a public forum. You see you can't really post a picture and then say "only comment on it via PM". I know the person who posted it didn't say that, but that is what you are saying and I just don't think it works that way.
The people who keep posting the stuff you are saying just prolong the discussion about the person you already know is uncomfortable with it, but okay.
Originally posted by Time-Immemorial
Tell Bardock I'm concerned about his mental state. He needs to come back and explain himself.
Originally posted by Surtur
Then it's best not to post pictures like that on a public forum. You see you can't really post a picture and then say "only comment on it via PM". I know the person who posted it didn't say that, but that is what you are saying and I just don't think it works that way.