In Love?

I think I'm in love . . .

That girl I kissed New Years . . . I've known her for three years and we are best friends, but I think this kiss changed everything. After it, we spent the rest of the night cuddling and she got jealous when this other girl sat on my lap and such.

The whole Male/Female best friend scenario always has a little bit of attractive tension, but everytime I see her, it makes my entire day. I cannot look into her eyes without feeling extreme happiness or bliss.

I think she feels the same way, but I'm not sure.

How should I approach this?

Ask her.

Don't approach the situation, approach her.

I fear rejection though. I'll feel absolutely and completely damaged if I get rejected.

It's sad, though. I cannot be her friend anymore . . . Because I cannot sit there and have a conversation to her as a friend. I wouldn't be able to look her in the eye without kissing her . . . I wouldn't be able to sit apart from her . . . I'd have to hold her or cuddle her.

It sounds insane and I don't know what the shit has come over me, but it's strange.

Originally posted by Vegas
I fear rejection though. I'll feel absolutely and completely damaged if I get rejected.

It's sad, though. I cannot be her friend anymore . . . Because I cannot sit there and have a conversation to her as a friend. I wouldn't be able to look her in the eye without kissing her . . . I wouldn't be able to sit apart from her . . . I'd have to hold her or cuddle her.

It sounds insane and I don't know what the shit has come over me, but it's strange.

Would you rather be certain? Or feel the uncertainty that you do now?

You'll never know until you talk to her. It's best to approach.

You present a good point . . .

Ugh, It's killing me inside. I feel so much pressure and I can't stop thinking about her. I wake up and I'm thinking about her. I'm having difficulties sleeping because I'm thinking about her.

It's maddening.

Originally posted by Vegas
You present a good point . . .

Ugh, It's killing me inside. I feel so much pressure and I can't stop thinking about her. I wake up and I'm thinking about her. I'm having difficulties sleeping because I'm thinking about her.

It's maddening.

Just keep the mentality that she may feel the exact same way. It helps.

I know how you feel.

I'm glad someone does. My family consists of cold-hearted, ignorant morons who I cannot talk to seriously.

They're all like "Ooooh, eat her out, dude just f*ck her, she wants your c*ck" and all this ridiculous bullshit that elevates my anger.

I can't keep that mentality. I naturally have a realist attitude and my cynicism is overly disgusting. I keep on thinking she will say no and then after I think about it, I get this overwhelming sensation of loss and fear . . .

It's so hard to think "Half Glass Full."

Wouldn't you much rather ask her & know for certain how she feels? Take the risk 🙂 don't sit back and wonder, because you might miss out on something great....

and from what you've said, it sounds like she's really into you...so I wouldn't even call it a risk.

Originally posted by Vegas
I'm glad someone does. My family consists of cold-hearted, ignorant morons who I cannot talk to seriously.

They're all like "Ooooh, eat her out, dude just f*ck her, she wants your c*ck" and all this ridiculous bullshit that elevates my anger.

I can't keep that mentality. I naturally have a realist attitude and my cynicism is overly disgusting. I keep on thinking she will say no and then after I think about it, I get this overwhelming sensation of loss and fear . . .

It's so hard to think "Half Glass Full."

People with that set in their mind never go home happy. Just satisfied long enough to hold them off. All I can say is, you're walking down the right path.

It's best to just get it out of your hair, ask her so you know things for certain.

Originally posted by Roulette
Wouldn't you much rather ask her & know for certain how she feels? Take the risk 🙂 don't sit back and wonder, because you might miss out on something great....

and from what you've said, it sounds like she's really into you...so I wouldn't even call it a risk.

I hope so . . . She has great chemistry with my family as well (She is able to stay in a room for ten minutes with the damn nutcases.)and everyone is always saying how we make such a great couple.

The kiss absolutely was the climatic point which eliminated the friend stage for me but I'm not sure If it's a new years kiss. Let me explain.

We were sitting outside on the patio in this hall twenty minutes after New Years (There is around fifty people there) and no one is outside with us. She was sitting on the flashing and I was standing against a wall. For New Years, she gave this little kid a peck on the check.

I said to her . . . "The kid gets a kiss and not me? Damn." I was trying to be funny . . .

She grabbed my collar and pulled me towards her and we began to kiss. She hopped down from the patio flashing and put her hand behind my head and I totally got into it. I stopped for a second and said "Whoa!" only to have her pull me back into the kiss less that two seconds later.

Maybe there’ s a way to bring up the conversation without totally putting yourself out there. For example, joke around with her how the two of you get along so well, you would probably make a great couple. This approach will get her to comment on the situation, and give you an inkling as to her future intentions with you.

If she indicates she could see a relationship then you have your opening to take things further. If she doesn’ t seem receptive then you can keep the friendship alive without creating an awkward situation.

Ceterum censeo OTF esse delendam.

yeah... stuff like these happens all the time... girl and boy are best friends.. after a kiss... boy realizes something... girl, liked him ever since...

Originally posted by Vegas
I hope so . . . She has great chemistry with my family as well (She is able to stay in a room for ten minutes with the damn nutcases.)and everyone is always saying how we make such a great couple.

The kiss absolutely was the climatic point which eliminated the friend stage for me but I'm not sure If it's a new years kiss. Let me explain.

We were sitting outside on the patio in this hall twenty minutes after New Years (There is around fifty people there) and no one is outside with us. She was sitting on the flashing and I was standing against a wall. For New Years, she gave this little kid a peck on the check.

I said to her . . . "The kid gets a kiss and not me? Damn." I was trying to be funny . . .

She grabbed my collar and pulled me towards her and we began to kiss. She hopped down from the patio flashing and put her hand behind my head and I totally got into it. I stopped for a second and said "Whoa!" only to have her pull me back into the kiss less that two seconds later.

Wow....doesn't sound like a new years kiss to me, hehe. She pulled you back 😄 that's gotta mean something.

Originally posted by Vegas
I hope so . . . She has great chemistry with my family as well (She is able to stay in a room for ten minutes with the damn nutcases.)and everyone is always saying how we make such a great couple.

The kiss absolutely was the climatic point which eliminated the friend stage for me but I'm not sure If it's a new years kiss. Let me explain.

We were sitting outside on the patio in this hall twenty minutes after New Years (There is around fifty people there) and no one is outside with us. She was sitting on the flashing and I was standing against a wall. For New Years, she gave this little kid a peck on the check.

I said to her . . . "The kid gets a kiss and not me? Damn." I was trying to be funny . . .

She grabbed my collar and pulled me towards her and we began to kiss. She hopped down from the patio flashing and put her hand behind my head and I totally got into it. I stopped for a second and said "Whoa!" only to have her pull me back into the kiss less that two seconds later.

Originally posted by Storm
Maybe there’ s a way to bring up the conversation without totally putting yourself out there. For example, joke around with her how the two of you get along so well, you would probably make a great couple. This approach will get her to comment on the situation, and give you an inkling as to her future intentions with you.

If she indicates she could see a relationship then you have your opening to take things further. If she doesn’ t seem receptive then you can keep the friendship alive without creating an awkward situation.

Ceterum censeo OTF esse delendam.

I've attempted to sort of bring it up before with vague, subliminal lines as to me liking her. I feel that she kind of got a bit nervous when I brought it up and she tends to change the subject.

Her jealousy towards my Ex-Girlfriends and the woman who sat on my lap is horrid. 😛 She tried to get up and smack that girl who sat on my lap. (May I mentioned this girl was drunk and grabbed my crotch, speaking of the girl who sat on my lap.)

We also cuddled for a period of time. It was nice.

And I don't think the friendship can honestly last . . . I hope I can work it out with myself.

Originally posted by Vegas
I hope so . . . She has great chemistry with my family as well (She is able to stay in a room for ten minutes with the damn nutcases.)and everyone is always saying how we make such a great couple.

The kiss absolutely was the climatic point which eliminated the friend stage for me but I'm not sure If it's a new years kiss. Let me explain.

We were sitting outside on the patio in this hall twenty minutes after New Years (There is around fifty people there) and no one is outside with us. She was sitting on the flashing and I was standing against a wall. For New Years, she gave this little kid a peck on the check.

I said to her . . . "The kid gets a kiss and not me? Damn." I was trying to be funny . . .

She grabbed my collar and pulled me towards her and we began to kiss. She hopped down from the patio flashing and put her hand behind my head and I totally got into it. I stopped for a second and said "Whoa!" only to have her pull me back into the kiss less that two seconds later.

Sweetie having been in this situation way more than I can count. I can say maybe she played her hand and is looking for you to play yours. So just to be safe like Storm said you could always joke around with it at first just to see about it. It actually does work.✅

She has tactically avoided the joke method. I've used it before.

But then again, this was before the kiss and such.

Originally posted by Vegas
She has tactically avoided the joke method. I've used it before.

But then again, this was before the kiss and such.

Try it again. Also her jealousy is kinda an obvious sign she's into you.😛

Originally posted by LethalFemme
Try it again. Also her jealousy is kinda an obvious sign she's into you.😛

I wonder if anyone even knows who he is. leftright

Originally posted by Vegas
I hope so . . . She has great chemistry with my family as well (She is able to stay in a room for ten minutes with the damn nutcases.)and everyone is always saying how we make such a great couple.

The kiss absolutely was the climatic point which eliminated the friend stage for me but I'm not sure If it's a new years kiss. Let me explain.

We were sitting outside on the patio in this hall twenty minutes after New Years (There is around fifty people there) and no one is outside with us. She was sitting on the flashing and I was standing against a wall. For New Years, she gave this little kid a peck on the check.

I said to her . . . "The kid gets a kiss and not me? Damn." I was trying to be funny . . .

She grabbed my collar and pulled me towards her and we began to kiss. She hopped down from the patio flashing and put her hand behind my head and I totally got into it. I stopped for a second and said "Whoa!" only to have her pull me back into the kiss less that two seconds later.

She's into you, ask her out, get married, have kids.