Your girlfriend/boyfriend has sex with someone else....

Originally posted by debbiejo
So anyone that doesn't agree that revenge is the coolest thing is talking out their ass? Tell you what, I've been there. You call me illogical? I believe it is YOU that are self seeking. Self seeking to stroke your ego because you were dumped. Everyone gets dumped. Get over your ego and move on. Life is more than ego, it's seeing the bigger picture.

Also notice that I don't resort to labeling and calling names, yet you do. It's the Ego that is your worst enemy. Tame it.

Sweet, another Online psychologist... you tried to pass your hormonal views of revenge as the norm and only possible reason of motivation, I merely stated that there are other reasons, which there are; THAT is why you're talking out of your ass. I have been dumped in a previous relationship, but revenge wasn't necessary, as breakups happen for other reasons than betrayal, try again.

Ha, you just labeled me by calling me "self seeking", try again.

Originally posted by Violent2Dope
Creshosk, how the hell can you just still be friends with two people that betrayed you like that? And be happy for them?

Originally posted by Robtard
Alright then, that was the issue I had, that he was still your "best friend", or even a friend for that matter.

That's fine too, walking away and cleaning yourself of them is sensible. It's more of teaching an ******* who called himself your "best friend" more so than you benefiting from harming them.

I have a cousin and a mutual friend who the mutual friend used to take girlfriends from my cousin all the time. I mean like constantly. It finally ended when my cousin took one girl from him. That girl my cousin took is now his wife. Course it might also have something to do with the mutual friend joining the national guard and is in Iraq now.

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
been there, done that, years ago. I saw them at a night club, and I didnt have to do anything. my homeys took care of it.

Originally posted by Creshosk
I may be an easy going guy who likes others to be happy, but I'm not so stupid to keep him as a best friend. Yeah we still hang out from time to time.. and we still talk. But its nothing like it used to be.

I have a cousin and a mutual friend who the mutual friend used to take girlfriends from my cousin all the time. I mean like constantly. It finally ended when my cousin took one girl from him. That girl my cousin took is now his wife. Course it might also have something to do with the mutual friend joining the national guard and is in Iraq now.

Originally posted by Violent2Dope
Creshosk, how the hell can you just still be friends with two people that betrayed you like that? And be happy for them?

Yeah it was hard to face them again, but I wasn't about to run and hide by cutting them out of my life. I legitimatly cared for their happiness and well being before the betrayal and while I might not be as close. That aspect didn't change.

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
how can you hang out with this person? there is nothing worse than someone who pursues a relationship with someone they know to be attached. it makes it worse when they are your friend.

cheated, no one should be raped.

Originally posted by Creshosk
Its not like he can do it again. I don't introduce him to any gf I might currently have well, not without telling them about him first. Though that only seems to create a tense hostile atmosphere when they're in the same room together. Ah well that doesn't seem to happen enough to worry about.

Originally posted by Robtard
Sweet, another Online psychologist... you tried to pass your hormonal views of revenge as the norm and only possible reason of motivation, I merely stated that there are other reasons, which there are; THAT is why you're talking out of your ass. I have been dumped in a previous relationship, but revenge wasn't necessary, as breakups happen for other reasons than betrayal, try again.

Ha, you just labeled me by calling me "self seeking", try again.

Okay, live there, be there, Are you happy now because of it? I'll tell you something, they don't think of you as being unhappy cause of it like you think.....you may want them too, but it's only a after though.........You are....they have moved on...Did you? If you are thinking of revenge, then they have suckered you into a hell, and not even meant it to be that way.

Is this a serious question? Why would anyone want someone to be raped? I'd rather have her cheat on me than be raped. But even if she does cheat on me, meh, no big deal. Unless she's my wife, I honestly don't care; I've done stuff in the past so I have no right to be affronted. And as for "if it was your best friend", you'll get over it and become friends again. At least, I would and have.

Originally posted by debbiejo
Isn't revenge self seeking? Otherwise, why put your energy into it. And why do you think I don't study psychology. Sure, say I'm blowing negatives to situations out my ass. You want to make your own hell and honestly thinking that you are getting the couple back/revenge, I'm moving on" thing....sure, delude yourself...what you are really doing is keeping yourself adjoined to this person. It's keeping yourself connected to it. Not a good way or possible way to move on.....Just anger and resentment.

Okay, live there, be there, Are you happy now because of it? I'll tell you something, they don't think of you as being unhappy cause of it like you think.....you may want them too, but it's only a after though.........You are....they have moved on...Did you? If you are thinking of revenge, then they have suckered you into a hell, and not even meant it to be that way.

So you're a psychologist, or did you read a book on psychology and now consider yourself one? Again, you're projecting your views/emotions of/on a situation as the only possible means, and you're wrong (again), butt-yapper.

What the **** does "you want to make your own hell" mean?

Originally posted by Robtard
So you're a psychologist, or did you read a book on psychology and now consider yourself one? Again, you're projecting your views/emotions of/on a situation as the only possible means, and you're wrong (again), butt-yapper.

What the **** does "you want to make your own hell" mean?

Show me YOUR Crandall's Mr. Got any? Ahhhh Oh, okay, legs make some suffer because you were rejected.

GET OVER IT..................

Originally posted by debbiejo
I''m a Butt rapper, eh??

Show me YOUR Crandall's Mr. Got any? Ahhhh Oh, okay, legs make some suffer because you were rejected.

GET OVER IT..................

Debbiejo,

Psychology is a wonderful field of study...there are problems with it: there are generalizations that are deemed as acceptable psychology and it is simply not true. For every million people that a psychological rule applies to in the affirmative, there is at least one person that the rule does not work with in anyway whatsoever.

Listen, robtard is not like most people. He is intelligent, hilarious, and I suspect violent when provoked.

If he is anything like I am, then he does not think like the rest of society and most normal psychological rules do not apply to him. I obtain great amounts of satisfaction from revenge; especially if it is violence...I still can feel the euphoric effects of violent revenge I have taken in the past. (No killing or anything like it, just bare knuckles...it is more satisfying when it is hands on... he he he.)

Is that harm to myself? Do I feel bad about it? HELL NO!!!! If I could, I would do it all over again...and again and again.

I have been to a psychiatrist who specializes in my problem...adhd, and he said that I am one of the most mentally healthy people he has ever met.

True that I have to watch my temper and I do very well and I have matured but this is the way I was born.

Unfortunately, Robtard is right.

You are right, but not for Robtard. He gets satisfaction from revenge.

Other than that, you are very nice lady and I enjoy just about everything you post.

Originally posted by Robtard
Mine or his?

Originally posted by cyber tuff guy!
Why don't you try and answer it then, what would your preference be?
Would you rather be the victim or would you rather someone else was?

Originally posted by debbiejo
I''m a Butt rapper, eh??

Show me YOUR Crandall's Mr. Got any? Ahhhh Oh, okay, legs make some suffer because you were rejected.

GET OVER IT..................

No, I said "yapper", with a "y"... as in "one who talks in a shrill insistent way"

Obviously logic and comprehension are beyond your ability... My desire for revenge in that scenario wouldn't be because of rejection; I have made that clear many times, I have also stated this is what "I would do", not what others would/should do.

While from your point of view, you seem to think that revenge is only had for one reason and one must be some hate-filled emotional wreck, aka 'middle aged woman who's been burned so many times she hasn't the stomach for revenge, only self pity'. But I digress.

also... What the **** does "you want to make your own hell" mean? Seriously, I want to know, or did you say that because you thought it sounded profound?

Originally posted by Robtard

also... What the **** does "you want to make your own hell" mean? Seriously, I want to know,

No, that makes sense; it's about the consequences of ones action, hers doesn't.

Though I'm not surprised, she has this Melvillean concept of revenge, and can't see past her own emotions.

[QUOTE=9216668]Originally posted by dadudemon
[B]Debbiejo,

Psychology is a wonderful field of study...there are problems with it: there are generalizations that are deemed as acceptable psychology and it is simply not true. For every million people that a psychological rule applies to in the affirmative, there is at least one person that the rule does not work with in anyway whatsoever.
QUOTE] Yes it is. And yes there are problems with it. it is up to the individual. Can a person get over it, though hard as itm may be, or would they be angry".............In my opinion is "let loose what is," let it og. this is difficult thing. Been there, as most have been, The point to me is "are you gonna let it take over your life?"....OR, are you gonna take steps to move on.

Originally posted by debbiejo
[QUOTE=9216668]Originally posted by dadudemon
[B]Debbiejo,

Psychology is a wonderful field of study...there are problems with it: there are generalizations that are deemed as acceptable psychology and it is simply not true. For every million people that a psychological rule applies to in the affirmative, there is at least one person that the rule does not work with in anyway whatsoever.
QUOTE] Yes it is. And yes there are problems with it. it is up to the individual. Can a person get over it, though hard as itm may be, or would they be angry".............In my opinion is "let loose what is," let it og. this is difficult thing. Been there, as most have been, The point to me is "are you gonna let it take over your life?"....OR, are you gonna take steps to move on.

Okay, in that case...I know what you mean and yes you are completely right. If it takes over your life and you obsese with revenge, then yes, even in an individual where the satisfaction of revenge is not negative, obsessing in this scenario is not a good thing.

One could argue that obsessing over anything is bad and one could argue that it is justified.