Originally posted by Creshosk
So what was I supposed to do break down and cry like a little *****? Get pissed and do something to ruin my life, or get the **** over it and not let it effect me because its only one part of my life?If you can't be friends with your significant other then you shouldn't be in the dating game. They're happy and I cared about their feelings then even though it hurt.
If you can't be treasure your significant other's happiness above all else then you're not really in love with them.
Some of us know how to think with our heads and not our dicks.
You're right, you shouldn't have cried like a b!tch or attacked them, that isn't the issue. You did the right thing by walking away.
The question is, how can you be friends with them (if that is the case), especially your "best friend" after he back stabbed you? The girl doesn't really matter, girls will come and go in your life; **** her... but a best friend ****ing you over like that?
What I'd do; I know it isn't the right or moral thing either... I'd lay in wait, bidding my time, when I sensed their marriage was going through a rough stretch (which it will at times), I'd wine, dine and charm her into ****ing me; I'd also secretly film it and then mail it to their house when they're back into a good run of the marriage. Basically return your "best friends" friendship and kindness back to him.
Originally posted by debbiejowell lets say you and your partner split. lets say you guys decide to be friends. when he/she leaves to go home, isn't it going to break your heart all over again? knowing they are going to go home and be intimate with her/him?
A mature person could be friends or at least cordially. Some things are meant to be, others are not. Why hold on to hate, when there could be someone better out there for you. I know I would have a hard time with it, but as time went on, I'd okay seeing the bigger picture.
Originally posted by debbiejo
A mature person could be friends or at least cordially. Some things are meant to be, others are not. Why hold on to hate, when there could be someone better out there for you. I know I would have a hard time with it, but as time went on, I'd okay seeing the bigger picture.
Your best friend betrays you and you want to be sincere with them? Are you ****ing kidding me? Maybe the meaning of "best friend" is subjective, but best friends do not screw each other over.
I'm not talking about "holding on to hate", he should get on with his life, date other people... I am talking about justifiable revenge; that is part of the "bigger picture".
Originally posted by RobtardRevenge is for children.
Your best friend betrays you and you want to be sincere with them? Are you ****ing kidding me? Maybe the meaning of "best friend" is subjective, but best friends do not screw each other over.I'm not talking about "holding on to hate", he should get on with his life, date other people... I am talking about justifiable revenge; that is part of the "bigger picture".
That happened to me. A guy I thought was my friend end up taking the one girl I'd take a bullet for. The result: My best friend punched him in the eye & it swoll up. It was pretty funny to hear about because I wasn't there when it happened. Either way, having a girlfriend cheat on you or having a girlfriend that has been raped will be a messed up scenario.
Originally posted by Ultimate Hulk43I would think about it a lot, but no I wouldn't take revenge. What good would it do me? Think about it. Would it help me move on, would it free me from the pain? NO, it would keep me dwelling on it and keep me in pain.....The other people would be happy and not thinking of me at all, so for me to hold on to hate or revenge would only detroy me and stop me from moving on. Shit happens in life. You accept it and move on. Learn from it.
Well, woudn't you want revenge?
Originally posted by debbiejo
Revenge is for children.
Yea, yea, yea... Talking out of your ass and claiming "higher ground" is for ****heads.
Originally posted by debbiejo
I would think about it a lot, but no I wouldn't take revenge. What good would it do me? Think about it. Would it help me move on, would it free me from the pain? NO, it would keep me dwelling on it and keep me in pain.....The other people would be happy and not thinking of me at all, so for me to hold on to hate or revenge would only detroy me and stop me from moving on. Shit happens in life. You accept it and move on. Learn from it.
Well, revenge can you satisfaction; that is a fact. You're also mixing revenge and hate... just isn't so. You can plan revenge and take revenge without being this "tortured hateful soul" you seem to think is necessary. Shit does happen, taking revenge is one way of "moving on"... and in this case, his "best friend" would learn from it.
Originally posted by Rogue JediI said friends or at least cordial. I am not sure I could be friends in the beginning of course. This has been done to me, and I have done this also. It's just life. I am always open and honest though. I was in a situation once like this, but I did go up to the friend first and asked if it was okay if I could see her boyfriend. I am always up front. If someone does it behind my back, then I'd be more pissed at the time. But best friends only come around far and few between. I view it this way. If they come to me and explain it to me to help me then I am more okay with that.
then why the friends crap? it's self destructive.