Originally posted by pr1983Because of your lack of confirmation. I'm not commiting to its existence either way until I know for sure.
why do you think she may not be carrying?
Originally posted by pr1983hmm... Doesn't quite fit with the statement of knowing in your heart. in any case this is where the miscommunication came up.
thats true, i don't know, hence why i said 'i don't know' 😛
Originally posted by pr1983Now this is a question for you to ask yourself just as much as I'm asking you: Why?
yes.
Originally posted by pr1983Naturally you do. So its important to factor in her feelings. and then find your own reasoning to love the child just as much as you love her. If this child is important to her then it should be just as important to you.
i'm not trying to devalue the child at all... i do want to be there for her...
Originally posted by pr1983And that's the stickiest part of it. Discussing with her how she feels without braoching the subject with her in a way that makes you sound or feel like an ******* that I know you're not. Regardless, discussing your feelings with her is an important part of your relationship. Bottling up your feelings might cause them to fester and grow into resentment towards her. And none of us want that.
still trying to figure that out...
Originally posted by pr1983
Ok, i have a question...assuming you agree with pregnancy termination etc,
do you think it is selfish for a man to ask a woman who he is very much in love with, and she loves him just as much, to not have a baby she has conceived with someone else, when that man knows deep down in his heart of hearts that he could never love that child like his own?
he doesnt want to lose the woman, love of his life etc...
I'm confused here, if she is in love with the man then why would she be concieving a baby with someone else?
If it happened before they met then no he has no right to say anything as she was pregnant when he fell in love with her, if they were together and he cheated then yes hes being selfish but I can see why he would be thinking like that.
Bottom line is, its not your call to make, I know if a woman carrying my baby had a termination based on another guys say so, that guy better get a plane ticket to some where very far away...
Originally posted by Creshosk
Because of your lack of confirmation. I'm not commiting to its existence either way until I know for sure.
oh, she's pregnant alright...
hmm... Doesn't quite fit with the statement of knowing in your heart. in any case this is where the miscommunication came up.
its just the feeling i get at the moment... it might change, it might not...
Now this is a question for you to ask yourself just as much as I'm asking you: Why?
because adoption is something we'd do as a couple, this isn't... 😬
Naturally you do. So its important to factor in her feelings. and then find your own reasoning to love the child just as much as you love her. If this child is important to her then it should be just as important to you.And that's the stickiest part of it. Discussing with her how she feels without braoching the subject with her in a way that makes you sound or feel like an ******* that I know you're not. Regardless, discussing your feelings with her is an important part of your relationship. Bottling up your feelings might cause them to fester and grow into resentment towards her. And none of us want that.
all that is the very reason i'm booking a flight to go see as soon as possible...
talking about this through email isnt really a super idea...
Originally posted by batdude123
Respect my authoritah, pr!!!! 💃
said the member to the mod...
Originally posted by Hercules
I'm confused here, if she is in love with the man then why would she be concieving a baby with someone else?If it happened before they met then no he has no right to say anything as she was pregnant when he fell in love with her, if they were together and he cheated then yes hes being selfish but I can see why he would be thinking like that.
Bottom line is, its not your call to make, I know if a woman carrying my baby had a termination based on another guys say so, that guy better get a plane ticket to some where very far away...
the girl is my ex, we had split, but not on bad terms, but mainly because of the distance (i'd vaguely referenced this before remember).
it seems like it was unplanned, as she'd been making recent suggestions that she wanted me back in her life...
and i do love her... more than i ever thought any human being could be capable of...
So,i'm confused.
Did the man start tapping her after she left a relationship where she got pregnant,or did she cheat on the man,get knocked up but then come back?
If it's the former Then he should be able to love her and the child while trying to make it work.
If the latter,push her down the stairs,thus getting even and ending the baby issue.
Originally posted by Martian_mind
So,i'm confused.Did the man start tapping her after she left a relationship where she got pregnant,or did she cheat on the man,get knocked up but then come back?
If it's the former Then he should be able to love her and the child while trying to make it work.
If the latter,push her down the stairs,thus getting even and ending the baby issue.
****er.
Originally posted by Martian_mind
So,i'm confused.Did the man start tapping her after she left a relationship where she got pregnant,or did she cheat on the man,get knocked up but then come back?
If it's the former Then he should be able to love her and the child while trying to make it work.
If the latter,push her down the stairs,thus getting even and ending the baby issue.
Originally posted by pr1983
the girl is my ex, we had split, but not on bad terms, but mainly because of the distance (i'd vaguely referenced this before remember).it seems like it was unplanned, as she'd been making recent suggestions that she wanted me back in her life...
and i do love her... more than i ever thought any human being could be capable of...
Originally posted by pr1983
the girl is my ex, we had split, but not on bad terms, but mainly because of the distance (i'd vaguely referenced this before remember).it seems like it was unplanned, as she'd been making recent suggestions that she wanted me back in her life...
and i do love her... more than i ever thought any human being could be capable of...
Well if you're not together or at least weren't together at the time, while I understand your feelings its not your descision.
If it was unplanned then how does she feel about it, does she want to have the baby?
Is she still in touch with the guy and how does he feel?
If you love her, then it should be unconditional, if she wants the baby and you truly love her and want to be with her, you will accept it and be with her anyway.
My cousin bought up another mans child and I can see where you're coming from, it can create conflict but he had to accept that if he wanted to be with his wife, he had to take on her child too.