Originally posted by Hercules
Well if you're not together or at least weren't together at the time, while I understand your feelings its not your descision.
i know that... 😬
If it was unplanned then how does she feel about it, does she want to have the baby?
i found out about two hours ago, through email... i'm still trying to find out, but at this point it seems like she wants to have it...
Is she still in touch with the guy and how does he feel?
he's out of the picture...
If you love her, then it should be unconditional, if she wants the baby and you truly love her and want to be with her, you will accept it and be with her anyway.
i've told myself that over and over, but i guess its just easier said than done...
My cousin bought up another mans child and I can see where you're coming from, it can create conflict but he had to accept that if he wanted to be with his wife, he had to take on her child too.
i can understand that...
Originally posted by Newjak
I have money on pr to win doped
good to know... 😄
Originally posted by pr1983I got your back
i know that... 😬i found out about two hours ago, through email... i'm still trying to find out, but at this point it seems like she wants to have it...
he's out of the picture...
i've told myself that over and over, but i guess its just easier said than done...
i can understand that...
good to know... 😄
Originally posted by pr1983
i know that... 😬
Knowing it and accepting it are two different things, it will be hard for you not to try and influence her descision.
i found out about two hours ago, through email... i'm still trying to find out, but at this point it seems like she wants to have it...
If she wants to have it, then you need to think about whether you can handle it and more importantly if she means enough to you to raise her child as your own.
he's out of the picture...
Which makes it a little easier for you, it means that if she does go ahead and has the baby that you can indeed raise it as your own and the child will always consider you his/her father, that goes a long way to forming the bond that you are worried won't exsist.
i've told myself that over and over, but i guess its just easier said than done...
Dude, its not going to be easy at all but if your love is strong enough, you will get through it and it will get easier.
i can understand that...
it can still create tension from time to time but her son accepts him as his father and all in all it worked out. It can for you too.
Originally posted by Hercules
Knowing it and accepting it are two different things, it will be hard for you not to try and influence her descision.
i'd do my damnedest to make sure i didnt... the last thing i'd want is for her to be influenced by me and end up hating me for it...
the asking thing was purely hypothetical...
If she wants to have it, then you need to think about whether you can handle it and more importantly if she means enough to you to raise her child as your own.
as a great man once said, she's my everything...
Which makes it a little easier for you, it means that if she does go ahead and has the baby that you can indeed raise it as your own and the child will always consider you his/her father, that goes a long way to forming the bond that you are worried won't exsist.Dude, its not going to be easy at all but if your love is strong enough, you will get through it and it will get easier.
it can still create tension from time to time but her son accepts him as his father and all in all it worked out. It can for you too.
the only real reassurance i think i can get from her is for her and i to have a few kids...
i don't mean that to sound cheap, because i love kids, i really do... but i'm the oldest of four, and i've spent my whole life looking after other people, putting them first...
i guess i was just looking forward to having a part of my life (however small) where i wasnt constantly relied upon...
when her and i were together, i always put her first, always, and yet she somehow always knew the right words to say to make it more worthwhile than i ever thought it would be...