I Need Some Help

Originally posted by Röland
I know for a fact he doesn't have a dealer, he has been hanging out with this new group of people and he gets it from them.

He doesn't have a dealer, are you sure that's true? Most addicts will always have a dealer, you can never rely on other addicts to sort you out with coke, and you'll end up getting under cut. If he doesn't have a dealer yet, he may not yet be in the full sway of addiction, which would ideal for you. But, to be honest, the fact that he's never home etc. is not a consoling thought.

What happen with this gf? Do you think she would care enough to try to talk to him again. To make him get help. If he even still loves her somewhat. It could hit something in his head and maybe even try to get help for himself. Maybe.

Originally posted by Lana
It's a really hard thing to deal with, unfortunately I know 😬 primary reason I plan on going into the field I want to.

I need to go to bed, but good luck hug

I'm not much of a religious person so I can just hope he sees what he is doing to himself and hopefully he lets me help him out.

Thanks Lana, I really appreciate your concern and advice. hug

Originally posted by chillmeistergen
He doesn't have a dealer, are you sure that's true? Most addicts will always have a dealer, you can never rely on other addicts to sort you out with coke, and you'll end up getting under cut. If he doesn't have a dealer yet, he may not yet be in the full sway of addiction, which would ideal for you. But, to be honest, the fact that he's never home etc. is not a consoling thought.

I'm pretty sure, but then again I am not positive. If he isn't living at his house and is only picking up clothes then disappearing then he is living somewhere at least. But this all started when he started hanging out with this new group so I am pretty sure he has just been getting it from them.

Originally posted by Leo.M
What happen with this gf? Do you think she would care enough to try to talk to him again. To make him get help. If he even still loves her somewhat. It could hit something in his head and maybe even try to get help for himself. Maybe.

I could try, but honestly I don't think she would care enough to help. He hurt her a lot of times. She told me, before she left, that she had been trying to help him break the habit but he would always just treat her like shit and that's why she left.

Ok guys, thanks for all your advice and concern, I will probably see him tomorrow if he has returned for 2nd semester. So I'll see if I'm able to even talk him.

I'm heading to bed, so if you want to, leave some posts and I'll check back in the morning.

I wonder if you'll even see the guy. druggies normally drop out of school and keep going down until they hit the last straw. Hope you see the guy and get some sense into him.

Originally posted by Röland
I understand but I've never been one to conform to peer pressure.

Originally posted by Leo.M
I wonder if you'll even see the guy. druggies normally drop out of school and keep going down until they hit the last straw. Hope you see the guy and get some sense into him.

A lot of druggies I know were, and still are top grade students.

Originally posted by chillmeistergen
A lot of druggies I know were, and still are top grade students.

Originally posted by chillmeistergen
A lot of druggies I know were, and still are top grade students.

I have few druggie friends. Smart, but just left school. 😂

Originally posted by Leo.M
You can't really help the guy. You can try to help them, but they will just till you mind your own damn business. If he's ever going to get better. He has to hit rock bottom. He has to be the one that ask for help.

Originally posted by Röland
Guys I seriously only want honest opinions and only serious answers please. So please keep thread on topic for however long it is open.

There is a bit of a story, so bear with me.

I need help in deciding what I should do about my best friend. Before summer came, he and I used to hang out everyday, took the same courses at college, we both have the same major and he has been a best friend my whole life.

But right after school ends, around the beginning of May, he totally disappears from my life and barely speaks to me that whole month. When I would be able to get a hold of him he sounded worn out and if I asked him if he wanted to come over and play 360 or something he'd always say he had to work. My other friends who came home from college for the summer would always call me about Poker like 3 or 4 times a week and say "Hey, why don't you invite Tom?" (I don't want to use his real name) I'd try and he'd always turn the invite down but he is about obsessed with Poker as I am so it was weird for him to do that.

Halfway into June I ask my sister, who baby-sits his older brother's kids during the week since his wife works as a Nurse during the midnight shift, "What's up with Tom? Is he depressed or something?" She tells me he is on coke, I wasn't exactly shocked because I knew he smoked weed from time to time and at parties liked to crack open Ecstasy pills and pour them into his beer. But I was like "What the hell?" Ya know? I heard the same thing from 4 other people who always were around him including his brother. Then I found out he had been fired from his job. His girlfriend, who has been dating since Sophomore year of high school, left him and moved to Pittsburgh.

I'm not like depressed about the situation but I just wondered if anyone had any advice on how to help him out? I have tried a couple times but to no avail. He is one of those people who thinks the world is out to get them, so that hasn't helped matters any either. I really don't know if he is even a friend anymore but I don't want to see the guy die.

Originally posted by Bardock42
Try to involve him with you more again. Maybe try to talk to him about it. In the end it's of course his decision.

That's my plan, hopefully it works. If it doesn't, maybe he'll realize one day that he needs help.