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Are the boys taking it off topic 😕

Anyway, the who is of the school of thought that being vengeful is necessarily self-destructive?

Originally posted by Bigon
Are the boys taking it off topic 😕

Anyway, the who is of the school of thought that being vengeful is necessarily self-destructive?

Would you mind rewording that phrase?

Well some people think that bearing malice, for whatever reason is self destructive and that counselling should help patients get over thinking that way.

Originally posted by Bigon
Well some people think that bearing malice, for whatever reason is self destructive and that counselling should help patients get over thinking that way.

If it's simple little jokes/visions, I don't see a problem.

However....I could see it being a case that needs to be handled, depeding on the level of destructiveness.

Certainly fixating on someone can be very negative, but people of different dispositions have different ideas as to whether they should hold resentment against an abusive parent etc.

Originally posted by Bigon
Certainly fixating on someone can be very negative, but people of different dispositions have different ideas as to whether they should hold resentment against an abusive parent etc.

Yes, but the problems with a child hating their abusive parent, believe it or not, the child is most likely to become that hated parent once they have kids, because they might even become abusive as well. It's best to get help if you can, to understand how certain aspects of parenting are best recommended, and not in abusive ways.

I think it takes a certain type of temperament to actually want to get rid of the baggage so completely as to stop feeling hatred about it.

Originally posted by SelphieT
Yes, but the problems with a child hating their abusive parent, believe it or not, the child is most likely to become that hated parent once they have kids, because they might even become abusive as well. It's best to get help if you can, to understand how certain aspects of parenting are best recommended, and not in abusive ways.

which is why i'll never have kids...

Originally posted by JaccArlington
which is why i'll never have kids...

Abusive parents as well? My mom only is. My dad's nice, I live with him now.

It's amazing how the desire for retribution against an abusive parent or guardian can grip the mind.

meh... the whole family sucks... father abandoned me, mom's a druggie, stepdad's abusive... brother gets treated like the Chosen One or something...

psychotic idiots... dunno why they bothered having me if they were gonna be that way...

and honestly... if it weren't for Tiff (my gf) i'd have probably already committed suicide...

*sits back in a chair, lighting a cigarette*

which, i think, all dates back to this one time when i was 4... i wanted to go to the zoo... *rambles on for a while...*

Suicide ideation is a huge issue as well. Alot of people can react in a hostile way when they see it in others.

er... sorry, didn't quite catch that... could you... simplify your terminology?

Some people react badly when other people are suicidal. They can be hostile and unhelpful

Originally posted by JaccArlington
meh... the whole family sucks... father abandoned me, mom's a druggie, stepdad's abusive... brother gets treated like the Chosen One or something...

psychotic idiots... dunno why they bothered having me if they were gonna be that way...

and honestly... if it weren't for Tiff (my gf) i'd have probably already committed suicide...

Some people just aren't responsible. I know the feeling. I'm really sorry about how things have worked out for you, its a good thing you have a nice girlfriend 🙂

Originally posted by SelphieT
Some people just aren't responsible. I know the feeling. I'm really sorry about how things have worked out for you, its a good thing you have a nice girlfriend 🙂

mmmmmmblahhhhhh

Selphie actually helped someone...

Originally posted by Scythe
Selphie actually helped someone...

Yeah, cause I never help humans, just the occasional goat.