What happens if you fall inlove with your bestfriend?

Originally posted by SpearofDestiny
To be Honest, I bet Devil King has had more sex than I have had (he is 26, I am 21), and he's admitted to me how promiscious he has been in the past.

Actually, I'm 28. And, if you'll recall, I followed that admission with a warning not to do as I did. It's stupid. And when coupled with the amount of drinking I was doing at the time, it was fu*king stupid.

Originally posted by SpearofDestiny
He's clean.

And I consider myself to be lucky.

Originally posted by SpearofDestiny
I doubt he uses a condom during oral sex.

No, I don't use a condom during oral sex. But, then again, I don't give head. Period. That's something that only happens inside a comitted relationship. The same with rimming.

Originally posted by SpearofDestiny
Again, I am not worried.

I did. I worried constantly. If you engage in wreckless behavior and don't feel worried after the fact, there's something wrong.

But I'm sure you aren't as cavalier as you present yourself.

Originally posted by anrev
you have a bestfriend(opposite sex), you've known each other for a year. That persons comforts you even not personally or physically is not there but he finds time communicating with you everyday. You both share secrets and exchange advices. You always have brainy arguments and have huge fights for a couple of times. But at the end of the day you have fix the problem and are best buddies again. many person knew you says your bestfriend is inlove with you but you tend to ignore it.

What will you do if its true?
what will you do if you yourself is questioning now do you have feeling for him or no?

Friends with benefits.

Why has Spearofdestiny been allowed to hijack this thread, with most probable lies.

Originally posted by chillmeistergen
Why has Spearofdestiny been allowed to hijack this thread, with most probable lies.

Any thread that's about relationships or sex, he'll turn into his own personal phallic gallery.

Originally posted by Devil King
But I'm sure you aren't as cavalier as you present yourself.

Not really, but I have been irresponsible to some degree. The only reason I relax is because my freinds have said they have done pretty much the same thing(s), but after getting tested discovered they were clean.

I don't think it's how many people you mess around with, I just think it's what you actually do with each person that matters.

Originally posted by anrev
you have a bestfriend(opposite sex), you've known each other for a year. That persons comforts you even not personally or physically is not there but he finds time communicating with you everyday. You both share secrets and exchange advices. You always have brainy arguments and have huge fights for a couple of times. But at the end of the day you have fix the problem and are best buddies again. many person knew you says your bestfriend is inlove with you but you tend to ignore it.

What will you do if its true?
what will you do if you yourself is questioning now do you have feeling for him or no?

If one isn't willing to risk that, then discuss with your best friend why you can't be with them.

Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

i went out with mine, didnt work out so well

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
if you are best friends with someone then decide to take it to the next level, to a romantic relationship, odds are that IF things go sour in the romantic relationship, you can NEVER go back to being friends. I speak from experience.

And that outcome is almost always inevitable. In fact, the best way to burn bridges with your friend is to "take it to the next level". I also speak from experience, homes.

Originally posted by Quiero Mota
And that outcome is almost always inevitable. In fact, the best way to burn bridges with your friend is to "take it to the next level". I also speak from experience, homes.

funny how if that has never happened to a person, they think that IF things dont work out they can go back to being best friends. I lost a great friend named Kristine years ago when we did this. we tried in vain to be a couple. the sex was phenonomal, but we already knew each other so well we were like bro and sis. made it weird, you know?

and when we decided to go back to being best friends, the damage was already done. DAMN I miss having her to hang out with.

sigh. go for it if ur on the same page and you feal pationately enough about her/him. didnt turn out so well for me. but then again, the damage to a friendship is done if both partiea allow it. furthermore, i really dont think its possible to be COMPLETELY friends with the opposite sex when ur that close. u mostly do have emotions one way or another. love has many ways of expressing itself outside just lust. in short, go for it, but MAKE SURE YOU DONT LOSE HER!

its very rare that there is zero sexual tension between opposite sex friends.

The problem is, if feelings are known, it's "weird" either way.

For one thing you both know that there's a more than platonic tension on at least one end, so even if nothing happens it MAY not necessarily be the same anymore. If it does go ahead and fails, things may be weird when you try to be friends again.

I think that's the main problem, though. People TRY to be friends after instead of just letting it either happen or not happen.

-AC

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
The problem is, if feelings are known, it's "weird" either way.

For one thing you both know that there's a more than platonic tension on at least one end, so even if nothing happens it MAY not necessarily be the same anymore. If it does go ahead and fails, things may be weird when you try to be friends again.

I think that's the main problem, though. People TRY to be friends after instead of just letting it either happen or not happen.

-AC

You knee-deep in pussy player, you.

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
if you are best friends with someone then decide to take it to the next level, to a romantic relationship, odds are that IF things go sour in the romantic relationship, you can NEVER go back to being friends. I speak from experience.

Not fair to say. I went out with one of my best friends for a long time and it didn't work out BUT we're still great friends.

Originally posted by Critic
Not fair to say. I went out with one of my best friends for a long time and it didn't work out BUT we're still great friends.

LOL@Urizen: "I didn't swallow!"

Okay, because that's really going to protect you from any number of other STDs.

SOUNDS LIEK A GR8 PLAN!

(Also, considering the low incidence of HIV being transmitted by oral sex, it's not much of a precaution.)

Originally posted by Zeal Ex Nihilo
LOL@Urizen: "I didn't swallow!"

Okay, because that's really going to protect you from any number of other STDs.

SOUNDS LIEK A GR8 PLAN!

(Also, considering the low incidence of HIV being transmitted by oral sex, it's not much of a precaution.)

It's hard to make a statement in this thread without someone assuming they're right. It couldn't be further from the truth.

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
what end were you on? I mean did you do it, or did your ex do it? I have been on both. although when I did it, I was single.

funny how if that has never happened to a person, they think that IF things dont work out they can go back to being best friends. I lost a great friend named Kristine years ago when we did this. we tried in vain to be a couple. the sex was phenonomal, but we already knew each other so well we were like bro and sis. made it weird, you know?

and when we decided to go back to being best friends, the damage was already done. DAMN I miss having her to hang out with.

I've been on both ends, and it always seems like a good idea at first, but it always ends in disaster. The reason it seems like a good idea, is because you already know eachother, so there's no akward "getting to know you" phase, especially if you've been friends for a while. But that also works against the relationship, porque you already know them, things get old fast, and when the relationship goes to shit it's practically impossible to go back to being buddy-buddy.

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
its very rare that there is zero sexual tension between opposite sex friends.

Now, I wouldn't say that. I have, and have had, female friends who I wouldn't touch with a ten-foot pole.

Originally posted by Quiero Mota

Now, I wouldn't say that. I have, and have had, female friends who I wouldn't touch with a ten-foot pole.

probably because they're ugly.

now how about hot female friends.