Originally posted by Atlantis001I don't believe so, because I believe that all emotion is a result of instinct. To add to the biological reasons why loneliness and rejection cause emotional distress, I argue that there is an instinctual need amongst all living things to reproduce. If one is rejected or left alone for a long period of time, the subconcious mind interprets those things as being undesirable, therefore deceasing the chances of reproducing. This causes emotional distress.
But why people need to feel desirable ? Is there a way to answer that without making reference to our instincts or its biological significance ?
I don't believe that the human body, or mind was made to be alone. This life is and can be brutal. There was a study done on infants that were not held very much vs those that were, and on average, they found that the ones that weren't, grew up to be less social, unfruitful, and even at times suicidal. Priests are a good example, as to why we shouldn't be alone for too long. I believe that being celibate for too long would do more damage than good.
I think it is part of human nature to fear being lonely and or rejected, I myself don't really care for rejection probably because I haven't been rejected by the right person yet, but being lonely on the other hand, I fear the most, no matter how much I tell myself that I don't need the people who love me, I still have the sanity to know that I need them
Originally posted by Atlantis001We can fear many things like rejection, loneliness, humiliaton, pain or losing our lives, but what exactly we fear?
Is fear about losing something? I mean, in a situation like rejection or loneliness. What we could possibly lose from these situations? There is no life risk, no real danger. So why do we fear it?
By an evolutionary perspective, we could say that these fears are related to survival. So we could say that we fear loneliness, for example because it is more probable for us to survive if we live in group. But I believe this provides more an answer to what is the function of these fears in nature, then to what those fears are about.
So what I am really asking is, for example, when we are in a situation where we could be rejected, or when we become aware of the possibility of being rejected or being alone, why we feel fear if there is no real danger? Why do we fear it?
Human "fear" is a response to our environment (dictated by our neuro patterns) set during early development. For many, fear is attributed to job interviews, taking another chance at love, riding a roller coaster, facing sin, joining the Army, handling a spider or even working at McDonalds for the rest of your life. The list goes on and on. The bottom line is, we perceive these various things as painful - emotionally and/or physically. And so... we fear them. "Pain" is the motivator behind fear.
With all in mind, some fears are irrational, while others aren't. For example, some people fear flying, and yet, these same people commute in automobiles daily. Statistically speaking, your most likely to get into a car accident before getting into an airplane crash. In other words, it's more safe to travel by plane than by car, ha ha! And yet, some people still fear the idea of flying. It's a funny thing how the human mind works, but not really. It's human psychology.
We fear having absolutely nothing. Society today dictates that we need no rejection and no loneliness in order to live. And in doing so we believe that these could mean almost everything. People can live without friends. People can live without having "yes" said to them. Because you do have something... You have you.
i speak from experience.
Because when I get rejected, I feel like crap/hurt. The girl that I like doesnt like me. Then I get over it and find another girl that may like me.
I dont fear loneliness. As of now I am at a Friend w/Sexual Benefits pseudo girlfriend relationship. I only fear loneliness when I have no Friend with benefit.
because a sexless incel life is a painful painful frustrating life to live.