Originally posted by Rogue JediThank you. 😊
sometimes it works out, good for you. 😉
Originally posted by Rogue JediExactly.
It will indeed be a risk, but you have to look at it both ways, maybe you will get out of it what SL did.
And daudemon said it right. There is nothing better then your lover/partner also being your best friend.
Of course it doesnt always work out. If you go for it.. maybe you can remain friends.. only you know her Spoony and can figure this one out.
Originally posted by Shelbert LemonI'd like to think that we could and would stay friends if anything were to happen and fail.
Thank you. 😊Exactly.
And daudemon said it right. There is nothing better then your lover/partner also being your best friend.
Of course it doesnt always work out. If you go for it.. maybe you can remain friends.. only you know her Spoony and can figure this one out.
Originally posted by Rogue JediI'm not sure I understand what you're saying here... If you are in a relationship with someone and you're talking to female friend about it, it's bad how?
well, you have to remember that best friends tell each other everything, thats why they are best friends. Maybe I am biased, because I fell victim to this once, and was on the other end once also.
Originally posted by §P0oONYbecause the risk of having feelings for the best friend are increased, because you develop a bond with that best friend that rivals/supercedes the bond you share with your partner, therefore sometimes feeling inclined to take it to the next level.
I'm not sure I understand what you're saying here... If you are in a relationship with someone and you're talking to female friend about it, it's bad how?
Originally posted by §P0oONYTalk to her about it and see what she is thinking.
I'd like to think that we could and would stay friends if anything were to happen and fail.
Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
this brings up the subject of having opposite sex best friends while in a relationship with another person......risky or no?
Originally posted by Rogue JediI have one true best friend and that is Justin.I have a few other people (male and female) I consider best friends outside of my relationship but they are on a totally different level.
well, you have to remember that best friends tell each other everything, thats why they are best friends. Maybe I am biased, because I fell victim to this once, and was on the other end once also.
Originally posted by Rogue JediIf you have an open and honest relationship with your partner then you can talk to him/her and let them know you were having those 'straying' feelings.
because the risk of having feelings for the best friend are increased, because you develop a bond with that best friend that rivals/supercedes the bond you share with your partner, therefore sometimes feeling inclined to take it to the next level.
Originally posted by Shelbert Lemon
If you have an open and honest relationship with your partner then you can talk to him/her and let them know you were having those 'straying' feelings.
...and if you were having those feelings for someone other then your partner, that should be a clue that something isnt right in your relationship.
Right.
I told my wife yesterday that I had planned on marrying her best friend after I got off my Mormon mission. I told my wife because I felt that it was her right to know when we started talking about stuff like that and that I USED to have serious feelings for her best friend.
NOTE: I did not know my wife until WELL after I decided not to get with this first lady.
Originally posted by §P0oONYHey man, if you really like her in that way, go for it. But like RJ said, don't endanger your friendship in case she doesn't ultimately feel the same way.
I'm so goddamn confused I wouldn't;t even mind the advice of your average KMCer.... Well.. I've liked this girl (Lou) for quite a while and she knows it because we've talked about it... Tonight she was really quite upset, I comforted her, as a friend, with no intentions in mind... In the regular friendship way... It so happened that we kissed later the same evening, when she was in a slightly more jolly mood... and it wasn't in your regular way, we kissed as more than friends, it was brief yet I know we both felt it.... After though we both instantly started talking to people of the other sex, in more than a friendly way... I don't understand it, the second I act more than a friend to the girl I like I go and do more with someone that wasn't even involved and I feel nothing for. I just don't understand it at all... Maybe it's because I don;'t wan't to jeopradise a thing we already have, that I cherish so dearily.. Our friendship. ( In know corney right?)What do you guys think? Where do I stand?... Not trying to sound emo or attention seeking so you can cut that crap right now.
Originally posted by §P0oONYYour typing is quite stable when drunk, I'd just like to note.
I don't even remember making this thread.... Jesus I was drunk last night. I think I'm just going to let things play out for a while, see what happens.
Originally posted by Shelbert LemonEXACTLY. some people have no sense of loyalty and will cross that line with no regards of what it does to their current relationship.
Talk to her about it and see what she is thinking.
If the feelings are mutual and genuine then there is no reason not to give it a go.
If you have enough respect for each other, and for some unseeable reason it doesnt work out, then maybe you can remain friends.I have one true best friend and that is Justin.I have a few other people (male and female) I consider best friends outside of my relationship but they are on a totally different level.
It is possible to have friends that close outside of your reationship.
Its up to you not to cross the line. 😖