~The Wickerman~
The Evanghelist
Originally posted by Bardock42
That is totally illogical. That someone does something extreme under extreme circumstances does in no way mean they would do something extreme under normal circumstances.
I guess maybe I didn't express myself properly. The "OTHER circumstances" from my post meant other extreme circumstances, didn't mean normal circumstances. What I meant to say (which I then reinforced with following posts) was that committing suicide because you are being discriminated against means you cause you're gay, means you would probably also commit suicide if you are being discriminated against for being poor, homeless, etc.
Originally posted by Bardock42
The "oh noes life's too hard, I'm gonna take the easy way out" obviously exist, but they are not necessarily the same as the ones that choose suicide under extremely stressful situations.
I group them together, because I think what someone considers "an easy time" someone else considers "stressful situation". As such, I'm pretty sure ALL suicide victims do it under stressful conditions. Sitting on the side and watching and saying "well he had MORE stressful conditions than the other guy" is useless for me. They both committed suicide, so they're both trying to get an easy way out.
Originally posted by Bardock42
Besides, suicide is not the "easy way out" or only for "cowards". That's a ridiculous mindset that has develope in our societies to deal with the fact that some people just really like to check out early. Doug Stanhope got a quite funny bit on it, with truth in it, suicide is hardly easy.
Going through life IS hard. Putting a fckin bullet in your head is easy. End of story. Committing suicide = pushing the "quit" button.
Originally posted by Bardock42
Yeah, well, that's incorrect though. Since gays, at least nowadays still, have to deal with a much bigger stigma.
I was gonna chew your ass off for this, but then I did some digging, and spent a few hours reading statistics and you can find the end result at the end of my post.
Originally posted by Bardock42
Another thing is that you may be the only gay in your family or even community, that doesn't happen with poor or black or hispanics that much. And if it happens with blacks or hispanics, chances are your mom or dad don't fundamentally hate blacks or hispanics since they obviously screwed the brains out of one or more.
You do realize you're arguing for segregation and separatism right? Put all the whites with the whites, the black with the blacks, and the gays with the gays. That way, we're all happy, and we all have our own happy communities. That's bullcrap. If your family is understanding and loves you no matter what, more power to you and your family. If your family doesn't understand you or ostracizes you for being gay, move the fck out. There are organizations ready and willing to help.
Originally posted by Bardock42
No, because it still is the same thing. Why should some dude be insulted all the time because some people decided that his lifestyle is wrong? Really, if we are saying it's not wrong to be systematically persecuted, why should we consider someone killing themselves and holding traffic by it as wrong?
Because I, did not persecute "random dude X" and cause him to jump off a fckin bridge or cause a pile up or whatever, and yet I am suffering. And I am suffering, indirectly because of society's fault, and DIRECTLY because that dude caused a pile-up. What you are saying is as silly as:
A pick-up truck drives by leaving a huge trail of smoke. As a result, I cough for 20 minutes straight. You come along saying "well it's our fault as society that we allow gas chuggers like that to be driven in the first place. I say "no, because I didn't vote for pick up trucks to be legal, and I sure as fck didn't tell the guy driving it to drive past me while leaving a trail of smoke. And now I'm suffering cause that guy is a prick who leaves a trail of smoke and decided to drive past me." While you keep insisting it's everybody's fault, not his.
Originally posted by Bardock42
Personally I find both wrong, but since you don't think them being excluded and basically emotionally (and sometimes physically) tortured is such a big deal, I don't think you can with any reason claim that they should not involve anyone from the outside in their suicide. I don't see the justification for the one vs. the other, you understand?
Because I also face discrimination on several fronts, perhaps not AS bad as the gay dude, but either way, I ignore it, and keep on going with my life. Whereas while I ignore discrimination and keep on going, he doesn't, and decides to cause a pile-up, in which I (who did not emotionally or physically torture him) am now involved.
Okay, now that that's out of the way, I'll address a previous quote of yours:
Originally posted by Bardock42
Yeah, well, that's incorrect though. Since gays, at least nowadays still, have to deal with a much bigger stigma.
I would really like to know where you got this information that they face bigger stigma from. However, I'm pretty sure it's just a personal opinion based on something you either watched or read that had sufficient shock value to impress you. What I CAN tell you, is just like what Red Nemesis said, that the numbers don't lie:
http://www.fbi.gov/ucr/hc2007/table_07.htm
That's for 2007.
Now according to THIS there were about 40.7 million african americans in the US in 2007, which means the percentage of hate crime victims vs. total number of african americans = 0.008% . Unfortunately, this is impossible to do for homosexuals however, as there is no clear data on how many homosexuals there are in the US (other than horrible estimates).
Unfortunately, until next year, when the next US census will contain more specific questions on sexual preference, and hopefully people will open up slightly more, there cannot be hard numbers thrown around on PERCENTAGES of victims vs. total population.
But what you CAN notice by looking at that hate crime table right now is that anti-homosexual hate crimes are still leagues behind those against races and religions.
So I still don't get where you came up with the "much bigger stigma", and even IF that became true somehow (which it's not), how would that justify suicide again?